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I'm sorry for your loss Way.
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Sorry to hear this news Way.
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Thanks 97.
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Way
Wishing you and DH rest and peace and hopefully some happy memories in time. She seemed to have a joie de vivre that endeared her to many. Of course, they didn’t feel the weight of responsibility that others placed on DH. A bittersweet passing.
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Thank you ITRR
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Way, I am sorry for your family's loss. She did it her way and there is something to be said for that. Unfortunately she drug you guys into it to often.

May The Lord give you strength, wisdom and guidance for the final steps.
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Thanks Golden.
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((((((Way))))) What a zoo!!!! I am so sorry for the messes DH has to deal with.

The "big party" Oh, goodness gracious. That's all he needs. Condolences for whatever loss you and DH are feeling. I imagine relief figures largely in this too.

Let him sleep. I am sure he needs it. I am glad for the both of you that the "parent care" phase of your lives is ending. I hope there will be nothing too complicated to take care of in the next few days/weeks/months.

As always - do something good for you. You deserve it. 💛

Just saw you have to wake DH up so he will sleep tonight. Makes sense!
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Thanks Daisy .
I’m going to have to wake DH up from his nap or he won’t sleep tonight . 🤔🤔
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So sorry way, for you DH and your children, it's been a rough couple of weeks for you! 😔 🫂🙏
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Thank you Llama .
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Way: So sorry to hear this news. Condolences.
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Well , MIL passed away this morning . The party girl wasn’t immortal after all .

Over the last 3 days , DH’s phone has been blowing up because MIL’s partner with dementia ( who should not live alone , but does ) has been giving out DH’s phone number ( as well as my son’s number , apparently by mistake to one person as well ). They want to know what’s going on because partner told some people 3 days ago that MIL had already passed and then after that told others she was still alive .

The other part of this that can’t be made up is MIL’s sister is upset that MIL had prearranged to donate her body to the local medical school . She did not like that she won’t be cremated for at least a year , maybe longer. This btw was the only end of life paperwork MIL prepared, many years ago . 🙄

MIL’s brother said to buy an urn and not to tell his sister it’s empty . 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
I don’t even know what to say to that .

And one of MIL’s friends has already told DH where the “ big party” should be .
MIL told everyone for years that she wants a big party ( not a funeral ) after her death .
Apparently it’s expected, as others have called to invite themselves .

DH fell asleep alittle bit ago in our hotel room . I silenced his phone . He needs a break from this circus .
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Golden, it warmed up, today to about 60, tomorrow is going to be almost 80. Bi polar, north east.
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Way. (((Hugs))).
You knew this time would come.
It is hard, will be hard.
My thoughts to you.

Even those with the most fighting of spirits & the firmest grasp on control can arrive at such a time & place. The time when Mother Nature nods her wise head & takes over.

(I use Mother Nature, but please insert your own faith or belief, or medical diagnosis terms).
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Arkh, the expected arrival of a new baby is a big deal. Those tiny humans have a way of arriving & reshaping the whole family priorities. I am not saying out with the old, in with the new.. no. But in a nicer way, reshaping your care duties seems logical. To arrange 'the village helpers' to take on more of the care for your Mother & Father now. Then you may have capacity to become a bigger part of your daughter's support team - be part of the village she & the baby will need.
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9 C (48F) here. A bit chilly, but not bad. Definitely better than where you are Daisy.

(((Way))) - let us know how you and DH are and who things are going. Such a stressful time!!!
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28° this morning, 😤 need I say more!
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Way, 🫂💕🫂💕, hope you got some sleep last night. Keep us posted . 😞
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Way -- So sorry for your husband and for you. I wish it could have been a better exit than this for your MIL, but she was stubborn and wanted to live her life on her own terms. Hope her suffering is over soon.

Hugs to you.
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Way - (((((((hugs))))) I guess mil got her wish to stay at home till the end or nearly.. So sorry she went down hill so quickly before documents could be signed. This must be very hard on your DH and his relatives aren't helping. Mil is an example of how not to do things. You've known she's a very sick lady and has been for a while. So frustrating!!! Keep us posted and look after yourselves.
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I need to vent . MIL has always thought she would be immortal and escape death . We finally get her to agree to have a lawyer draw up POA , and other end of life documents . She waits until she’s almost bedbound to agree because she can’t get to the bank to move money into checking to pay bills. She does no online banking . No computer , no smart phone etc . She’s stuck in the 1960’s .

DH sets it up . Lawyer and notary were coming to rehab this morning to have MIL and DH sign . DH drove the 200 miles last night after work , so he didn’t have to worry about traffic this morning .

Well MIL , starts having issues yesterday . This morning becomes nearly unresponsive AN HOUR before lawyer coming . So that was a no go .

DH ended up doing a MOLST form with the rehab doctor as next of kin . MIL with stage 4 CLL , DM type 2 , CKD , pelvic fractures , is now septic . She has a decub on her sacrum that started at home , that is infected . She should have gone to AL at least 6 months ago . Anyway she can’t fight this infection , organs shutting down too . I saw it coming , she’s been having increasing edema pretty much all over the last couple of weeks .

I feel sorry for DH , the relatives want to know why more isn’t being done . 🙄🙄🙄 She was in pain , moaning , she’s on morphine and we are just waiting …..
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Arkh - I'm so sorry. You have a very heavy burden of care. Thank goodness your mom is in memory care and your dad has proper care outside of your home. But I know that still can mean a lot of work for you. I bet you need a break. Is there any chance of your daughter setting herself up independently? (((((hugs)))) to you. Can you take a little time for yourself?

Update on the appliance fiasco. I am still without a functioning dishwasher. I contacted CAS (who I bought it from) After Sales and they are not helpful. I have started a claim through Visa at my bank, but they, of course, cannot guarantee success. I have decided to purchase another dishwasher and, if I don't get a refund on the Bosch I'll sell it or give it away, They sent the part to me, which is weird as I didn't order it. Seems like some sort of sick game. What happens if something else goes wrong? I wait another 6+weeks and have to write emails etc. No thank you. Never buying from either company again.
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I need to whine-I’m tired. I’m an only child. my mom is in memory care. She has stopped speaking. My daughter who lives with us is pregnant and due in May. My 92 year old father had pneumonia and a weak heart, and has hospice in his home. I’m arranging his 24 hr aide schedule with an agency whose scheduler is hard to communicate with. Enough!!!
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We did have some sun this afternoon, and it was less brutal than yesterday. I'll take it!!! 😁 Yeah this is pretty normal for April, but I'd like to have a nice day in between here and there, that's not happening.
High of 44 today, Golden, we are colder than you, send down the warmth. 😆
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Would happily do so. That heat would be too hard for me.

Here the field is drying out and green is showing. Love leaving the balcony door open and hearing the birds. Here is it around 12 C (54 F) and clear blue skies - an awesome spring day.
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I wish I could share some of yous Ole man winter.

We are in the 90s and set to have the earliest 100° day, measured far from my home that has already broke 100°, in recorded history. UGH!

Last night was the last night we will cool off into the 50s, meaning time for the AC.

Stay warm and safe.
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Daisy - Yup, that was a nasty blast from old man winter but really just par for the course in April, in my life I've seen lots of daffodils covered in snow. The younger generations don't believe me when I say we've had snow in the air in June LOL
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It's 26 degrees out, about 2 inches of snow!! 😡😡😡😡 No one around me , wants to do this anymore! Everyone is just a bit grumpy, and tired of waiting for a decent day. I had to put my cuddle duds back on yesterday.
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Hi casol, I know you said no response needed, 😆 but I wanted to tell you my mom went through the same, and the piggy backing meds , really wreaked havoc on her stomach, so watch out for that. Also steroids really helped her. Lots of physical therapy, really helped her. Best of luck. I know how hard that is. 🫂🫂
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