My nana, who is dying of endstage emphysema, and getting worse every day told the hospice chaplain that she wants to die with me and my two boys at her side....um, i love her with all of my heart and would do anything for her, and if i have to, I would be at her side, but I pray to God that when he decides to bring her home to please let him do it in her sleep....idk that i will be able to not totally lose it if im there when it happens, i know i dont want my 10 year old to endure that, and my 18 year old says no way, he can barely handle to come visit her periiodically b/c the ill lady in the other room is not his nana....so do I discuss this with her? Do i discuss it with hospice chaplain and ask him to talk to her about it, or do I just leave it it God's hands, since that's where it all is anyway. And am I selfish for even thinking any of this?
HONOR yourself as you Care for others!
I would talk to the chaplain - I think that would help a lot!
Try to remember the good times and try to tell your mom about them. The hearing is the last sense to go even when you think they can't know what is being said. Soothing talk helps even though they probably can't respond vocally. And holding hands also helps.
Bless you, pooh!! My heart hears your cry.