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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.


I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.

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Ok, that makes sense, just id say, maybe be a bit more patient with mom, and understand that the dogs have changed her everyday life.

And to add, I see a lot of people my kids generation, waiting my generation to treat there dogs like they would if they were are grandchildren.

I suspect that is a generation gap thing.

And there is nothing wrong with it either way. But I think my sons generation shouldnt be angry or annoyed at my generation if we don't.
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It's not my mom's home. I am on the lease and pay the rent and bills. She is on there as a resident but the main duty falls on me. She agreed to move in with me while I get settled. I do not want to kick her out
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Doggiemom, I have not commented much because I feel rather strongly that you do not bring pets home to others.

We had a horrible time getting my step daughter to understand that. She tried so hard to bring her 2 huskies, in are home, and are 3 cats hated them and they stayed in the basement when she was here, trying like heck to pawn her doggy duties off on us. In the end it ended very ugly, which is sad for her because, me and her dad , could of been much help to her in life, but she didn't want that help she wanted to take over my home , with constant dog fur, honestly they where just destroying everything.

I do know that is not what you are doing, but I'm a firm believer, that if say my stepson, that lives upstairs, wants a dog we all have to want a dog also. If any of are kids just assume they are moving in and bringing there dogs with them, that is a GIGANTIC no from both of us.

I love dogs, but I won't even dog sit. I had a neighbor wanted me to feed her dog while the went away, I said NO, because I new that would keep happening, I have a life and I don't want my time taking up with others pets. If I want a dog I'll get a dog!

I do on occasion, sit for one neighbors dog, but that's only because it when he absolutely needs to do something.

I can imagine have OCD it must be even harder for mom.

Alva, I just googled your museum, look like a really great place to go. Hope your trip goes better this time,!
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DoggieMom, You are not still now living with mom? Are you? I hope not, because you need at 38 to be more independent, and not so enmeshed with her. Her happiness isn't your problem. You have plenty of your own to concern you. Like your mom, I tend toward OCD (after N.'s recent bout in hospital I was home literally lining up things on his dresser, comb, keys, wallet in STRAIGHT LINES, so I can sympathize with your mom if you and doggies are in her home. I would NOT be kind! Just saying, that's a fact. My home, my rules. And I think you shouldn't have to live by her rules, so out you go. Where SHE GOES is up to her. You have your seperate lives and meet and enjoy where you can.

Speaking of meet and enjoy, I am heading to our DeYoung Museum next week to meet a friend and see the Lempicki exhibit. Will be the first time I have been there since I managed to knock down a perfectly nice doctor, aged 85. Or we knocked into one another and he was the one to go down. A bit nervous. Will be watching where I am going this time!

I am assuming that NO ONE here has heard from Need. I do not believe she would voluntarily leave us this long with no one here having an explanation; she was too devoted to this site. It makes me really sad not to know anything about this. Now RealyReal is off grid, too? But I think she does have a busy life other than us.

Bundle, you will be missed! I see you out there making another collection of one-liners for us, or hoping we will forget the others you did before. For me, that's a given, that forgetfulness thing.
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DoggieMom, that is so great for both you and your mom! Congratulations! Time to go enjoy a more carefree life!
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I had a long talk with my mother and she agreed that moving will be good for us. She can be closer to her sister, but I'm a senior living apartment (I think she's not cut out for living with someone else). My aunt has dogs, so she says she can like dogsit without ownership. I realized I'm more independent at 38 than 16 years ago. I think my mom would benefit from senior groups so she could help others by baking or having book groups.
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BOJ: Thanks for letting us know so we don’t worry.
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i’ll be taking a break from the website. i’ll return. huggggg.

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On my mind…

🥰 Meeting someone accidentally,
then having them become a huge part of your life.
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OCD is tough, we can't know what it's like to have it. I'm sure it's a struggle, at times

You want to drive an OCD person crazy put them in a room with a dyslexic. 😂🤣
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That’s just awful. I don’t blame you for wanting to get as far away as you can. Think how much free time she’ll have when she doesn’t have to spend it cleaning up after you….good grief. I’m sorry for you “and your little dog, too!”
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Not really to her it’s all helping me. My brother is super OCD and so is she. Anything that falls below their level of clean is less a slob. Being told you “stink” and having to clean a chair hurts. I have never repaid my family for helping me move even though I have offered money. At this point, I think my dogs deserve better to get away from the stress. All I’ll hear is how grateful I should be I have my mother alive.
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Ah, I see. I honestly don’t know what I would do in your situation either. If you know your DIL’s mother or a sibling it might be appropriate to mention you’re concerned about her health but that could also be construed as meddling. This is a hard one and may only get more difficult the longer it continues. I’m sorry you’re in this predicament.
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Yes, I am, I had food issues at her age, we are not close, actually we get a long great, but don't see each other a lot, which is why we get a long so well.

I don't think going to my son is the answer, because my eating issues, was due to my unhappiness in my marriage. I don't know if that's it or not but I feel like going to him isn't the best place.

When I didn't want to eat, not a lot helped. If people came to me, then I'd push them away. Her sister battles or did anorexia. So I'm really unsure, I doubt if there is anything I can do.
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Nacy, that’s scary. Are you close? Would mentioning it to your son be appropriate or be seen as a betrayal? Are you concerned about anorexia or something else?
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Doggiemom, do you think your mom knows how awful she is to you? Not that that makes any difference to you, on the receiving end, I’m just curious.
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I'm concerned with my daughter in-law , she is way to thin. I noticed it last year, and it's just gotten worse.

She looks fragile, and weak. I think it disturbs me so much because she reminds me of me at her age.

I just don't know if I should say something or sometimes it makes it worse.

I know there is no good answers, and I have to think on this, it's just much on my mind.
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Doggiemom, I think many people realize they can't go back home, after they do.

It's not healthy for mom or you. We all get a bit set in are ways the older we ger
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I can't wait to move to another state. My mom and I reached loggerheads today. I tried to show her some music from Wicked I liked. She said it has no rhyme and how could I like it. Okay, fine, we have different tastes. She has a chair in the room I sat in. Well, she told me I stink and spent two hours scrubbing the chair and the room. One of my dogs had a pee accident and she flipped and told me what a slob I am. I am done. Just done.
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Peasuep, I was actually doing caregiveing and use to take this guy to the library, one time I was so engaged in this book, I was bawling my eyes out, totally forgot I was in public.

Yeah with 4 boys, I'm very desensitized with that stuff
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I can still handle scary and suspenseful tv but I’ve given up on sad books. I just got surprised with one and had to stop reading as soon as the wonderful, loving, wise and sweet guy said his back hurt.
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On my mind is, finally feeling like I'm getting a bit ahead of house cleaning.
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To bond with one of my sons, ten years ago, I started watching walking dead. I ended up really liking it and getting so involved in it. 😁

After the nightmares, I don't watch that stuff after dark
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Bundle, this is why I never watch scary, dark or even suspenseful content. I don't even watch something if I know it has an unhappy or vague ending (I usually force my sons to give me the "spoiler" so I can know). IMO life is stressful and sad enough so why would I put more of that into my head?? Now I watch what is called Kdrama (Korean dramas and romcoms) w/subtitles. They are mostly formulaic but usually have 16 episodes that are 1 hr long each. They are wholesome and engaging, equivalent to our "Hallmark" channel shows. I think many of the plots are a little more clever and I enjoy learning about aspects of Korean culture that are in each series. Plus there is lots and lots of content. I watch on Netflix and my Viki.com subscription. Hulu, AppleTV and Disney+ also have Korean content.

( My exception has been the Harry Potter movies, which are so well done.)
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i just watched a true crime movie. should NOT have done that. now i’m afraid to walk around in my own home; any creaky noise.

must go back to watching my usual innocent, feel-good rom coms. will watch one RIGHT AWAY.
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wishing us all good health!!
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Golden: Thank you; home health has been a godsend.
My goodness - that is difficult to wake up and then get back to sleep. Prayers for your sore throat to get better. Wrap up in a warm blanket.
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Llama - glad home care is going well.

Thank you. No, I don' t take any sleep meds. I usually wake up in the middle of the night for a few hours then go back to sleep. I am just feeling a sore throat and have been cold today, so maybe that made it worse.
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Update: Home health has been great with OT assessment (not needed), PT twice weekly and RN's. The RN assessed a tailbone pressure sore yesterday, which was really great in the fact that I didn't have to go to an urgent care clinic (I was doing everything right with the sore and it never ulcerated).
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Golden: I'll pray that you can wake up faster. Do you take any sleep medications?
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