Abuse of caregiver. Advice?

I think protecting her beloved animals is the problem. I'd talk to a shelter person and see if anyone would be willing to foster her pets until she gets on her feet and can take them back. Pets really limit a lot of possibilities.

As this may be hard to hear, it sounds like you may have to just leave with just the clothes on your back. I had to do this at age 13 when I was rescued by CPS and taken right out of school and to a group home. If you can't get your cats, just leave by yourself with just the clothes on your back.

As an abuse survivor myself, I can tell you that it usually ends in death. I know what I'm talking about, I lost my only bio sister. I don't know if you've ever seen on Facebook the children's wall of tears, but you would be surprised at all the children who have also died from abuse at the hands of their abusers and caregivers. What would make you think your abuser won't kill you? From what you're describing, this person really needs to have charges pressed against him and not just the cops called only for them to leave you in that situation. They're not doing their job by leaving you in that situation. You say you have nowhere to go but actually if you think about it, yes, you do! There are plenty of churches, battered women's shelters and you can even sleep under a bridge if the shelters are full. What you need to do is go somewhere safe and call the cops and press charges.

What you can do is visit the nearest business and tell one of the workers to call the cops and tell them why and that you live nearby if the police station is too far away. If you live near a fire station, hospital or the local human services, you can't even show up at one of them and have them get you some help. If all of those are too far away, just show up at the nearest business. If this is out in the country, just get out on the road and start walking toward town. Stay in plain view as much as possible. If your abuser chases you down, try to stop passersby if this is out in the country. If no one is around and you're out in the country, hop a fence and run through a field and hopefully to the nearest house for help but screaming along the way. If you have a phone, call 911 (if he hasn't taken away your phone). There is a lot you can do. You may have to leave with whatever clothes you have on your back and if you must leave in your underwear, someone will notice somethings off and will call authorities, especially if you must leave naked. This is the biggest red flag somethings wrong but you're not likely to get in trouble for indecent exposure or if you had to leave naked in order to save your life. There are other police reports on file according to you so this should help you. Call your local Bar Association and get a domestic violence lawyer who helps in this area and who can also recover money owed to you for your work.

If he happens to be out and you're home alone and there happens to be a car that happens to be running, I don't condone stealing cars but if this car is an extra car belonging to him or if he's sleeping, grab the keys if you know which ones they are and run out the door, into the car and lock the door behind you. Start up and get the heck out of there as fast as you can and speed up the road as fast as you can but do it safely. Go to the police department but take the keys with you. If you're stopped on the way, just tell them you were just abused again, and had to flee. Explain that you're not going back and that you need to go somewhere safe. Also see who can retrieve your cats but don't be surprised if the abuser hurts or kills them, make this known when you make the police report that if anything happens to your cats you're pressing more charges besides the abuse against you, but also for the cats. Have him arrested and then have someone help you get a lawyer. When they go for charges, the judge can order payment and even garnish his bank account and the bank accounts of anyone else who may have been involved in the abuse against you. Those who knew about the abuse and did nothing are probably accessories and they're just as bad as the abuser by doing nothing. You said they have resources, see how much your lawyer can get you.

Since there's an elder in the home where you're being abused, you also need to call the APS. If you've been abused as you say, then chances are this other person may have also been abused at one time and chances are there are probably others. This person really needs to be stopped and locked up, especially if there are children in this home

This post is more than 2 years old, and there was suspicion (after many posts) that the whole thing might have been a hoax.

The OP did not take advice when she (allegedly) had the problem 2 years ago. They are not likely to still be reading this.

Can we just put this one to bed?

I want to share my support for Jeanne's thoughts. I know of others who thought this was a hoax, and I still think so. In fact I'm really surprised others who've read the whole thread haven't caught the inconsistencies, except for Bookworm who really called the shots as she sees them.

This is another one of those fake posters who just went on and on and on, pretending to want to escape but always finding reasons not to. He or she is probably now on some other forum playing the same games.

Jeanne, thanks for clueing in the newer posters.

I didn't follow the whole thread but I had to respond as an abuse survivor myself. I didn't know this person may not have taken the advice but what I think also could've happened is the possibility that the OP may have tried to get out but was too scared or maybe they did get out and we don't know what the situation is. I know when I was rescued, I was unable to follow up with people I knew from my school because I was taken pretty far away where there was no way I could walk back to school given the very long distance. I wanted to tell my friends where I was and how everything went when I was called to the school office but because of the circumstances that unfolded, I didn't get that chance and I thought I would be able to come back from the school office and finish my day and just go with the CPS to a new location and just come to school from that location. Little did I know is this would never happen either. Hopefully the right authorities are reading this and will start explaining to people there rescuing that they may never see their friends or family again. Don't leave rescue ease in the dark, it causes more problems than you realize.

Regarding the OP, we don't know what the situation is. If this person had to relocate, we don't know what may have happened to their computer or if they were on a library computer. If they moved to safety at some point, perhaps they may have lost their login info to log into their account. These are just some possibilities to remember because when you must leave a violent situation, you may end up losing some things in the process and in some cases you may only come out with the clothes on your back. Don't judge, you just never know what someone else may be going through and I'm speaking from experience. When I was rescued by CPS from my dangerous parents, I was only able to come out with the clothes on my back. I wasn't able to really take anything with me. The CPS went out to the house and my abusers wouldn't even turn over no clothes for me at the group home. It wasn't until the sheriff came out and threatened my abusers with arrest if they didn't comply and turn over some clothes to the CPS for me at the group home. I don't know what happened to the OP, I never followed the thread but hopefully the situation is resolved and the OP is safe

Take your cats to the Vet. Worry about the bill in a few days. Tell them to board them and what your plan is. Then Just go to any ER and now they will have to take you. Explain your circumstances and they will be forced to call the police then file your report and they should be able to get you in a place for a night or two. Maybe more. If you have Facebook friends maybe private message them to see if you could stay with them. Heck I’d love to have a live in caregiver. Advertise on FB CareLinx. Com. You will be scooped up in no time.