
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
My husband is going next month to private facility and cost is astronomical. Over $5,000 which more likely will be $6,000 or more.
The problem is how much actual care is provided in that price?
None. Just apartment and meals. Everything is extra!
There is “menu” to choose from additional services, meds, night check etc. each about $400 per month which I think to begin with will be another $2,000 per month.
But monthly payment from each resident contributes to salaries for aides and people don’t receive anything?
Any thoughts of safety concerns in AL?
way. How’s your sis doing?
Im grateful he is physically okay but I have to say he’s been in a bad mood a lot. He was always obsessive about certain things but I’m finding situations have come up these past two weeks where he’s been over the top. I know this was traumatic for him and I am really trying to be kind and understanding. . I’m glad to have him here with me but I hope he goes back to how he was before.
i read about it, it is normal and it could be temporary or not. Time will tell.
I'm glad they found rehabs when he stood his ground and understand his worries about running out of money. I gather the state offers nothing to help those needing memory care who do not have finances. - it means the family must do the caring. That's very hard - too hard!!!
Yeah they give her meds , they should give it regularly though at bedtime rather than waiting for her to get agitated .
They tried to tell nephew today that PT , OT said she could go home with care set up . Nephew told them absolutely not , that she goes to rehab for now at least . He told them she’s still too confused for him to deal with her delusions . Shes accusing him of wasting her money again from when she was at the board and care home , which last time triggered an investigation when she called the Agency of Aging to complain . Of course there was no wrong doing . He told the social worker today at the hospital that he has to work and she can’t be home alone . So Hmmm , miracle , they found 3 rehab places for nephew to choose from . He doesn’t know what to do about her . But nephew says if she doesn’t improve she will need memory care which is very expensive and risks running out of money . She’s walking with help and a walker and feeding herself , so SNF is not an option. Imo she needs memory care even if she improves somewhat but I understand nephews reasons for trying to put it off some .,
He is distraught , he said he can’t live with her when she’s like this but he’s afraid of placing her in memory care and running out of money . I am very concerned about my nephew, he’s very stressed out .
Sis is bonkers every night, delerium . Not able to find a rehab willing to take her just yet ..
Social worker was vague said there are a limited number of available beds .
Reading between the lines . The facilities are choosing a less difficult patient . Can’t blame them .
Thanks . The AL she was in was a very affordable board and care home . We do not think she could go back there . She most likely would need at least memory care .
Sis is going to rehab . Nephew is at the end of his rope . Because of her last unexpected really good rally last year that ended up in her leaving AL and coming back home , nephew is afraid another decent rally may happen again.
He’s hesistant about memory care because of the fear of running out of her money . Medicaid only pays for SNF in my state ( and others). So we are down to hoping she either doesn’t walk or isn’t feeding herself so she can be placed in SNF . Although she has chronic issues of hypothermia which my nephew keeps an eye on at home and all that can be done is heated blankets , drink warm liquids .
A very low temperature that was not improving is why she was brought to the hospital again . I told nephew to ask if the chronic hypothermia would qualify her for skilled nursing. We will see .
gershun - I have had that sort of thing -a sense to take an alternate route. I believe the Lord is directing us for a purpose.
lu -lots of questions. Maybe we will know the answers when we get there.
I believe dreams have a significance, but that's not always easy to figure out.
Finally got rid of that sinus infection, I think! Nice to see the days getting longer. ☀️
this feeling after thinking that God has guided me. So only God knows but maybe what I felt was right.
So many things to ask God one day. :)
Maybe what you thought ,that God compelled you was right,
Only He knows~
Yesterday I was praying as I walked and decided suddenly that I'd go a different route. Later, I thought about it and thought that God had compelled me to go up a different street.
So, maybe my dream and God were trying to tell me something. Who knows.
I think when a dead loved one visits in a dream and it's some mundane activity like doing laundry, it's to let you know they're good and just stopping by. I have dreams about my late ex-husband who's been gone now 24 years. In them he looks like he did before he was sick. I can see his motorycle somewhere in the dream every time and he's doing some mundane task like fixing something on it. I have a recurring dream of him bringing the garbage cans up from the curb like he used to. We lived in a multi-family house. He took out everyone's garbage and always brought the cans back up too. Sometimes I'll have a dream that he's bringing the garbage cans in where I live now. Or he's pulling in the driveway on his bike. I think your mom and brother are just stopping by and visiting you.
@waytomisery
I hope for you and your family's sake that your sister gets placed this time. It will be a relief.
@ArtistDaughter
That was a nightmare about your mom going out for the walk alone. Sometimes when we have nightmares full of stress and worry, it's because our minds need to take out the trash and tidy the place up from time to time. Our mind is clearing out the stress, anxiety, fear, etc...
But, it is always nice to see them.
The dreams probably don't mean anything.
I bet it was nice to see your Mother and brother in your dreams though.
When I dreamed about my Dad,I felt like we'd been together and it was just great to see him.
and it started to overflow. My mom came over to help and said "you are too preoccupied" Then I realized I'd put the clothes in the washer still on the hangers.
Then I dreamt I was coming home from a long walk in the snow and my brother said "how do you walk so long?"
Not sure what those dreams mean, if anything.
I’m hoping for my nephew’s sake , it leads to permanent placement this time . He’s exhausted . 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
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