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92.5 year old mom has wounds on both her legs now, pain is getting worse, although first leg has been healing well almost two years since it started. Pain in leg #2 is excruciating at times, she didn't have a stent put in that one. Currently she takes .25 to .5 mg Oxy on her wound care days three days a week. It's hard to see in her in so much pain. She has been on hospice 7 mos now, still walks a little with the walker, sleeps a lot more past couple months. No real co-morbidities, no dementia. We just don't know what to expect, I asked the hospice nurse and she said my mom could actually get better.

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If your mom is on hospice, why are pain meds doled out so sparingly??? The whole purpose of hospice is keep mom comfortable. I suggest you speak to the RN about doing so immediately. Whether she gets better or not is irrelevant. She's 92+ yrs old and in bad pain. Hospices job is to fix that.
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She should be having a woundcare nurse looking at her. And the oxy, can be given more often. No one on hospice should be in pain. Thats the whole purpose of hospice,to keep the person comfortable.
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I hate to bring this up, to say this but I feel like I need to. I used to be a nurse and I decided I'd rather be a certified home health aide. (CHHA)

One patient of mine: elderly female on hospice. Her son and daughter did not know I had worked as a nurse for many years before and neither did this hospice. Patient's son and daughter were talking one day how their mother was constantly in great pain and had not slept in 3 days. She had just gotten some morphine they said about 20 minutes ago and she was still in great pain. I heard them saying that it looked like such a small amount of morphine in those syringes, like a drop. That's when I let the kids know that I had been a nurse and would they mind if I looked at the morphine. I looked in the refrigerator and found the morphine bottle and the syringes of morphine. On the bottle, the prescription was written each dose to be given was 0.5 ml of morphine but in the syringes was 0.1 ml. I told, showed the son and daughter. They said they had asked the two RNs on this case about this, telling these 2 RN's that it seemed like such a small amount and their mother was still in pain. He said both RN's told them that what was in the syringes was correct! !!!!

My conclusion? It looked like two RN's were stealing the morphine.

They gave her 0.4 ml of morphine since she had gotten 0.1 ml just before I had arrived. They gave it to her and within minutes she was sound asleep and obviously out of pain.

People get into the medical profession for the wrong reasons... to steal drugs. I have run into too many nurses that are dishonest, lazy, doing horrible things to patients and also to us caregivers. Trying to get me to do their job!!!!
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CaringWifeAZ Feb 6, 2026
That is so unfortunate.
My husband told me his EX-wife, who was a nurse manager in a care home, would steal patient medications, and take them home for her own use, or to sell to friends. That was only one of her many flaws, and lies. He divorced her.
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Talk to the RN about this. We also had a MD or PA come around from hospice every so often. Talk to the hospice MD or Mom's PCP about this.

You need to raise a ruckus about this.
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My mom, age 97 1/2, has dementia, congestive heart failure, and "pain." She previously received palliative care; now she's receiving hospice care. The primary goal of both these kinds of care has been to reduce mom's pain and this goal has been accomplished. My siblings and I are very grateful for this.
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Since she is in hospice care, you can ask them to bump up her meds so that she is comfortable. There is no need to worry for her to become addicted. She is suffering.
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Call the Hospice nurse and INSIST Mom needs more frequent pain meds, she is suffering and miserable. Tell them Mom is not making this up or has dementia.
Mom needs more pain meds than 3 times a week! She needs daily dose of Oxy now, to keep her comfortable and calm.

When Mom has sudden, intense pain, it is called "breakthrough pain" and is from not keeping a regular amount of DAILY pain meds in her system to prevent it. When she gets "breakthrough pain" it is very intense and hard to control. The amount she is taking now is a low dose and not lasting long enough in her system to prevent breakthrough pain.

Demand the Hospice Nurse talk to Doctor about increasing Mom's meds to daily doses, since only three times a week has now become inadequate.

Granted Oxy has a bad reputation from so many people getting addicted the last 10 years, BUT now is not is not the time to make a 92 year old woman on Hospice suffer because of it! Mom needs a low dose like she gets now, just more than 3 days a week.
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MTNester1 Feb 6, 2026
Wise advice. Until I stepped in and starting managing my mom's medicine, she would wait until the pain was obvious. The hospice nurses and I kept telling her not to wait until she was in pain because it took her body longer to get relief if she didn't stay on scheduled pain relief.
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You may not have a proper hospice group looking out for your mom. Please give a bit more information so we can help you figure that out.
Being on hospice care is not to prevent someone from being well cared for.
Are you saying they only give her the oxy when they dress the wounds?
Perhaps you need to contact another hospice company to check out/compare her treatment with another company. They are not all the same.

People can be on hospice a long time and they can get better. Mom should not be in pain.
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Wound care nurses are the unsung goddesses of the medical profession. Your hospice people should send one or if not, try to access a wound care clinic in your local hospital. Steroidal anti-inflammatories can also be a little complicated here; if your mother is prescribed, say, prednisone, to reduce inflammation, which is common, that same med can slow healing. It is a little bit of a trade-off sometimes. Chronic wounds are very tricky to treat. Inadequate dressing protocols can increase pain; check to make sure that the caregivers are using the right wound dressing protocols for your mother's situation, and changing those dressings at close intervals. Big takeaway: wound care nurse and consult hospice team about pain management. Good luck!!!
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Animallovers Feb 6, 2026
I agree, wound care nurses are terrific! It really is an art.
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Hospice is supposed to be managing her pain! If their current treatment is not effective, let them know. They can also send a wound care nurse to attend to any open wounds. I had a wound care nurse coming to the home regularly to treat a skin condition my husband developed several months ago. She would clean and dress the wound and got a dermatologist to see him and prescribe medication to clear up the condition. It took a long time, but finally cleared up.

I'm confused about what exactly is causing your mother to be in excruciating pain. You say she takes Oxy on wound care days 3x a week. Does that mean a wound care nurse is treating her? And why is Hospice nurse not changing the meds to manage the pain better?

If the hospice nurse advised that this is a condition which could actually get better, then perhaps you need to take mom to a doctor that can advise appropriate treatment for the condition. Hospice will not offer treatment for disease, but only comfort/ pain management when you are no longer seeking life-saving treatment.
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