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My spouse has cognitive issues that come and go as part of a larger neurological syndrome. When he's confused, he can chat with friends or post on Facebook in ways that are, while not horrible, means I need to monitor what he says and clarify. He doesn't like to admit he's confused and often doesn't recognize when he is, so is very resistant to me monitoring his social media.
Any suggestions for strategies? If it were a constant thing, I could subtly restrict is apps, but he'd notice during clear times if I did.

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You say the cognitive issues "come and go"
Would he comprehend a conversation with you when he is not confused where you explain that sometimes when he is confused he says things in a way that people might take the wrong way and would it be ok for you to monitor what he posts.
If, you have this conversation when he is less confused and he gives his approval either record the conversation or have a note written out saying you would only change something if it would hurt or confuse someone. You can both initial it indicating that you both understand.
Don't know how long the less confused state will last but it might be time to monitor all his activity and change what you need to. If it gets to the point where he gets real upset then it might be time to say goodbye to FB and other Social Media sites. This is just part of the overall decline that we all deal with.
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All it will take is one time for him to have a lapse in judgment and send sensitive info to some scammer on FB. It happens all the time -- just read about it on this very forum. I would make sure that info is locked up tight and protected (like freeze his credit, reduce his ability to access his checking account, etc).

You can go in and reduce the number of people in his friend group, block others. Like parental controls. If he notices... you will need to come up with a therapeutic fib to pacify his anger. Better that than having him banned for saying inappropriate things or being scammed.
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My daddy had problems too but he wasn't on social media his problem was the landline. People would call and want to do free estimates or want to get him to donate. So when I realized that he was losing his reasoning I purchased a "GrandPad" it is made for the people with dementia and ALZ in mind. It does not need wifi it works on data. It only allows the people they know to call, no scammers. It has games, news, and social media. He did not need the social media but I am sure you can ask about that. It was a great purchase and I have informed my daughter if I get that way to pull out the "Pad" for me. My daddy was in the military so name, rank, serial number and social security number were drilled in his mind.
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