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Veronica, the cockroaches here Run Towards You! Have you ever tried to stomp a fast moving 1 1/2 inch cockroaching zeroing in towards you? And then when they feel threatened, they take off - and fly so fast - towards you. They don't flee. They fly to you. I never ever scream (after the first initial scare) when a cockroach is around. What if your mouth is open screaming? From the roach's point of view, it sees a dark opening - a safe haven. It might fly right into your mouth!

My nieces used to scream non stop when afraid. When I told them that, they now don't scream with their mouth open -whether it's roaches or lizards.

I have it on my cell phone's notepad to buy the ortho ant spray. Our house is infested with different variety of ants. I've been spraying Raid on the big red ants. One bite really really stings badly. And more raid outside my dad's window, in the kitchen, in the bathroom. Just recently, I found some in my bedroom. Later. Time for bed.....
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Ho ho Book that cockroach was not the one you sprayed, it was his brother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. if you can't face stomping the next one keep something heavy in the kitchen and drop it on him before you run. get some nasty toxic spray from the store and spray all round the kitchen. In front and under cabinets and under the fridge and stove and inside the cupboard under the sink. they love warm damp places. roach traps are no use. Don't scream while you do it you will inhale the toxic spray.
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Sallie sorry!
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haha bookluvr.... you must know my two oldest brothers. 2 peas in a weird pod. Had a great time with the oldest bro and his wife (we've had BAD blood) Maybe this is healing time?

My whine... I hardly ever go out in a public setting... I'm like a giddy child who can't control there self. Fun for me... giggles for them. Bummer. Loud cars raced round and round and I was in HEAVEN! redneck heaven apparently.. I HAD FUN!

Get home, 2nd oldest is big time grumpy. Mom kept talking about some lady she talked to forever, 2nd oldest said it was just "some lady"?. Oh, then he had to bitch that my dogs snacked on "tissues" from ma's bathroom. LOL!! They NEVER do that when i am here.... I either flush those tissues or toss em.

Hmph!

As much as I really dislike all of this... my heart warmed up when I came home and mom was happy to see me. I worried the entire time and felt so protective of her well being. I scared myself.....
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Remember to turn off your cell phone. Your oldest brother will still have his on. If 2nd oldest bro tries to call you, he won't reach you. So he will call your bro. Let him handle any situation that arises at home.
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Shhhh.... shhhh..... My 2nd oldest brother is here, he's going to watch mom while my oldest brother and I go watch the car races. It's only been 19 months since I have been able to watch them. I can here them every saturday night, just not go.... so.......let me go finish them dinner and be very quiet so he can have his power nap. LOLOLOLOL!!!! what I do for an hour away....
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When I had my first surgery to take out some complex ovarian cysts, I had a happy face (smiley mouth) cut below my belly. My surgeon visited me on the 2nd day after surgery. He told me that the insurance wants me out on the 2nd day. But if I feel that I need another day, then he will give me another day stay at the hospital. I asked for another day. OMG! The car ride from the hospital to the house was Excruciating!!! The same applied when I had my 2nd surgery - in Hawaii.

Word of advice: Before you go home, make sure to take painkillers to dull the pain from the car ride. Also, bring 2 pillows. One to sit on (to help cushion Any bumps on the road) and one for your back (to help cushion the bumps and vibrations of the moving car.) It won't stop the pain but it sure helps not make it excruciating!
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Veronica, please say it isn't so!! ??
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Sallie, sorry about your brother, but..not a surprise, right? Just not prepared for it to become a reality to someone you know.

My whine for today is: When will that darn cockroach die?!!! It's close to 930am. I sprayed that bugger about 30 minutes ago. I must have missed it when it was fleeing. I thought the coast was clear - to make breakfast. And it's still running around on the kitchen floor. I had to re-spray it and flee back to the livingroom. I'm hungry!!!!
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Sorry to hear about your brother, Sallie. :-(
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Some days it feels/smells like truly living in an outhouse.

Sorry for the bad news Sallie :(
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I found out today my 55 yr old brother has cirrhosis!
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I have to post this whine for today...can't believe how today has gone.

Today is NOT a good day.....Mom's not doing well with her memory today. She's remembering things from her childhood - told me how an uncle followed her when she walked home one night - she said he was a lech. (this just came out of the blue, she just started talking about it)....but then she took a nap and waited too long to go to the bathroom and had an accident....so she went and got changed. Came out, sat in her chair for an hour, waited too long to go again, got up and had an accident again. Then, after I changed the protective pad on her chair, got her clean clothes (again) and put her pillow from her chair in the wash, because she peed on that too, she came out and sat down. I asked her if she had changed her pad - she said, "I think I did" - I went in the bathroom - no, she didn't change it. She didn't flush the toilet either, and she didn't change her wet underwear and pants. So she came out and sat on her chair in the same wet underwear and pants, which got the new pad on the chair wet again. So...back to the bathroom again to change her clothing, her pad, her underwear...then change the chair pad again.....

These steps along the dementia road sometimes come faster than we expect. The rest of the day, she's been relatively fine, even walked into the kitchen to get herself a snack earlier, instead of asking me for it (which is her normal course of action), got a haircut (we have someone who comes to the house to do it) and I even got her to go outside and walk up and down the ramp twice, and sit in the sunshine. So strange how she can go from having a really bad morning to being fine the rest of the day. I hate the aging process and what it's doing to her. :-(
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CM yes you did forget the geography in the US. 40 miles is nothing. And day sugery is the norm. I had three hernias repaired and was out as soon as I could stagger. Joint replacements are home on day 4 as soon as you can navigate with a walker. hubby got one night in the hospital with his neck and his prostate. It really is pretty brutal compared to the good old days but you actually recover quicker.
Make preparations before the surgery so there are plenty of microwave foods in the freezer.
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To reduce the number of infections my eye, FF! To reduce the number of infections they can be held liable for, more like. Grrrrr….
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Countrymouse, only problem with surgery today most of it here in the States is outpatient.... doesn't matter how severe the surgery the insurance company wants you home as soon as you wake up from surgery and you can utter your name. The reason for this fast turn around is to reduce the number of infections.

I can make this my whine.... why on earth send someone home from surgery who can barely walk, with drains in your body that you have to care for yourself, hurting like there is no tomorrow.... to be cared by someone who is totally clueless. Thank goodness he didn't ask me when is dinner ;)

But I agree for Texarkana to lay it on with a trowel... we deserve time to heal.
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Tex, while you are in that hospital lie back, be waited on hand and foot, and make the most of it! There have got to be some compensations for having to endure the surgery after all.

And once you get home and you're convalescing, lay it on with a trowel and be shameless about demanding peace and quiet while you're in such a delicate condition (even if you're not, you're fine, and you're actually ready to go fifteen rounds in the boxing ring!). If your husband and mother have to adjust and come to some new modus vivendi because of it, so much the better! - it might even last on into the future.

Forty miles away from your doctor sounds a lot! - or am I just being British about this and failing to take US geography into account? But isn't there anybody you trust any closer than that?
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My whine/boo hoo moment for me today is now I am facing neck surgery ,getting older myself. What is going to happen to this house while I am in the hospital. My husband tries to clean but it just isn't well "enough" if you other ladies know what I mean. He will look after mom but he doesn't put up with her cr**p and I dread having to get well in the middle of that. I just frankly hate having her here.Everything gets more complicated, even just planning a trip to the grocery store.And every week , the MD appts. 80 mile round trips everytime.I am so sick of all this.So many others here have it much worse than me, just need to vent. Thank god for this site and for all the understanding.
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My whine today is about grocery shopping. I don't mind the shopping, but I come home loaded down with groceries. When Dad was alive he would get up and open the door for me. Not Mom. She just sits there watching TV as I come up the steps and struggle to open the door. I never feel as used as I do when bringing home groceries.
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My whine today is that I've been sick for a long time with Epstein Barr Virus. Sometimes I am so tired, I can hardly move. Today taking a nap, and Mom called and started going on and on about some papers, and did I put them there, etc., etc. I almost lost it on her (note to self--pray harder for patience), and said I don't feel good and I can't deal with this now. I'll see you this weekend and look at it then. I won't write what I wanted to say to her, cause it'd probably shock some of you, but today, feeling sick again, I just can't cope with her self centered crap.
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My whine is why does she have to throw temper tantrums?! She has to have her way. It ruined the whole day!
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A new wrinkle here.. This afternoon I spent a couple of hours on my small red Honda tractor pulling our lawn sweeper, picking up the grass from yesterday which was abundant since it was hard to find time to mow between rains and it had gotten too long.. anyhow .. After that I re-mowed the lawn since it looked shaggy, etc.

While doing these chores our Black Lab, Marley, ran circles around the tractor, just having a great time. She carries a ball in her mouth, hoping I will stop and throw it for her, which I do whenever I need to get off the machine for any reason. When it was time for her supper, I went in and fixed her dish of food and went out again. Shortly, she was joyfully running alongside again.

After finishing with the lawn I went in to watch a program on TV and was soon interrupted by my husband, who is 90 and suffering from vascular dementia. He wanted to know if I knew those two ladies who worked on the lawn this afternoon and if I did would I please call them and thank them for allowing his dog to cavort about - since she really enjoyed it..

He was soo serious... and Marley often had her fun while I mowed, etc.. Sometimes it is so hard to understand. He can go along for days without an outrageous comment and then he comes up with one when I had almost forgotten that he has a problem..

I guess that was not really a whine - but here's one.. I am so tired of waiting behind him to get where I want to go. He and that walker take up so much space and he is always walking, slowly, - right where I need to go.. I was born in a hurry and not blessed with much patience... And there is so much to do. and the days are so short and the nights are so long... There! that's a couple more whines, right?
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Jeanette when you get to Mom's age you will do really long poooofs too. Like many other things it come with age.
Sue can't guess at Mom's new behaviours. Hope she does not run around the hotel like that on your trip or worse at a rest stop
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I don't put anything with open flames anywhere where I can't see it at all times, and I usually use a candle warmer instead, just to avoid the whole open flame thing altogether. But the odor isn't the problem (well, it *is*, but not this time).

Mom's recent bathroom-sitting fetish started about 2 or 3 weeks ago - she just goes in there and sits - and I know all she's doing most of the time is urinating, because she sits there so long that she forgets to flush....and wipe....so I know what she did in the toilet didn't take 20-30 minutes.

I honestly am concerned that her memory is getting bad enough that when she goes in there, she just kind of loses track of time and just sits there. Then she forgets that she's used the toilet and needs to wipe/flush, change her incontinence pad, etc. This time, though....that was something new. She said she just didn't feel like undressing and putting her nightgown on, nor did she feel like pulling up her pants. So she just took them off, and came out here in her shirt and underwear alone. (Sitting here shaking my head.) I did go pants-hunting and she had taken her underwear and pants off and put a new pair of underwear on. But her pants and underwear were not soiled, and she had picked them up and put them in the dirty clothes hamper. But she couldn't put them back on? (Another head shake.) I think there's more at play here than just "I didn't want to put them back on". I don't know - maybe I'm reading too much into it. It's just so unlike her to come out into the common area of the house in just her underwear. She's never done that before.
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Sue.... do you put candles in the bathroom? I would but ma might use the candle for something e lse.

Since you mentioned sitting.... mom can poot gas for a really long time. Seriously... I listen at night and the poot part is sooooooo long. We eat the same food and no i do not do it .
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Oh...my....gosh.....

Mom just walked out of the bathroom (after sitting in there for about 45 minutes) in nothing but her shirt and her underwear. Not sure where the heck her pants went. I'm on the phone with my son right now, but I guess I have to go pants-hunting when I get done...she was joking about it when she came out, so not sure what the heck is going on. Very worried I'm going to go in there and find the pants full of something I *don't* want to clean up....

this is a new one....
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Sallie thats tough but how much crap can you take if he even moves to the same neighbourhood id move!
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todAy pretty good so far. mentioned about dad peeing in cup in bedroom because door was " locked". Should have probed more as he really meant bathroom locked as hubby was getting ready for work. Dad doesn't seem to have a problem using another bathroom during middle of night but not when hubby getting ready for work.meant
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My whine moment.... I'm too tired to whine or have wine.

xoxo
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Sort about the " fir " instead if " for " fat fingers hitting the wrong keys. Lol
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