Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
My husband is 6"5 , there's no way a hospital meal would be enough for him.
Hang in there, your both in are thoughts and prayers
R is still in hospital as he gets dizzy and worse headaches when he gets up. He needs the walker to be mobile. He is still on heavy painkillers for the headaches but refused more morphine. Yesterday they did some PT with him walking with the walker. Hopefully they will keep that up so he builds up strength as his head heals. You waste away lying in a hospital bed.
He is losing weight not that he needs to) as they are not feeding him enough!!! I told the nurse he needs more food so she will arrange to up his portions and see he has a sandwich at night. He doesn't like to complain! I got him oj and a snack last night from the machines and I'll bring in some healthy (and a few not so healthy 😋) snacks - yop, yogurt, nuts, fruit and cookies. etc. today,
He is weak and I expect he will be there a few days yet. We can't have a fall!!! I doubt he will be able to drive for a while between his vision and the dizziness/headaches.
The good news is he was thoroughly checked out (4 hospitals) and all else is good - even his blond sugar, which has been in the prediabetic range for years, is now normal. He has been motivated to cut back on sweet stuff and I am here to cook proper meals now so he is doing well there. Diabetes 2 runs in the males in his family so we want to do what we can to avoid it if possible.
He has perked up the last few days and did a drawing of a butterfly from a get well card and wants more paper so he can draw more and also to make notes re insurance. I brought in a couple of books and his glasses as he is going to try to read, He has white flashes in one eye, but his retina is ok. They will look at it next month if the flashes have not gone. The vision in the other eye (black and with a stitched cut over it) is blurred but improving thankfully.
He tires easily. An hour visit is a bit too much, I think. He needs a lot of naps, I'm holding up. I have to be careful not to set off a CFS/FM flare up. One day at a time. We are so thankful it wasn't worse.
glad - lots of fires and smoke. It's a pain I know.
Sure looks like you have lots of fires and smoke there, again. I have lost my view of Pikes Peak because of smoke from Canada fires here.
So sorry.
Hoping R will be OK and recovers.
Thinking of you.
Let us know how you are both doing.
Keep us posted, ❤️🩹🙏🙂↕️
Thinking of both of you in this horrible crisis.
So sorry for this scary and painful accident.
I'm sure you will be glad to have R home again.
Will be thinking of both of you and hoping for no lasting effects.
I'm glad R is well enough to come home.
Prayers for R and of course you.
May The Lord give you both strength and comfort during this difficult time.
R was in an automobile accident. He (in a Ford Explorer) was rear-ended by a car driven by a girl on some drugs, Both vehicles were totalled. He has head injuries - severe concussion, some eye and teeth problems and a very sore head, neck and chest. The young driver had a broken leg and the other two girls were not injured.
He has been in hospital since Monday 15th and is coming home tomorrow. We are so thankful it wasn't worse.
You never know when your life is going to be stirred up do you?
I honestly had no clue this is so ramped.
This is what is going on in my family also. And I'm realizing it's all so common.
I honestly don't understand how a grown arse adult is more worried about there inheritance, or so attached to there childhood home than , someones well being.
How can we as a society gotten so dam heartless!!
I was able to walk all winter, and spring , I gave it up for now. Use to be in the winter you would join a gym and not go in the summer, I feel like it has totally switched gears. Like did I move south and didn't know it.
I don't know if the weathers changed or my body. I've never been a fan of the heat but this is ridiculous. Making me feel depressed.
It's your right to say whatever you want , and it's my right to find it a bit wrong and ignore it or say something.
I'll ignore it from now on just wanted to tell you my opinion
"Some AL are very nice , but no matter how nice , moving in AL often is a reminder of someone’s age and decline"
I do know that these places exist for a good reason and many people live satisfying lives there but I'm so tired of the narrative that this is a "good thing" (as Martha Stewart used to say). It may be a necessary thing but if it was such a good thing there'd be a whole lot more of us living in communes.
It's like if you say I have to go to work, verses I get to go to work.
I have to.. is an ughhh
I get to ... Is lucky.
Lucky to have a job
Lucky to be healthy enough to work
Words really change the whole meaning of a word.
And the way we say them.
When my mom says someone is gay , her voice, look on her face and everything is hateful.
But if I say someone is gay , its just they are matter of fact gay without the face, they may be heterosexual or homosexual, don't matter to me either way kind of voice.
We had a small efficiency apartment my husbands son (Nero divergent) was sleeping in. We moved him upstairs and Redid the room for a giant master bedroom and bathroom. Like 5 years ago. Put a tub in , which wasn't the best choice, now we are talking about a more efficient bathroom, eventually.
We kept the outside door, my thinking is if he dies I have the option to turn the room back to an apartment for me and rent the rest of the house.
CW, I luv you but I think calling a room a cell is a bit to strong. It's used to degrade prisoners .
adding on would be very expensive . I thought about we could put a full bathroom and closets where the dining room is although it would be weird since it’s by the front door . And my husbands office could be a bedroom ( no closets ) , would have to put double doors to close up the office . The problem with that is if we had to sell , no one would want to buy the house with a bathroom where the dining room should be . A stair lift would be cheaper and more easily removed to sell the house . The half bath is not able to be expanded , because of its location in a small hallway leading to the garage between the laundry room , and kitchen .
I know some homes it just really doesn't work, without a huge amount of money.
We’ve been on the downsize search as well. I posted earlier about the difficulties in finding anything with a master bed and bath downstairs that either is not a total gut inside or if we find one in good shape the price per square foot is ridiculous due to high demand with many boomers by me selling houses to younger families . ( I’m one year younger than the boomers, not that it matters ). However , by me real estate is still hot . DH and I can’t justify spending that much per square foot , the 55 and overs have gone up over $50,000 in the last 6 months . We have decided to suspend our search for now . My house is not huge . If we have to stay we will reno the bathroom and get a stairlift someday . Although I really wanted no stairs . And will hire snow removal at some point . The big yard is annoying though . I already pay to have it mowed , since DH’s accident . But I do the rest . When DH retires we can expand our search area without having a work commute to be a concern .
I would love to sell my house to a nice young family , if I could find something . Downsizing should cost less not more . The math just doesn’t support a move right now . We are trying to keep money in savings for our future care needs .
The modern ones are white or beige, bland, featureless inside with some arrangement of beige or grey outside. A 'wheige' box inside a larger 'greige' box.
In contrast, my Aunt's AL room had plush carpet, natural wooden look furniture & bright but tasteful upholstery.
I know that's just *stuff*.. & it goes against my earlier comments about adjusting to AL by choosing to be happy wherever you are. Call me fickle today 😂
Dad never was materialistic, so he never missed his house and the things he had in the house. He knew because of his advanced age that he could no longer use his workshop, nor putter around in the yard which he enjoyed.
But then again, he grew up in a farm house that had no inside plumbing nor electricity, so I think he was appreciative of things he did have at Memory Care.
Preconcieved ideas prevent some people from trying to make the best of the years they have left while in AL .
Some AL are very nice , but no matter how nice , moving in AL often is a reminder of someone’s age and decline . Change is hard .
Some choose to go in AL on their own and love it . But many would rather stay in their homes.
I have not had any relative willing or happy to leave their home when they needed placement.
My parents and FIL are deceased . We are now trying to get MIL to go to AL . It won’t happen easily . Thank God it’s the last one .