We have no family left, and everything is in a trust, but no one wants to deal with my spous'es problems. I am advised that he should go immediately into AL or MC, even though he has no real problems. It seems to me that such an action would be cruel. Actually, his biggest problem is that he is in denial about the Alzheimer's disease. I am trying to get our house ready to sell while coping with my own health problems and everything else. Any suggestions?
I did have caregivers some in daily so he was used to others, not just me caring for him.
I had my sister as a back up if I needed more long term help.
If he still has friends that would come and sit and talk to him you could call on them to to come sit with him if you had to go to the store or a Dr. appointment.
When my husband was on Hospice one of the advantages of Hospice is a % of the care cost has to be provided by Volunteers so there were a few occasions I had a Volunteer sit with him.
Another advantage of Hospice is Medicare will cover the cost of Respite once a year so if I had needed more long term care I could have used that.
But you are right this is a thought that almost every caregiver has at some point.
You need to have a plan worked out.
Hiring caregivers is one of the things you should start doing so he gets used to others in the house and helping him.
You say your husband has no real problems, yet he is diagnosed with AZ. He obviously has some issues if he already has a diagnosis. I guess it's not unusual that people are in denial about have Alzheimer's. Why is that a big problem? If you are trying to convince him of this truth, I would move along and not worry about that. Does it really matter if he admits and understands that he has it? Having it may keep him from understanding and accepting it. The brain isn't working quite right anymore.
Sorry that you are also having health problems. To get your house ready to sell, you are probably going to have to hire someone to help you do the work and/or help with your husband so that you can get the work done yourself.
Good luck.
My cousins who are in their early 70s did just that; they bought into a senior community and are living in a brand new 2 bedroom apartment in Independent Living right now. They have no children or family to care for them when they need help, so they did the smart thing and took care of their senior years properly. When they need more care, they can move into AL or even Skilled Nursing on the same grounds; there's even Cancer Care, Memory Care, etc available to them on the same property.
Good luck!