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So here are my thoughts on the subject and some will definitely not see my point of veiw but here it goes: when it comes to dementia hostility in a nursing facility or at home via resident with dementia and aggression, sorry but they are responsible for their own behavior and well-being. Most doctors, I believe, when it comes to your disease and health will hold you accountable for the way you lived your life. Smokers, diabetics, etc. All have ramifications of how you will turn out in the end. Healthcare is overwhelmed by bad decisions in life and alot has to do with how well you have treated your health.

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Not sure if you’re posting just to pick a fight or what the purpose is, but consider the pain of those here who are watching those they love, who through no fault of their own are experiencing the slow death of their brain. No, they didn’t live a life asking for it and no, they don’t deserve it. A brain can become sick and slowly decline just like any other body part, that often comes with behaviors that would embarrass and confound the person if they could still see themselves logically. Dementia isn’t bad choices, it’s heartless and cruel, much like these unfounded conclusions
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My FIL died of pancreatic cancer. The man lived as clean as anyone could. How do you explain this and so many other cancers? Cancers and diseases in little children? They never got a chance to make "bad decisions".

Control is an illusion and you've bought into it. You're going to have a rough road ahead if you think you are in the driver's seat...
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Congratulations....You seem to be in the VERY small percentage of people that remain completely untouched by dementia. The majority of people are affected in some way.
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You have no idea. My Mom never smoked or drank alcohol. Denentia did not run in her family, but she had it. There are different types that affect the brain differently but what happens with all of them, the brain dies. Aggression is caused by the frontal lobe being affected. This can take the sweetest person and turn them into an aggressive angry one.

I pray you never experience Dementia in a LO.
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There are people with conditions through no fault of their own that can lead to dementia.
My sister has an autoimmune disease called Sjogrens disease . It has many damaging effects to various organs including her heart, lungs and brain . Her brain does not get enough oxygen resulting in vascular dementia .
On top of that she also has Lewy Body dementia. She ate healthy . Never drank or smoked .

Your uneducated generalizations are offensive .
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Victim blaming and shaming has no place anywhere in society, but especially not here on a support forum. Wait until it's YOUR turn for disease. Then you'll suddenly change your "perspective" and quickly find someone or something else to blame beside yourself, trust me.
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I would encourage your becoming educated as regards conditions that cause dementia, and what can be done about them. Online has a wealth of information for you.

And if, truly, you have found the CAUSE of dementia, and you know what steps mankind can take to PREVENT that (and any other medical conditions), you should contact researchers at once. They will be very interested, I am sure.
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I work in the homehealth field and spent years helping and teaching caregivers to care for people with dementia I personally felt like I understood the illness fairly well, my grandmother had it I would use some of the experiences I had with her to pass along to caregivers to help them be better at their jobs. This was all before the last few years :( my father has dementia; he has behaviors and psychosis's (which is seen in some people with dementia ). I dont understand his behavior but either does he at least I dont think he does. Most days are awful for him and the people around him. His memory isnt effected as much as his behavior. Did my father live a clean life no but no one can say they way he lived caused this , his grandmother was the same way before she passed away and she never smoked or drank. I dont think anyone can say how dementia will affect each person.
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My mother never drank or smoked, I never saw her even just sit unless she was reading a book. She was an incredibly intelligent person who worked hard her whole life. She was on no meds until she was 90. Right now every organ in her body EXCEPT her brain functions much too admirably for her liking.

I guess a doctor would have advised her to have gotten other parents, as both died from strokes, and I’m sure she has vascular dementia herself.

The body fails. Genes come into play. It’s not as cut and dry as you might think.
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My husband was the healthiest man ever!
For 20 years while working he took sick day once! Just flu or cold.
Never smoked one cigarette and drunk occasionally one glass of wine or beer. And exercised for 2 hours daily. In addition to playing every sport, hockey, biking, skiing, hiking, he did marathons, triathlons.
Over 10 years ago he was diagnosed with Parkinson disease, actually his GP suspected years before formal diagnosis by neurologist.
We did not believe it as he had no symptoms except his writing became bad around 2011.
But his is not typical Parkinson’s, it is one without tremors which is worse.
Generally lifespan is shorter so perhaps it is due to his excellent health otherwise that he is still alive.
Drs were actually amazed at all his tests being better than people half his age. Until about a year ago.
Today as he probably has this disease for 15 years he can walk few steps, in pain on higher and higher doses of morphine and advanced stage of disease. Although lately he seems a little better.
He got PD in early sixties.
And why did he get this disease?
Rhetorical question.
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As far as I'm concerned, your perspective isn't worth a damn.
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You don't even know what you're talking about. My mom was diagnosed a year ago with alzhtimers and vascular dementia. She didn't smoke, drink or even take any medication her whole life . Didn't even take Tylenol unless she just absolutely had to. She is the sweetest person I jave ever seen and would do anything for anyone. She had no bad choices her whole life. It sickening to read your post. You should be ashamed of yourself. I don't wish this disease on anyone. Im watching my poor 100 pound fragile 78 year old mom suffer daily. I jave to tell her daily what she is diagnosed with because she forgets. She did nothing to get this disease
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You can do everything "right" and still get sick from a variety of disorders. And, people can do everything "wrong" and not get sick till the very end or from an unexpected injury/accident, etc. So many factors involved and plain fate involved.
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You cannot expect someone with a dying brain to behave in a good way. Dementia is often seen in people that did take good care of themselves. We aren't talking about cirrhosis of the liver from drinking. Dementia can affect anyone and make them do things they never would in their right mind.
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My husband is a doctor. He has dementia. He’d never ever shame a person for their illness. Your thoughts are incredibly inaccurate. Perhaps spend more time here reading what caregivers go through when dementia hits a loved one. Especially when the person afflicted has led a healthy, blameless life, or has been married to that person for decades or is a close friend or parent. There is no cure. Each person is uniquely afflicted by dementia. Bruce Willis doesn’t speak much any more. Imagine an actor not speaking-he has frontal temporal dementia. So does my husband, who can talk. All caregivers have our stories about dementia. For the record, I took care of my mother with end stage cancer-much easier. Take a few minutes to read about us and our posts here. Might be a good learning experience.
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I have a couple of relatives who used to make fun of people who were "senile". It was utterly uncalled for but these relatives were also eventually afflicted with dementia. It is a very cruel place in which to end up. Researchers are finding out more and more about how various forms of dementia are inherited or can come to be. But an aging brain is nothing to be dismissive about or resort to fault finding.
I believe that the statistics are that one in three people end up with some form of dementia or Alzheimer's. Think a long time about that.
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Difficult to believe that this is a post from a real human being. Do you comprehend that human beings are born at a place and time over which they have no real choice, and into an environment with a genetic code that literally dictates most of their lives. One of my best friends was a physician who had the greatest empathy for others and devoted much of his time to care for the poor. He led a good and healthy life but in his sixties and seventies he was the victim of two wasting fatal illnesses. His wife who was his caretaker and a lovely person died in her sleep. He was left alone, unable to care for himself. On the day he was to be transported to a long term care facility, he took his own life with an overdose. He made NO bad decisions in life.
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Pure ignorance!!
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