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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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My mother had vascular dementia and borderline personality disorder. Once living independently was too much for her, she moved into one ALF, then, another as she wasn't happy in the first one. I had made it clear ti her that moving in with me or me moving in with her was not an option. As the dementia progressed, and she refused to take meds, became paranoid, had delusions and finally was suicidal, she was placed in a geriatric psychiatric hospital until they did full assessments and finally she agreed to medication. After that she was placed in another ALF specializing in mental illness where she stayed for a couple of years until she needed a nursing home. Mother passed last December aged 106 having been in the NH for a little over a year.
You have to protect your own mental and physical health. It is not advisable for the child of an abusive parent do hands on care. I was mother's POA financial and health, but did it at a distance. I am now doing the job of executor and it can't be over soon enough.. ((((((hugs))))) This is a tough one!
My Mom refuses all and any meds and is living in her home with 24 hour care. Family members take turns on the weekends staying with her. She claims she does not want to be a burden but continues to constantly complain about non family member caregivers and now they are needing a day off mid week because Mom is so demanding. She won't bathe or allow anyone to help her take a shower, she stopped brushing her teeth over 3 years ago and refused to go to the dentist. Her primary doctor put her on Celexa 3 years ago and she took herself off of it. When I finally insisted that she see a dentist, she blamed me and him for the very poor condition of her teeth. I set up counseling for her (more than once) and she threw a tantrum when it came close to the time to go. She made our lives a living hell growing up because she was so unhappy and we were told to not upset her.
She is still very capable of manipulating certain situations but her logic is faulty because of Alzheimer's. I am most concerned for my brother because he is her favorite and she calls him constantly all hours of the day and night. She suddenly can't remember how to walk when he stays with her and she has to hold on to him for hours. When the non family members return after the weekend, she has no mobility issues. She has been miserable all of our lives and now when she really needs help, we are trying to cope with caring for her while not being consumed by her toxic nature. My siblings and I are supportive of each other and we try our best to protect ourselves from Mom's attempts to draw us into her negative world. I guess I am just trying to figure out how we can compassionately care for our Mother and not fall into the roles of the obedient, eager to please children (now adults) that we have struggled so hard to leave behind after all of these years. I have been told by two medical professionals that none of us should bring her into our homes to live and that we should not be her main caregivers. I tried to explain to her neurologist that Mom has so much more going on than just Alzheimer's and I tried to explain her BPD but he had no suggestions. It takes a total of at least 7 people to manage Mom. She calls the shots and when she does not get her way, she declairs the friendship you once had with her over and gives you the silent treatment! She did this regularly years before her Alzheimer's diagnosis. Lately, if she doesn't get her way, she suddenly doesn't know who we are. It is very confusing because where does the manipulation end and the Alzheimer's begin. The lines are blurred and it's hard to trust what you see. The Alzheimer's alone is overwhelming for all of us and the BPD just takes it to a whole new level.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You have to protect your own mental and physical health. It is not advisable for the child of an abusive parent do hands on care. I was mother's POA financial and health, but did it at a distance. I am now doing the job of executor and it can't be over soon enough.. ((((((hugs))))) This is a tough one!
She is still very capable of manipulating certain situations but her logic is faulty because of Alzheimer's. I am most concerned for my brother because he is her favorite and she calls him constantly all hours of the day and night. She suddenly can't remember how to walk when he stays with her and she has to hold on to him for hours. When the non family members return after the weekend, she has no mobility issues. She has been miserable all of our lives and now when she really needs help, we are trying to cope with caring for her while not being consumed by her toxic nature. My siblings and I are supportive of each other and we try our best to protect ourselves from Mom's attempts to draw us into her negative world. I guess I am just trying to figure out how we can compassionately care for our Mother and not fall into the roles of the obedient, eager to please children (now adults) that we have struggled so hard to leave behind after all of these years. I have been told by two medical professionals that none of us should bring her into our homes to live and that we should not be her main caregivers. I tried to explain to her neurologist that Mom has so much more going on than just Alzheimer's and I tried to explain her BPD but he had no suggestions. It takes a total of at least 7 people to manage Mom. She calls the shots and when she does not get her way, she declairs the friendship you once had with her over and gives you the silent treatment! She did this regularly years before her Alzheimer's diagnosis. Lately, if she doesn't get her way, she suddenly doesn't know who we are. It is very confusing because where does the manipulation end and the Alzheimer's begin. The lines are blurred and it's hard to trust what you see. The Alzheimer's alone is overwhelming for all of us and the BPD just takes it to a whole new level.
Thank you for listening.