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Yeah in my experience most of the time it's the deer hit my car rather than the other way around, they're fffing stupid.
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The funny thing is a few years ago a deer ran into this same car but it turned at the last minute and its hip hit the side of the car and it ran away . No damage but it was loud .
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Way, that happened to me once, husband didn't believe me. Then we pulled a gob of hair off the back door. No dents nothing
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Many years ago in are area someone hit a deer with a sedan, the deer went through the window into the back seat and a School age little boy died. It was so sad. Not something anyone around here forgot.
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Last year, husband was driving and I saw a deer, said to my husband, deer, he said what? I said DEER . He thought I was saying, dear. we didn't hit it, but I'll never make that mistake again.
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A few years ago a square box fell off a truck in front of us on the highway . I don’t know if it was thick hard plastic or metal . It was a cube about 18 inches I guess . It bounced and hit the same area of the car that the deer did. That bumper has been replaced before . That car was also rear ended once . So the back bumper is newer too . Poor car .

Thats sad about the little boy
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Out of curiosity, is anyone on planet Earth having a good day today?

Hint...I'm not one of them.
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Ha, I just found a dead mouse, inside a bucket of liquid plant food, after I dumped it all on my plants, so , I want to barf and wonder what it's going to do to my plants.

And husband must be loosing his tools, because I keep hearing him , wondering around mumbling bad words.

So I'm gonna go help after I get my stomach settled.

So it could be a lot worse venting, but it's not a great start anyways
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Kitchen floor was running with tiny ants when I got home this afternoon, I've mopped with vinegar and dusted around the most likely entrance point with DE, hopefully that's enough to discourage them.
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Anxietynacy - I once found a chipmunk had drowned in my watering can and since it was one with a small hole I couldn't get it out. I tasked nephew #2 with helping me but I regret I made him do that, I should have just cut a bigger opening in the plastic.
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First big brown spider found this season, indoors.

Outside on the front porch, many spider webs, I had to duck to get back in.
Told dH about it, he was oblivious, standing in the web.

I am realizing that I can no longer task my dH with a lot of things, both of us needing a break.

What that "break" looks like at my house, is me doing what he was doing so he can have a break.

Outside temps are in 3 digits now.

Instead of sweeping spiders, maybe decorating early for halloween with more spider webs. That way, no one will come up to my door, lol. I am just sick.
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It must be bug season. I've been fighting clothes/carpet moths at my place for ages now. We were doing pretty good but just when I start to feel comfortable I see another one. Like today for instance. I vacuum like there's no tomorrow and still see the occasional one. It's disheartening.

We've tried DE and recently started spraying cedar oil cause I've heard it will deter them from entering your domain. Before anyone says anything I know there are those who think it's useless but I'll try anything at this point.

There are so many flies this year too. Outside on our patio. I have to do a bug check every time I open the door. Summer sucks in a lot of ways. :P
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Well, it started this morning with the vertical blinds on the patio door detaching at one end and falling to the floor, and it went downhill from there.

My bright spot was the groceries were delivered on time this afternoon and for the most part were what I wanted.

I am enjoying the brightness of having no blinds. The plants will love it!🌿🌱☘.
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Golden, oh those nasty blinds!! They are a pain in the butt
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Gershun, I just bought some fly bait at the DIY pest control. You spray it on the wall and it draws the flies away from the areas you don't want them. I have it sprayed in the top of a hinged garbage can, that way nothing can eat the poisoned flies.

Another thing that really works is to put a few bright, shiny pennies in a ziploc bag and hang it by the door. Keeps them out of the house great.

Moths and cedar spray really does work. I keep it on the door frames of the closets and they don't, so far, get into the closets.

Just some ideas from a person that doesn't do bugs in my space and will do just about anything to keep them away.

Good luck being rid of the pests.

Golden, one of those days! Hugs!
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Moms sick, cold or something going on taking her to doctors in a bit.

I'm starting to think the only way for my brother will buck up and do what a POA is supposed to do is for me to completely walk away. I just hate to do it. This just sucks!
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Send,

My youngest daughter is terrified of spiders. Several years back, a spider got into her car when she was leaving our home.

She noticed the spider when she was driving on the interstate and freaked out.

So, she pulls off and drives into a gas station and begs the employee to please get a spider out of her car. LOL 😆

Thankfully, the guy working at the gas station got the spider out of her car.

She called us before she pulled over to the gas station and was having a full blown panic attack.

Gershun,

I am with you. The flies are a pain if they come inside.

ITRR,

Interesting, about the pennies. I wonder why it works.

Golden,

I hope the rest of your day goes well.

Nacy,

I hope your mom feels better soon. Is your brother retired or still working?

In our area, Council on Aging provides shuttle buses to and from doctor appointments.

I always took Mom to the doctor because she couldn’t hear well and I needed to be there. She had one ear that she wasn’t able to get a hearing aid for. The other ear could only be helped slightly with a hearing aid.
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My brother is poa, a high up in the gards Works 2 jobs for the National Guards and has pre espogus cancer from 911. Always busy and well I don't know what to do.

She is getting to weak and frail to be dropped off and picked up.

It's not the bringing her that bothers me, I'm going today anyways, its the fact that she needs AL or something, she needs more something, but my brother doesn't do anything about it

But he knows everything and I can't talk to him , and at this point I don't want to.

I'm starting to feel like I'm enabling this dysfunctional family
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Nacy,

If your brother is working two jobs, then he doesn’t have time to take mom.

If you find it is becoming too much for you to continually run around with your mom, tell your brother and your mom this.

Your mom can hire someone as a companion. I know a woman who did companion work for an older woman. It worked out well.

She took her to doctor appointments, hair appointments, grocery shopping, out to lunch or dinner, etc.
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I totally agree, but no one will listen. They don't even think she has dementia.it's really not the running around that bothers me. It's my worry.

Including him being busy he has to travel a lot. And has a week a month that he has to get his espogus scraped

No one will listen to me
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Nacy,

Need has a good idea .
Do you think your brother would be opposed to hired help for your Mom , even to be with her part time at home ?

Anyway , at some point your Mom won’t be able to live at home anymore based on what you have been saying .

Do you have any ideas of AL’s to suggest if/when “ it happens “ whatever that may be landing Mom in the hospital ? Since your brother most likely won’t .

Your bro will have to listen when she can’t walk anymore .

I get it , I dealt with Lo “ doesn’t have dementia “ naysayers too . It stinks .
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It is a great idea, to a logical person, but that's not my family. They won't, they won't even pay me., they are afraid of someone else is there then they will say the same things I say My older brother is really helping a lot in the evenings, he goes and watches Hallmark with he, so it's not completely on me anymore. But she is deteorating quicker than my family is bucking up to do.

POA is moms golden child. So does no wrong and she loves it because she can pretend she doesn't need help.

Doesn't like much because she knows I see, what is going on and won't put my head in the sand like the other two
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Nacy,

Yeah, since he’s the golden child who has POA, your hands are tied. What a shame.
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Mom needs AL, what I need mostly right now is exactly what you guys are giving me. A place to vent, people that understand and care. So thank you
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So at the doctors, the lady at the desk said to mom, I see you only have Darren as an emergency contact, do you want to add your daughter, mom said , no, not right now.
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@Anxietynacy

You will have to just stop then. Why do you continue to put up with this? Your mother and your brother need to accept that there's going to have to be outside hired help or your mother will have to go into assisted living. The best bet is probably to bypass homecare homecare and just put her in AL. If you want to try homecare first, you will have to neglect for a little so she and your brother will understand that you mean business and will not be doing this anymore.. Do not 'baby' your mother or cater to her. This always makes the situation worse. Get homecare. If she gets fussy or throws a tantrum about it because she only wants or will only "allow" you, let her. Give her the same choice I gave my mother. Either you make it work with the homecare aides or you get placed.

@NHWM

You know I usually agree with your good advice but I disagree with you about the Anxietynacy's brother. Having to work is not an excuse. Nor is it acceptable that he does nothing. The mother is his mother too. No excuse. If he can't put in companionship hours with his mother he can make arrangements for homemaker/companion service to go to his mother.

I work six days a week and arranged homecare for my mother. She knows that I am not at her beck and call anymore and my sister never was. She also knows that if she doesn't make it work with homecare, she gets placed and not placed in my home.

The brother can help arrange homecare.
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Thanks burnt, that's my feeling, I'm going to have to walk away, I've got to consider it and process that for sure. It's going to be hard for me to do. But it's looking towards that.

My brother working isn't the problem, the problem is my brothers lack of communication, or believe me when I say she needs help or has some demtia going on.

And mostly I shouldn't have to find out from my neighbor that my brother is in Texas for 3 weeks.
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Burnt,

I said the exact thing that you did. I suggested that they hire a companion or caregiver for her mom.

Maybe you didn’t see my previous post, where I said that I knew someone who was a companion to an elderly woman.

She took her to doctor appointments and other errands. It worked out well for them.

Of course, Nacy shouldn’t be overwhelmed with her mom’s needs.

Her mom and her brother are taking advantage of her kindness. Some people view kindness as weakness, and will push others past their limitations.

Nacy will have to tell them that it’s becoming too much.

Since her brother isn’t able to do these things himself, due to working long hours, then he can easily hire someone to help.

Nacy posted that her family doesn’t want to pay for any additional help.
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Nacy,

Talk to your brother about having Council on Aging doing an assessment of your mother’s needs.

He may not be listening to you because you are his sister. He should listen to you but that may be what you are dealing with.

He might take things more seriously if he hears news from an outside source.

If you are the person taking your mom to the doctor appointments, why on earth would your mom and brother not want you to be on the emergency list.

So, an emergency happens and they call your brother. What is he going to do? He will end up calling you because he is at work!

Geeeeeez, I had myself and my brothers on my mom’s emergency list.

Did you ask your mom why she didn’t want you on the list? Do you want to be on the list or would you rather let your brother handle emergencies?
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Nacy,

Give notice to your brother that you are not able to take Mom to her doctor appts any longer . That Mom’s mobility/balance
problems are too much for you to handle .

I would stay off the emergency list for now until Mom gets placed , so your brother will have to deal with the next emergency .
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