I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Wishing you and DH rest and peace and hopefully some happy memories in time. She seemed to have a joie de vivre that endeared her to many. Of course, they didn’t feel the weight of responsibility that others placed on DH. A bittersweet passing.
May The Lord give you strength, wisdom and guidance for the final steps.
The "big party" Oh, goodness gracious. That's all he needs. Condolences for whatever loss you and DH are feeling. I imagine relief figures largely in this too.
Let him sleep. I am sure he needs it. I am glad for the both of you that the "parent care" phase of your lives is ending. I hope there will be nothing too complicated to take care of in the next few days/weeks/months.
As always - do something good for you. You deserve it. 💛
Just saw you have to wake DH up so he will sleep tonight. Makes sense!
I’m going to have to wake DH up from his nap or he won’t sleep tonight . 🤔🤔
Over the last 3 days , DH’s phone has been blowing up because MIL’s partner with dementia ( who should not live alone , but does ) has been giving out DH’s phone number ( as well as my son’s number , apparently by mistake to one person as well ). They want to know what’s going on because partner told some people 3 days ago that MIL had already passed and then after that told others she was still alive .
The other part of this that can’t be made up is MIL’s sister is upset that MIL had prearranged to donate her body to the local medical school . She did not like that she won’t be cremated for at least a year , maybe longer. This btw was the only end of life paperwork MIL prepared, many years ago . 🙄
MIL’s brother said to buy an urn and not to tell his sister it’s empty . 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I don’t even know what to say to that .
And one of MIL’s friends has already told DH where the “ big party” should be .
MIL told everyone for years that she wants a big party ( not a funeral ) after her death .
Apparently it’s expected, as others have called to invite themselves .
DH fell asleep alittle bit ago in our hotel room . I silenced his phone . He needs a break from this circus .
You knew this time would come.
It is hard, will be hard.
My thoughts to you.
Even those with the most fighting of spirits & the firmest grasp on control can arrive at such a time & place. The time when Mother Nature nods her wise head & takes over.
(I use Mother Nature, but please insert your own faith or belief, or medical diagnosis terms).
(((Way))) - let us know how you and DH are and who things are going. Such a stressful time!!!
Hugs to you.
DH sets it up . Lawyer and notary were coming to rehab this morning to have MIL and DH sign . DH drove the 200 miles last night after work , so he didn’t have to worry about traffic this morning .
Well MIL , starts having issues yesterday . This morning becomes nearly unresponsive AN HOUR before lawyer coming . So that was a no go .
DH ended up doing a MOLST form with the rehab doctor as next of kin . MIL with stage 4 CLL , DM type 2 , CKD , pelvic fractures , is now septic . She has a decub on her sacrum that started at home , that is infected . She should have gone to AL at least 6 months ago . Anyway she can’t fight this infection , organs shutting down too . I saw it coming , she’s been having increasing edema pretty much all over the last couple of weeks .
I feel sorry for DH , the relatives want to know why more isn’t being done . 🙄🙄🙄 She was in pain , moaning , she’s on morphine and we are just waiting …..
Update on the appliance fiasco. I am still without a functioning dishwasher. I contacted CAS (who I bought it from) After Sales and they are not helpful. I have started a claim through Visa at my bank, but they, of course, cannot guarantee success. I have decided to purchase another dishwasher and, if I don't get a refund on the Bosch I'll sell it or give it away, They sent the part to me, which is weird as I didn't order it. Seems like some sort of sick game. What happens if something else goes wrong? I wait another 6+weeks and have to write emails etc. No thank you. Never buying from either company again.
High of 44 today, Golden, we are colder than you, send down the warmth. 😆
Here the field is drying out and green is showing. Love leaving the balcony door open and hearing the birds. Here is it around 12 C (54 F) and clear blue skies - an awesome spring day.
We are in the 90s and set to have the earliest 100° day, measured far from my home that has already broke 100°, in recorded history. UGH!
Last night was the last night we will cool off into the 50s, meaning time for the AC.
Stay warm and safe.