I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Unless someone uses a term in a derogatory manner on purpose , I think we need to give people some slack . It is difficult to keep up with all the new terms .
Being understanding towards those innocently using an old term is important as well .
I’m all in favor of new terms when a new medical definition is made (eg for many mental issues), but not when it’s just ‘PC speak’. And then, I never did travel well on ‘nut case’ or ‘loony bin’.
As for caretakers - yeah, I associate that with a person working as a building superintendent or a janitor
We are caregiver's~
And another thing that bothers me is when people say crippled instead of handicapped.
Those are my only 2 whines for today really bugging me.
that's all~
I hope you all are having a good day~
I love living in a place where the temperature is above freezing all the time.
I only had one guy reply back and give me an estimate for snow removal for the season and I said “ No “ because the price was insane .
I could have gone to Florida for 3 months for the price he quoted.
There are no teens anymore that walk around with shovels looking for work anymore the last 25 or 30 years . Hmm , 🤔🤔they are playing video games . And I see their Dads outside with a snowblower .
We never paid any attention to these checks, we just shredded them when we received them. Little did we know this can be a horrendous situation. We noticed this transaction on our credit card activity and promptly reported the fraud. Barclays took the charge off but then it reappeared a few days ago.
We called and Barclays said we have to file a police report and send them the paperwork and they would initiate an investigation.we will be doing this as soon as Barclays supplies us with documentation.
What is particularly awful about this is unlike a credit card which the credit card company institutes all sorts of verifications to activate your cards, these checks just come in the regular mail with no safeguards at all. Someone could have stole it at the post office or some place else and can just forge your name. The credit card company says you are responsible for the charge. I’m not sure even after filling out the police report that we will be successful in proving our case.
Barclays and many other credit card companies are fine with screwing you over because they will get their money or your credit rating will be damaged.
if you do not want to receive convenience checks you need to call your credit card company and demand they not send them anymore.
In our case it was only $100 but it could have been much worse.
I just thought it was important to pass this on.
I selfishly want this to be over because I am tired of going to that godforsaken awful nursing home. And I detest seeing him like this. We would not keep our beloved pets alive if they were existing like this.
My daughter is in NYC with my granddaughter. I told her under no circumstances do I want her to visit. I prefer her last memory of her grandfather is not this. He won’t know she’s there anyway.
The thought this can go on a minimum of least 6 months or more is totally horrifying. I can’t take much more. I just want to scream.
Maybe try going to visit less often? Do less.
You are very smart to have figured out a way for a ten-day vacation.
Now, make it a goal to take more days, while taking back your life, and strengthening yourself. It may take awhile.
You have had a dose of reality, and that is: there is still a life outside of caregiving for you. And you do want that. So don't give up, even though this sounds so very hard on you.
I know it is hard but you have to take care of your health -mental and physical. I'm glad you had a vacation.
Caregiving was a dreadful chore for me and a time of a lot of stress. I was so relieved when mother finally passed. My heart goes out to you. Is there any way you could hire someone to do some of the paper work or other jobs?
My husband and I went on a 10 day vacation last week. I anticipated coming back refreshed and ready to deal with mom, but the opposite happened. I'm in tears that the vacation is over and I'm back in this never-ending reality. So I took a look at some caregiver posts on Facebook, hoping to read something that would make me feel better. The first posts I read were: "Caregiving is a privilege." and "I feel called to caregiving."
Lovely. I feel "called" to run away and hide. I don't know how much longer she can afford to stay in her facility and I'd rather keep my head in the sand than find out how many more months she can pay for. I don't want to have meetings or make phone calls or fill out forms. I don't want to think about it at all. Has it been 8 years or 9 years? I don't know anymore. Her paranoia and psychosis is getting "better" and I don't know what to do about that either. She doesn't fit any case I've read about online. Doctors just stare at us and say "let's do a follow-up in four months." What? You mean I'll still be managing her four months from now? My friends say their parents had such short periods of dementia or whatever this is. "Two years and dad was gone."
"Mom started acting strange at Christmas and she died the next June." They don't know what to make of my mother's situation. They say, "How's your mom?" And I say "Oh about the same. A little improvement actually. I'm still her manager."
My psychiatrist gave me another pill to add to my antidepressant. I wish on every star for a million dollars.
send - car definitely. I really don't watch tv, but, as you say, I don.t have to choose. I worked many years to be able to survive such things.
cw -his phone is not set up for that and I doubt he knows how to sign into his Google account, He has an android and I have an iPhone. I am looking at some other apps to see if one could work. We need to set it up.
updare - the repair shop just called and have found the problem. I told them to go ahead and fix it. I will pay for it and we will hassle the insurance co later. Wheel bearings going on two different wheels right after an accident don't speak of normal wear and tear.
Don't think it is worth repairing TV's these days.
Oh well, life goes on, even without a phone, a vehicle or a TV.
Hmmmmn,
T.V. or Car,
T.V. or Car,
T.V. or Car,
which would you choose.
Fortunately, you don't have to choose.
Happy for you that your car is almost ready.
The repair shop gave him a ride out to the farm as the animals have to be fed.
He has misplaced (put them somewhere safe) the keys to his SUV and only had the one set so it's no help. He has a couple of old trucks at the farm and can probably use one of those.
The phone pretty well has to be at the rental office or in the car we returned, or dropped somewhere there. He tends to be a bit flaky and the 2024 accident didn't help.
Just when you think you are getting things sorted out they go sideways. Oh, and the TV died this morning, I guess I'll buy a new one.
Glad your appliances are fixed now. Cookies sound good! Too bad about hubby being sick and now you too, I hope you both are on the mend. The battery troubles probably didn't help. Take care!
Finally my car is repaired from the accident in October and I also have key fobs that work for the underground parkade. We'll pick it up tomorrow and drop off the rental. I am not impressed with the rental we have had. It wants to steer itself.
Purple18 welcome to the whine thread. Jeannette did us a service when she set it up. She has been gone for several years now. Your dinner sounds good and easy.
I had a little pan fried salmon, and veggies for my supper tonight.