My father needs to go into long term care. I have been looking for a facility that would be just as nice as his assisted-living community. Was I in for a surprise! The majority of facilities I have visited, do not have private rooms. One facility even had 3 people in one room, no bigger than my bedroom at home.They all had one bathroom and one closet to share. So the shocker......the cost. The cost IS DOUBLE the amount he pays for his assisted living. How can that be for a shared room, bathroom, closet, noise, visitors, etc....This has truly been a wake up call. My options for him are slim and none. Any comments or suggestions?
But the biggest "confuzzlement" seems to be the OP "why are the costs beyond what is affordable?" If I had it my way, a senior could simply move into this nice 1 BR asst living place in their same neighborhood, get 3 homecooked meals a day, and all the assistance they would ever need, until the day they died, AND it would cost exactly what they were paying before entering the asst living. But it just isn't that way.
Along with the sticker shock, and because of the immense fear associated with not having enough money to pay one's bills (some people do care about this, even these days) the natural routes to deal with this emotion is to get mad, get depressed, or get "smart" and call a lawyer to "make it" so that you somehow escape having to pay.
And then there are people who spent all their money, didn't save, and expect the government to put them next door to them in the nice AL, and there is quite a LOT of righteous indignation, among the middle classed, that your next door neighbor is getting that nice AL for free, when you sacrificed & scrimped to "do the right thing"?
For me, whether for-profit or nonprofit, did not seem to make a difference as the staffing costs are just there whatever way the facility is legally. How a building looks or its age does not seem to make a difference in quality of care. My mom's NH #2 was the least visually nice building but the level of care and continuity of staff was great. The DON (director of nursing and the goddess & ruler of all) and her two assistants had been there a decade plus as most of the other staff was too and there was maybe 1/3 of the RN were male (former military medics) - staff seemed to like working there.
You are going to have your work cut out to do the Medicaid paperwork. You also can do the VA for your dad - now since he is in a NH he can't get VA's Aid & Attendance (that only for when at home, IL or AL) but he can get the extra VA personal care stipend. I think it's $ 100. So he will have that and then whatever your state has set for it's PNA (personal needs allowance) from his income paid to the NH as his "spending money". One decision is whether you want these to go into a personal trust account at the NH (so the NH gets his monthly checks) OR that you have his income go into his bank account and you pay the facility his required copay (the SOC - share of cost) and therefore his bank account increases each month by the PNA and the VA stipend. Once you do this either way, it's hard to change back so think carefully about what system works best for you all. For me, I paid the facility as I live out of state and when I would come in the business office would likely be closed so it would be had to do withdrawals from mom's NH trust account, plus I'd rather be able to build up her PNA so I could do a bigger spending trip every 3 mos or so to replace clothing and lotions. Do what works best for you.
Igloo572: I caught the Soylent Green reference and laughed out loud!!!!! A GREAT movie. My husband hand never seen it and was shocked at what really happens to the old people. I pray it never comes to that.
Think of the returning Vets after the Vietnam war, and now from the "conflicts" - 2 major banks began to offer assistance and developed programs to integrate them into the work force; more attention is being given that aspect now. The VA is stepping up its efforts to identify at risk Vets. But there are still mental and physical health issues as well as employment issues. There are problems that are going to require participation and support from a lot of sectors.
In perspective, I think there have been so many changes in our society since the Civil War, through the Industrial Revolution and periodic wars and conflicts that the problems created by change exist before adequate solutions can be instituted. This is a broad stroke conclusion, but I think that might be what's happening with the growing older population and extended longevity.
We're still trying to figure out solutions that work for the families and caregivers and battle through the myriad problems that arise. I sometimes view it as wading through mud, sometimes finding a dry, solid spot, and other times wondering when we will, if ever, find solid ground on which new solutions can be created that are in fact cost effective and preserve the dignity, sanity, health and other aspects of all involved.
NJCinderalla - brings up a very important point…location, location, location. Making 100K & living in Mississippi puts one in the 5%, but in NYC that is poverty level to afford to live in Manhattan. For Medicaid, some states have the house value limit (to qualify) significantly higher @ 750K/850K to take into account property values on the coasts; while most states have the value set at 500K to qualify. In many areas, a mortgage of 3K - 4K a month is standard. Where I am in New Orleans, it's a sellers market as there just flat is no real inventory in the desired neighborhoods. Prices are high, homes that would have sold in 2009 for 300K are now 1M and that's about $ 3,700 a mo mortgage. Our lot sizes are going to be maybe 2K sq ft house on 4000 sq ft lot size/3,700 sq ft on 7000 sq ft lot size.
A 10,000 sq ft home with 2K mortgage would be a huge, very low-grade cheap home out in some remote area for where I'm at. Location makes a difference.
dragonflower - "what will we do with all the old people", well personally I like the Sol Roth approach (Soylent Green). The public policy issues the oncoming tsunami of baby boomers needing a facility will present is going to be not pretty in the US.
I'd put a case of Prosecco that: - the look back will be extended to 10 years & all states will outsource Medicaid applications (much like what states are doing for MERP with having HMS & PCG be the outside contractor), so it's going to be even harder & more documentation driven by the applicant to qualify. Current law allows for a 10 year look-back span but it's too unwieldily for state workers to do but not for the big data mining companies to do this; - Medicaid income limit will be really held back, so that for those boomers who are getting a nice SS & retirement check will never, ever qualify for Medicaid as they -even if a couple- make just too much retirement. For my mom, who died in her 90's, she got about 800 in SS as when dad worked it was in the 1950's- 1960's when wages were low, many at mom's NH that were her age got SS of only $ 500 a month; now a huge # of retirees get the 3K max allowed by SS as they worked in the 1980's - 2000's when wages were so much higher & they aren't going to qualify for Medicaid without doing a QIT or long term planning; if there isn't a real safety net for the aged available and once folks start realizing this, there will be no incentive to save if you going to end up in a shared room at a NH.
What I think the smarter $ is going to do is move out of the US to age but be someplace where its a plane ride back to Medicare paid for hospitals & health care. I see it every day where I live in New Orleans with the long existing program that Oschner Hospital (Brent House) has with Latin America. Houston & San Antonio health science centers have similar systems for those going back & forth from living in Mexico but come back for health care needs. Banks totally know how to deal with moving funds via swift/bic so there's little glitches with US income. Cost of living is so much lower in so many places that it can make total sense to live outside the US for those who can be multicultural even on a modest retirement. The undercurrent now in the US, to me, is that we are on the cusp of another "gilded age" where you are either truly wealthy (have $ whether or not you work) or you are poor & a tiny band of well educated upper middle class. It is not going to be pretty.
One of the reasons that the federal gov't is now starting to look into this is because it is affecting their income - taxes. One out of 4 people are caring for an aging relative when they could be employed and paying taxes. This is putting more people in poverty and the gov't is losing its tax base of payers.
It has taken years of poor bureaucratic decisions and a lack of foresight (denial?) to get us to this critical juncture. Joining AARP may help a bit as they provide people over 50 with lobbyists in Congress that could bring about changes to Medicare benefits. But any changes will take years to implement. This is going to get worse before it gets better.
"Much more human. People were not given services based on what they could pay for. Not perfect but much better"
You make some good points about profit vs. nonprofit systems, but there are other sometimes intractable issues as well in moving to a nonprofit system, presumably government funded.
Look at the outcry and hostility against the Affordable Care Act when Obama tried to institute a health care system that would be available to everyone. An egalitarian concept was met with intense hostility by some segments of the legislature.
Opponents are still sending out propaganda soliciting funds to battle against the concept. I've seen this solicitations; they're rhetorical and disgusting.
In addition, I would argue that people who are medically served based on what they can pay for is in itself harsh and cruel. Should a poor person be denied emergency service because he/she can't pay for it, while a wealthier person could in fact get such a service?
Think it over - health care based on ability to pay is draconian. There are already too many examples of people suffering because they lack the funds for treatment. Read some of the stores in AARP Bulletin to get an idea how people are still suffering because they can't afford treatment, especially for health conditions that are phenomenally expensive.
It's not my intent to criticize or provoke, or to take what you wrote out of context, but rather to raise specific questions about your conclusions.
The whole system is a mess - and I don't know what the solution is. In general, however, nursing homes are much better than they were 50 years ago because they are highly regulated. I've visited several in recent years and they are so "nice" compared to the ones I saw when I was a youth and visiting relatives there. I think sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of what a "nursing home" is supposed to be like. In many ways, a NH is a bit like a long-term care hospital with semi-private rooms and different staff members performing different functions.
In the past, it was not the rosy situation people like to believe. Not everyone was taken in my relatives and cared for. Some were left to die in their own excrement - because they had no living relatives, or none that cared. Some wandered off into the woods and died of exposure or dehydration.
We all criticize the current system.....but I have yet to see any real solutions offered to the problem. Things will only get worse as people continue to outlive their own life expectancy due to advances in medical science. What will we do with all of these very old people?
When flu was identified "on-site" @ the AL, as their R.N. told me, they requested Mom's doctor authorize an antibiotic ("Z-Pack")for her. Two days later, they requested (and received) authorization for Tamiflu. My mother has a history of serious adverse reactions to meds - and the pharmacist warned me to watch her closely for "any neurological disturbances", which should be "immediately reported" to her doctor. Sure enough, 2 days later she was complaining that "there's something wrong with my head!". The Dr. ordered "D/C the Tamiflu". In response, the nursing staff FAX'd the Dr. "Why?" - but the Dr. had left for a 3-day wk-end! Therefore, the Tamiflu was continued!? By the Dr's. return, Mother was absolutely incoherent and disoriented, "out-of-touch"!! Only gibberish came out of her mouth. It was horrible, absolutely gut-wrenching. (For your own information, just look up the side-effects, and LIMITED VALUE of Tamiflu! I looked it up and brought it to the R.N.'s attention. She said she was previously unaware of the data!).
While the AL facility, the Dr., and even the hospital tried to justify other causes for Mother's condition, I kept encouraging her not to give up when she said "I just want to die". I'd seen her reactions and recovery from being over-medicated before, and so kept encouraging her with, "You'll feel better, Mom, when you get these meds out of your system." A retired R.N. friend helped me console and comfort her, as well as feed her so she could regain some strength. As the meds wore off, she DID feel better and became Mom again! Again, she was as spunky and sharp as always - astonishing everyone she encountered - except me. I was just relieved, and ever so grateful she'd made it through once again. Hallelujah!
With the help of 2 attorneys, we got her out of there! I gave up the last of my Substitute Teaching and took her home with me, where I became her 24-hour CareGiver. My only sibling died long ago, and my family is grown and gone, so it was just Mom and me. We had many enlightening, provocative, funny conversations; a 99th birthday party with her church friends; Bible study, church on Sunday; shopping trips; meals out - and memories (and pictures!) to fill my heart. When, after a heart attack, she became bed-ridden - friends came to visit, and Hospice became part of our life. All were amazed @ her interesting, meaningful conversation. I slept in a recliner by her bed to respond to the necessary commode assistance she required or her calls with "I'm thirsty.". I was finally using just an eye-dropper of water to ease her thirst.
Yes, I was short on sleep at times, constantly on call with the bell I gave her to summon me, and pretty much house-bound. But I do not regret any of it. I am grateful that I had her here with me until the day she died. She was again on her own turf, among her "old" friends, and in the care and company of someone who really knew and loved her.
I hope readers will join me in advocating for funding for Caregiver Assistance Programs through Area Agency on Aging. This was a big help to me by providing several hours a week of Caregiving Assistants. Support for In-Home care will be far less costly than the for-profit corporations that Assisted-Living facilities have become. Veterans' funding has now become one of their primary targets for getting Veteran residents. And, yes, they even use their own related pharmacies to boost profits for all the medications they provide residents. These pharmacies charge as much as 10 times the price Costco or Wal-Mart charges for these same meds! These facilities should not be so-connected, since it incentivizes excessive use of meds for their residents!
Please contact your Legislators on these important issues, and INFORM YOUR FRIENDS and FAMILY!
This has been a time-consuming lengthy response, but contains heartfelt messages I hope readers will sincerely think about, consider, share, and hopefully - even act upon!
What is the point in taking routine medications that may prolong our lives just so we can live in a care facility or be a burden to our families. It makes no sense. When I can no longer live on my own, it's time for me to go and the sooner the better. I would like to leave this earth knowing that I had a good life and was not a burden on my family or society. Until modern medicine can guarantee me a quality of life to match the quantity of life it can give me palliative care sounds like a very reasonable choice for me.
This reminds me of a movement I discovered a little over 10 years ago. At that time it was called the Eden Alternative, or it might have been the Eden Initiative.
I did check out one facility practicing this and was very, very disappointed. Although the principles of integrating pet activity and other helpful practices were in existence, it was county run (by a wealthy county) and was desperately depressing. I couldn't wait to get out of there.
Perhaps the movements have changed; it's worth investigating.
Once all of us early baby boomers are on very long waiting list to get into retirement villages, assisted living facilities, memory care facilities, nursing homes, etc. I hope we will see a fury of new construction of such places.
I know in my area, they can't build 55+ communities fast enough. Those 55+ residents [55 to 90] will need to go to another layer of care within the next 10-20 years. There are many of us who never were blessed with children, so we will need to pay our way for hands on care.