I must first say that I tried to contact the administration with my concern, but apparently I must be blocked as when I clicked on the link, nothing happened.
Yesterday I commented on a post where the person used what I considered to be using God's name in vain when they used g*dd**n(it was spelled out completely)and the word **** in their question/post. As a Christian I take great offense to God's name being used in vain. And it remained unchanged even after I brought it to their attention.
And I only did as I have noticed over the several years that I've been on this forum that words like sh*t, h*ll, a*s and the like have always been changed with the the asterisk added(like I did in my post here)and to me those mild words don't begin to compare to using God's name in vain in my book anyway, yet they kept it unchanged.
And so I called them(Aging Care)out on it and said that if they were going to censor some of us they needed to be censoring ALL of us, and it wasn't right to pick and choose as it could interpreted as discrimination.
It was because of my comments apparently that I was removed from their email list, as I didn't receive the caregiver connection(when I had comments that were "liked" by others yesterday), last night, nor did I receive the Aging Care Forum email this morning that I get every morning.
I have been a good contributor over the almost 3 years I've been on here, and even though I don't come on a whole lot anymore(for varies reasons) the thought that what is supposed to be a legit forum to help caregivers who really need it, has now become "woke"(like so many other platforms) because they don't like being called out for being unfair, is disheartening to say the least.
I thought I still lived in America where I had freedom of speech, but apparently that only applies if someone agrees with what you're saying huh? It's not only sad but a shame that Aging Care has jumped on the "woke" bandwagon.
So to all of you folks who are still in the throes of caregiving, I wish you all the very best and will remind you to make sure that you're taking good care of yourselves while on this journey, as you matter too.
God bless you all.
As for your Christian values - people generally do take the time to modify their words so as not to offend and if they don't the moderators will do it for them, IMO expecting more than that is expecting too much. People who don't share your beliefs have to put up with constant posts about Christian values/virtues from certain members and they aren't ever deleted or even modified - tit for tat.
I did read your comment about the words that were used in the post. I reread the post and even the profile and did not see any swear words or taking God's name in vain so it must have been moderated by the time I saw the post.
I think what happens is that many write as if we were talking to someone and unfortunately language like that is so common.
I tend to overlook things like that but I understand your point of view and it is valid.
(side comment there though..freedom of speech goes both ways. I mean no disrespect in saying that)
Since this is open to all and I have read some posts/questions that I could barely understand either the post rambles on or grammar is not great, or the ones IN ALL CAPS SO IT LOOKS LIKE SOMONE IS YELLING and I try to ignore the parts that irritate me and get to the gist of the question or post.
And the fact that I am reading your post and commenting on it I doubt that you have been blocked.
As far as the "daily email" I do not get one daily it is maybe every 2 or 3 days.
I agree with cwillie, it probably was a glitch. The nightly news was abuzz with political news that it felt like all of the internet was stalling.
And you're right Grandma1954, freedom of speech does work both ways and that is why I was calling out Aging Care because they were censoring my words, and Loopyloo's, in our responses to this OP, yet kept the foul language in the OP.s post. It just didn't make any sense to me, as what is good for the goose should also be good for the gander right?
And freqflyer, this is not my internet stalling, as I received all my other usual emails. And surely you have heard of folks being banned from their Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram accounts for saying things that the left didn't agree with. That is all part of the woke culture we're now in, where only certain voices get to be heard for the purpose of their agenda.
This isn't really the forum to get too much into that, as there's much more in the woke culture as well that should concern all of us freedom loving Americans.
I'm calling it "woke" because after I shared my thoughts/concerns with Aging Care, I stopped receiving my usual emails from them that's all, and it is one of those things that makes you go hmmm.....
When you see someone using woke and it seems derogatory they're using it as an inept substitution for the term "politically correct".
I have never gotten an AgingCare email with anything every morning. There are more glitches here than anywhere else online, I have found. I seriously doubt you have been 'blocked' from anything here; what I think happened is there was a glitch when you 'clicked' on their email address which is why nothing happened.
FF: woke means 'educated or alert to injustice in society, especially racism'. What Cwillie has said is his or her interpretation of the meaning of that word, not reality.
Funky, don't quit the forum for a perceived slight which most likely isn't happening. Not being censored for the word you didn't like may have just been an oversight on ACs part; report it directly to the AgingCareCM username and see what they say. That's my suggestion.
And like clock work I do receive my daily emails from them without fail. The only time of course I don't receive the nightly one is if I haven't gotten any likes on my posts, but the morning one is in my inbox every single day.
I’m interested in language derivation, and I know that many if not most swear words have always had a religious root (it’s either that or sex). It really upset my very conservatively spoken husband to learn that Jiminey Cricket was relatively new way to avoid saying the initials. The very old Zoundz that you encounter in old writing was a contraction of God’s Wounds. And there are many many more in the centuries between.
Perhaps we have a new moderator who is hypersensitive. Or perhaps this was just a glitch. I can’t imagine anything I have done to offend sensitivities, and I’ve lost some emails too.
And MargaretMcKen, I do care when any disrespect is shown to anyone of any faith or religion. Disrespect of any kind is wrong. Period. You think that us Christians only care about other Christians? Really?
My point in this conversation is that if Aging Care is going to * out words they consider offensive they need to * out all offensive words and not just cherry pick them. That's all.
Thanks for bringing this to my attention. I've reviewed the original post you mentioned: https://www.agingcare.com/questions/what-does-one-do-when-the-abuser-is-the-elder-476468.htm
It seems the profanity was overlooked twice—upon initial moderation of this question and then again when you posted an answer attempting to alert the moderator. You're correct that aspects of this question violated AgingCare's guidelines, and I have edited it accordingly. I apologize that your concerns weren't addressed sooner. This was likely an innocent oversight, but I'll be following up with the moderating team about this incident.
As far as emails go, AgingCare has not blocked you or made any changes to your subscription preferences.
Funkygrandma59, MargaretMcKen, and anyone else who is experiencing email issues, I'd recommend checking your selections by navigating to your Profile > Settings > Subscriptions. You may want to check your email account's Spam and/or Junk folders for the missing emails as well. If this is a widespread occurrence affecting multiple members, we certainly want to know about it.
Please feel free to continue commenting here with details about these issues. You can also private message this account directly regarding these concerns and any others that may arise in the future.
Thank you all for your patience and ongoing support.
What difference does it make if people put (*) or spell it out? Good grief.
Can you private message me?
I am interested if any particular expletives are more helpful in relieving pain than others.
I have been in pain for more than two weeks, and nothing I have tried has worked for pain relief.
I see one study online:
Keele University psychologists have proven that using conventional swear words can increase your pain tolerance by 33% compared to using alternative language.
Dr Richard Stephens, Senior Lecturer in Psychology, and PhD researcher Olly Robertson carried out a study, published by Frontiers in Psychology, to identify whether repeating the fake swear words ‘twizpipe’ and ‘fouch’ could be as effective as uttering traditional swear words in helping to tolerate pain.
The research, funded by Nurofen, involved measuring the pain threshold of 92 participants who held their hands in an ice bath. The pain threshold was measured by timing how long it took them to begin to feel pain, and their pain tolerance was determined by how long they were able to keep their hands in the freezing water.
The study found that while saying ‘twizpipe’ and ‘fouch’ brought on emotional and humorous responses, they had little impact when it came to helping cope with pain, compared to using traditional swear words which induces stress-induced analgesia and increased pain tolerance by 33%.
Dr Stephens said: “This is the first study to assess whether novel ‘swear’ words have any pain relieving effects. They didn't, even though they were rated as being funny and emotion arousing. This new finding confirms that it's not the surface properties of swear words, such as how they sound, that underlie the beneficial effects of swearing, but something much deeper, probably linked back to childhood as we learn swear words growing up.”
For a while, I would use “butt” instead, but that’s a more explicit term.
I think if an Adminstrator was not happy with you, you would get email. And I agree the two words together are offensive. And take the Lords name in vain. But that is how I was raised and would get reprimanded if I said them in front of my Mom. So I am conditioned to cringe when I hear things like this.
My point and only point I was trying to make with my post was that if Aging Care was going to * out certain words thought to be offensive that they needed to * out all offensive words to be fair. And when I saw that that wasn't being done even after I reported said post, yet the explicative words I typed IN FULL were changed,(*added)and I stopped getting my daily emails from Aging Care, that's when I decided to create my post.
meanwhile, just to make us smile a bit, here are some funny quotes about swearing:
"You call them swear words. I call them sentence enhancers."
(warning, bad words coming up)
"The ****ening (noun). When your day is going too well and you don't trust it and some **** finally goes down. There it is, the ****ening."
"What's your best non-swearing insult? I hope you step on a Lego."
I just noticed I have not gotten my daily email since August 6. I always keep the last one just in case. Not getting them for days has happened before so will be reporting.
Funky, you say “I do care when any disrespect is shown to anyone of any faith or religion. Disrespect of any kind is wrong. Period. You think that us Christians only care about other Christians?” If you read the many letters of Paul, who wrote almost half of the New Testament without ever meeting Jesus in the flesh, you may be surprised at how much he doesn't care about non-Christians.
I think you are mixing up ‘disrespect’ to your own belief with ‘disrespect’ to a person. I have never read a mainstream (Christian) comment about Ganesh the elephant headed, or Kali the multi-armed (both Hindu deities) that came across as other than a disrespectful joke.
‘Disrespect of any kind is wrong’ – even with lying politicians of any party?