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Condolences for your loss. These are the months when losing him goes from the brain into the heart. A bereavement Group might be worth a try. I went to one in the city, an hour away, after my 1st DH died of cancer. It was not run in a way that made me comfortable. A bit later one started closer, and it was wonderful. It is important to be able to share and feel safe. Big hugs!
Sorry for your loss. Bereavement is a long process. No time line and no rules. If there is a Hospice in your area most have Bereavement sessions and many are not just for families that had had someone on Hospice. So it is worth a call. Check churches in your area some have Bereavement sessions. Another possibility contact the Alzheimer's Association and ask if they are aware of any support groups. Alzheimer's and the loss you have had there can be a lot of what some may think of a guilt. The relief that this is over, relief that your husband is no longer suffering, relief that you will not have to care for him, relief that you can go back to what many consider a "normal" life. So many contradictory feelings and they are all normal. I have kept myself busy, sometimes I wonder if I am away from the house too much maybe a therapist would say I am avoiding...who knows. I have great days, and once in a while a song will come on the radio and I find myself crying. It has been almost 3 years. But there are times when it feels longer ago than that. Like I said there is no timeline, no rules as to how you should feel and when. I did not think I needed a Bereavement Support Group but I went anyway and I did something out of it. Honor his memory, grieve the loss but live your life.
Grandma1954..,.im also a “54”.... such a heartfelt answer, so honest and true. Ive been down that road. My husband passed from pancreatic cancer in 97 and when i hear the song Unchained Melody i still get tears in my eyes because i miss him, but also a smile on my face and in my heart, remembering the love we shared and the good times we had together. Thank you...
Thank you all for your thoughtful, kind and informative replies. I plan to attend a hospice bereavement support group beginning next week - giving it a try.
Im so glad you are giving the support group a try. When i lost my husband due to cancer, i was working in oncology at a large medical facility. I did take the initiative to go to hospice support group and they helped even more than the psychologist i had been seeing. Please take the time you need to grieve and begin the healing process...it’s different for each of us. Many blessings to you!💞
I searched for a support group after Luz passed away. Their on line pages espoused all of the successes some people had had with dating and subsequent marriages. I was not interested in that sort of experience. I haven't been to one yet. I actually felt better, just a bit, after talking to a neighbor whose own wife passed away 14 years ago. And to another acquaintance who has lost his second wife in October. I hope you find what you are looking for.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Bereavement is a long process. No time line and no rules.
If there is a Hospice in your area most have Bereavement sessions and many are not just for families that had had someone on Hospice. So it is worth a call. Check churches in your area some have Bereavement sessions.
Another possibility contact the Alzheimer's Association and ask if they are aware of any support groups.
Alzheimer's and the loss you have had there can be a lot of what some may think of a guilt. The relief that this is over, relief that your husband is no longer suffering, relief that you will not have to care for him, relief that you can go back to what many consider a "normal" life. So many contradictory feelings and they are all normal.
I have kept myself busy, sometimes I wonder if I am away from the house too much maybe a therapist would say I am avoiding...who knows.
I have great days, and once in a while a song will come on the radio and I find myself crying. It has been almost 3 years. But there are times when it feels longer ago than that.
Like I said there is no timeline, no rules as to how you should feel and when.
I did not think I needed a Bereavement Support Group but I went anyway and I did something out of it.
Honor his memory, grieve the loss but live your life.
I was not interested in that sort of experience. I haven't been to one yet.
I actually felt better, just a bit, after talking to a neighbor whose own wife passed away 14 years ago. And to another acquaintance who has lost his second wife in October.
I hope you find what you are looking for.