HAH-got your attention didn't I? First of all HOW DARE YOU??!! How dare you let a , as far you know, crazy faceless nameless poster on a forum EVER influence how you feel about yourself!!! Do not let any silly asinine statement on here EVER take away from who you know you are!!!!! You are all awesome! Now--why I am a better caregiver than you---
Because I am only part time. Yup. This last week(well actually the week before --it has taken me this long to recoup from my week) I had my Mom and I learned a very important thing--- I am a pretty good caregiver to her BUT mostly because I knew it was for a short time. Yes, I got her laughing and eating and I bathed her with much care and I smiled all week. And the entire time I was saying inside. 'this is only temporary, this is only temporary, this is only temporary....'
Now I am what I truly think of as a caregiver , to my girl but I am her Mom and so it is different. But you guys, YOU GUYS!!! You spouses and you children who are taking full time care of your loved ones -whether in your home or in an AL or NH ?!?!! Well, let me tell you , I would not be so smiley and not nearly so relaxed and not nearly as patient if I knew it was not temporary. I would not be nearly as "good" a caregiver if it was a permanent position. And I know this and I want to say how amazed and in awe I am of you all who do this full time.
And remember this--when your siblings or cousins or who-not come down and watch Mom or Dad for a day or even a week and say "why it was no problem! I don't know why you make it seem so hard" tell them to bite you! Because they were saying '. This is only temporary , this is only temporary , this is only temporary ....' in their heads whether they want to admit it or not.
((((hugs)))
Mishka
Hilarity Rules! It will keep you sane. When we laugh at absurdity, it gives a fresh perspective. You just have to be careful not to get hysterical, or you're back to whacko again! Heehee. Have fun:) xo
Ladde-sorry if my title startled you -(hee hee- no really, sorry -I was in an ornary mood).
Hi Christina! How are you???:0)
Laura, Wilma, Allison--you guys totally got what I was aiming for-yay.
Yaya-you always make me laugh-your visual of your MIL(MIL right ?) made ME get a visual !! :^0
All in all Mom and I had a good week. Sophie got very mad at her Papa when he came to take Nana back home--it really made my Mom feel good, I think, as she sometimes expresses that she feels like she has nothing to offer. She still drives me nuts with her bell ringing and her Requip but , again, "it was only temporary"
(((hugs))))
So glad most of you got my little thread. I really do think you full time caregivers are awe inspiring. Not that part timers don't do a lot either, just, well, it is different.
I gotta go back and read all your posts! BBL :0)
SharynMarie, I like that salad, too. Sometimes I add toasted walnuts with raspberries or strawberries, field greens, red onions, and a little gorgonzolla with the vinegrette.
Yum, drool. The aroma of pork shoulder with garlic, fresh oregano, kosher salt and cracked pepper is wafting thought the house... guacamole made and pico de gallo next.
All of you are much better caregivers than I, I'm sure:) xo
Captain, can you please freeze up any of your left-overs and ship to me?? It would be much appreciated :-)
I think most of our siblings won't let themselves "go there." Not even for a minute. Because then that means the guilt, and the need to help, will follow. So the caregivers go it alone.
Its what we do.
And captain, you need to teach me and bookluvr how to cook. ;D
Love you guys.
Thank you Mishka for the kind words you posted. Many of us NEVER receive kind words for the tasks we complete on a daily basis.
Have a GREAT day!
My siblings came when mom was dying. When they left, they all Conveniently Forgot how hard it is for me to deal with father. Out of sight, Out of mind.
I truly did enjoy your comment above. I will admit that I saw the title of your discussion earlier and had no incentive to read it. After I read your comments, I can see why you said it that way. But, I do think the title will turn off people from reading it. Too bad. I'm glad that you DID enjoy your mom. Soooo, when is the next time??? {{laughiing}}
sharynmarie, those clothespins are the squeezie-pinchie kind, right? Argh! Just got a visual of my MIL running through a sprinkler wearing nothing but her Lifeline necklace......**shudder!!**