My 83 yr old father who vowed would never accept amputation ended up getting both legs amputated. Medical data does not give a good prognosis post major amputations due to peripheral arterial disease and diabetes.
My father passed away a month ago. I brought him the food he wanted, we watched some YouTube; I left his room perfect as he rested. I would never know that would be our last meal and time together.
Thank you to so many here.
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Simon
Take time to grieve and heal.
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And I'm glad that this forum was of help to you. I hope and pray that you will now take the time to care for yourself, and allow yourself time to grieve.
God bless you.
Medical data documents an extremely high mortality rate in these situations post amputation. There is no conclusive reason why.
The first amputation was an emergency situation after infection set in to one of his feet. They had removed one of his infected toes and he felt no pain.
Your foot is basically functionally dead but now just open to infection and sepsis.
The second amputation was to the leg that had the original sore to the ankle.
The vascular surgeon tried but said there is nothing more he could do. Again, you now have a functionally dead limb attached to you with a huge open wound.
I have never gotten over the amputation of his legs and the medical data suggests once a major amputation in this situation, we are already in a different kind of trouble.
I visited him every night as he refused nursing home food.
We would watch Anthony Bourdain on YouTube and I would massage him for better circulation including his two stumps.
I do have some lessons learned around MDs in a nursing home setting I will share to help others.
Thank you. ❤️
There is also sense of peace I cannot better describe.
I've been doing some consulting work and have been asked to join a board of directors at another firm.
There's always room for a kid to make his dad proud, right?
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Your dad was blessed to have you for a son.
May your future be bright and happy. Your dad is proud of you, remember that.
(((Hugs)))
I’m smiling at your Anthony Bourdain reference, as my dad’s last full meal with me was when we slipped away to a restaurant- no mom - and he ate a super cheesy enchilada and an ice cream Sunday.
Dad food creates the best memories sometimes.
Blessings again
Wishing you all the best moving forward.
Thank you for the update, and condolences on your loss. What a good son. 🌳
Those of us whose parents have not yet reached the nursing home stage, would benefit from your wisdom, when you are ready to share. 🙂
Thanks for the update. I am so glad that you found the AgingCare forum to be helpful. There are many wonderful people on this site who helped me as well.
I’m very sorry for the loss of your father. You will miss him. Cherish your fond memories and let go of anything negative.
Wishing you peace as you mourn the loss of your dad.