I wanted to thank everyone for their response.
One had mentioned that she hoped I wasn't going to cause problems that is not going to happen at least by me can't speak for step mom.
I just want to visit before something happens but it's apparent step mom doesn't want want me to.
Thanks so much.
I would lay it on thick about what if it was his mom and he couldn't say goodbye and anything else that you know would get to him.
I hope you find your dad.
One thing that I do know that she could have told the facility that he needs to be anonymous and they would tell you he is not there, even though he is.
In this case though, the shoe fits! Good luck in finding him. You are dealing with a very sad situation. I feel for you.
Good luck.
Remember, StepMom is the Lioness at the Gate. She who must be passed to get to your goal. Do your best, and then you can be assured in your life that is what you did. Wishing you the very best of luck.