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My brother who lives next door to my parents called my daddy. Dad called me to help him with my mom and fail not my brother but he is taking my dad away.
Nonexistant, I'm sorry but I can't understand from your post what has happened.
At your father's request over a year ago, you moved to your parents' property and made yourself somewhere to live in a building on the property, close by the house.
You have been looking after your mother since then. What are her care needs?
Your brother lives next door to your parents, but has not been involved in your mother's care.
Your brother is - taking your dad away? I don't understand what you mean. Do you mean literally, that your brother has moved or is planning to move your father out of his home? Or emotionally, that your brother maintains his relationship with your father but ignores the rest of the situation?
If you can say a little more about what is happening I hope you'll receive lots of supportive and helpful replies.
Nonexistant, I think you need help we may not be able to provide. Call your Adult Protection Services and see if there are resources out there for you.
After a year of helping dad who has deminsia mom passed away on fri by min bro had dpoa sighned by my dad Tues giving things away by Thursday had mom van removed so I couldnt drive it not even for dad had took a bunch of moms stuff never asking if I wanted anything he then locked me out of the house coulsnt use kitchen or bathroom nor get food without any notice called choctaw apps try to kick me out keeps undoing my electrric tried charge me rent cannot use yard sold my lawn mower after calling pplice saying it wasn't mine then said i finally made dad money instead of costing him his wife uses my moms van keeps it at her work then my aunt an RN nurse and brother got to gether took dad to aunts said i was a danger. I would make him sick ive talked on phone but no visits. It goes on
After after a year no help my brother my mother passed away on a Friday by Monday my brother had durable power of attorney for my dad we never received any flowers for my mom's funeral because they gave him all to his wife mother after that he locked me out of the house with no warning to get no food bathroom kitchen Danny tried to kick me out of my house or charge me rent and give me all these crazy rules I'm and I cannot use the yard and then he called Protection Services on me saying that I was using my dad for his food and his utilities my dad did not want to go live with my brother so my brother got with my aunt and they took him to her house and I would make him sick and I was dangerous to be around him and he was been sick ever since my Aunt took him I can talk to on the p but I can't seehim they keep cutting off electric sell my riding lawn mower after he called the police saying that it wasn't mine and they refuse to let me take it and then sent me a note saying I finally made my dad money instead of costing me cuz he sold my lawn mower for $50 it just come on
What would a good outcome look like, in your situation?
APS will be interested in your father's welfare. They probably don't have any way of helping you.
Your father has dementia. He and your mother were in difficulties over a year ago, and you say your father asked you to move onto their property so that you could help take care of your mother.
I wonder: was that his idea, or yours? But never mind, because it doesn't make any difference now.
Your brother and his wife, and your RN aunt, clearly don't agree that you are now able to take care of your father. They have removed him from his home to your aunt's house, and they are also clearly quite keen on getting you off his property too.
APS will get involved if they think there is any risk to your father's wellbeing. I can't see, though, that they are going to agree with you that returning your father to his home, with you as his primary caregiver, is the best plan. So where does that leave you?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
At your father's request over a year ago, you moved to your parents' property and made yourself somewhere to live in a building on the property, close by the house.
You have been looking after your mother since then. What are her care needs?
Your brother lives next door to your parents, but has not been involved in your mother's care.
Your brother is - taking your dad away? I don't understand what you mean. Do you mean literally, that your brother has moved or is planning to move your father out of his home? Or emotionally, that your brother maintains his relationship with your father but ignores the rest of the situation?
If you can say a little more about what is happening I hope you'll receive lots of supportive and helpful replies.
CM, please read previous post.
Nonexistant, I think you need help we may not be able to provide. Call your Adult Protection Services and see if there are resources out there for you.
What would a good outcome look like, in your situation?
APS will be interested in your father's welfare. They probably don't have any way of helping you.
Your father has dementia. He and your mother were in difficulties over a year ago, and you say your father asked you to move onto their property so that you could help take care of your mother.
I wonder: was that his idea, or yours? But never mind, because it doesn't make any difference now.
Your brother and his wife, and your RN aunt, clearly don't agree that you are now able to take care of your father. They have removed him from his home to your aunt's house, and they are also clearly quite keen on getting you off his property too.
APS will get involved if they think there is any risk to your father's wellbeing. I can't see, though, that they are going to agree with you that returning your father to his home, with you as his primary caregiver, is the best plan. So where does that leave you?
What do you want to do next?