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You made the right decision, When I decided I can no longer take care of my mother I had to make that decision. I am a only child so I have no siblings to call to say help me with mom
Thank you. Today I made a difficult decision. My 81 year husband will be placed in a skilled nursing facility sometime in the next two weeks. It became clear a nursing home can do more for him than I can especially as his Lewy body dementia progresses. Thanks for your response.
The good news is, Carol, that when he is in the NH, you can visit him and maybe even have fun together (after he adjusts, which can take several weeks or so), instead of trying to watch and care for him all the time. God bless you for doing the best you can for him.....
We can offer suggestions and experiences, but the only ones who can make the decision are you and your family. You don’t give many details on what the situation is. How old is he? How old are you? How far advanced is the disease? Is he an easy going fellow or does he tend to be controlling and demanding? Do you have reliable and frequent help with his care? Is your home handicap accessible and if not, do you have the funds to make it so? How is your own health? If you keep him at home, can you physically handle his needs? Are you emotionally and mentally able to handle what comes down the road?
Unfortunately, as we’ve said before, there is no reverse gear on dementia. His disease will only get worse. If you research the other posts by caregivers on this site, you’ll see that sometimes those who go into it with the best of loving intentions can wind up on the edge of a breakdown. Keep in mind that at a facility, your husband will have three shifts of caregivers, around the clock.
Placing him in a facility takes planning. How to pay, filing for Medicaid, touring facilities, Speaking with his doctor for guidance isn’t a bad idea either.
I feel you have made the right decision. I just read that aggression is a symptom. He could hurt you unknowingly. My daughter was punched in the head by a patient with LB when she bent down to check a wound. She asked the woman why she did it and she didn't know.
I had to place my Mom because the money was running out. Because she was further away, I chose to visit every other day. Since the residents always looked clean I allowed them to do her laundry. I used their doctor. They had eye doctors, dentists and podiatrists that visited the facility. Activities all the time. They supply their toiletries and Depends. So no more shopping in that respect. I just visited.
Now, time for you to have some time to yourself. Please don't feel guilty. Neither you or your husband did anything to make this happen. Enjoy what you have left of your life. He is in his own little world now (my daughters words). You need to enjoy yours.
Thank you all for the good advice. He will be entering a NH on Nov 13. Stripping away my emotions , I truly believe a NH will do more for him at this point than I can. I am letting go after 54 years.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Unfortunately, as we’ve said before, there is no reverse gear on dementia. His disease will only get worse. If you research the other posts by caregivers on this site, you’ll see that sometimes those who go into it with the best of loving intentions can wind up on the edge of a breakdown. Keep in mind that at a facility, your husband will have three shifts of caregivers, around the clock.
Placing him in a facility takes planning. How to pay, filing for Medicaid, touring facilities, Speaking with his doctor for guidance isn’t a bad idea either.
Good luck and come come back with updates.
I had to place my Mom because the money was running out. Because she was further away, I chose to visit every other day. Since the residents always looked clean I allowed them to do her laundry. I used their doctor. They had eye doctors, dentists and podiatrists that visited the facility. Activities all the time. They supply their toiletries and Depends. So no more shopping in that respect. I just visited.
Now, time for you to have some time to yourself. Please don't feel guilty. Neither you or your husband did anything to make this happen. Enjoy what you have left of your life. He is in his own little world now (my daughters words). You need to enjoy yours.