10 years ago, after major, major surgery and pain meds, my husband began to decline mentally. 5 years ago I went away for 10 days and had to have someone come to stay with him (he said he was going to take a road trip by himself during that time). He got so bad I had to help him dress. This past March, when I had to have surgery, he seemed to "snap out of it" so he could take charge. There remains some long-term problems, like short term memory, motor skills, and following directions, but his mental capacity seems to have come to near normal.
But nobody "snaps out" of the commonest forms of dementia that tend to spring to mind - such as Alzheimers Disease and vascular dementia - even in the very stressful circumstances you describe; and particularly not once these horrible diseases have been on the scene for ten years.
So whatever is going on with your husband, it isn't a classic presentation of a typical dementia. You mention on another thread that his MD has "sprung" a series of mini mental state tests on him, which he consistently passes. What other neurological and psychological investigations have been done or considered? What other changes - for example, in his medications or his underlying health - have there been?
What was the major, major surgery about, if you don't mind my asking?
He still misinterprets almost everything I say, can't remember what I tell him about family phone calls, etc. Yet he can read a book on metaphysics and understand it when I can't!
It is good for my planning to know that this may NOT be a permanent change.
She has been declared mentally incompetent and does NOT have alzheimers but DOES have some other form of dementia.
The last factual thing I remember was going into the OR mid December. The next thing I was really aware of was six months later when I realized that I was in New Zealand on vacation. That was about 17 years ago and I still have some symptoms--like not being able to judge distances. That makes it easy for me to find in my car in the parking lot-- it is either sticking out in front of or behind all the other cars!!
All my "delirium" experiences were very real to me. It was "reality" that I had the problem with. I remember nothing factual from those six months because my brain was simply incapable to registering experiences. Along with, or as a cause of, my delirium, I was diagnosed with leucoencaphalopathy which basically meant that all my white brain cells were mush. My husband was told that I would never ever be able to work again--or at least, not as a nurse.
Just to prove them wrong --and not to boast in any way, but to prove the point--not only did I go back working as a nurse but I also attained my national (Canadian) certification as an Oncology Nurse Specialist, Hospice Palliative Care Nurse Specialist, got an undergraduate degree in Nursing (BSCN), followed by a masters degree in nursing (MN) and am now studying for my doctorate (ABD!!).
One year after my surgery/anaesthetic the MRI of my brain was totally "normal"--whatever normal means!! The 17 years in between have not been easy because I was left with a severe depression and PTSD because of some of the trauma I experienced but I am still here, still doing the best I can given my circumstances.
This may not help you with the situation with your husband but is sure helped me to write this down, to admit to what happened to me because I never quite got over the shame of the original misdiagnosis of "attention-seeking". Generally speaking an MRI and neuro-psych testing are rarely incorrect-- which is more that I could say for the physician who made my original "diagnosis". Never say die!!!!
Even some fairly severe mental conditions may still be improved or worsened by optimism and positive attitude or lack thereof!
However, as you can't judge distances and have trouble parking your car, should you be driving???
It's a possibility your hubby might have some level of event/stress related dementia from his serious surgeries, but it could be compounded by medications [assuming he's been taking the same stuff for most of the years since surgery?]
Has anyone checked his medications, to make sure each are compatible with the others? OR, checked for sensitivity to any of them? Warning labels always say stuff like "do not use if you have a sensitivity to this drug" for instance...but how can anyone know, if they never had it before, and no one checks up to make sure it's alright? Some folks must go on a medication holiday, stopping all but the bare essentials; some even stop those, under medical supervision. That allows Docs to evaluate how much of the situation is drug-related, and how much is something else.
Since he had the esophagus removed, as well as mosts of his stomach, did they install a stomach tube to deliver feedings?
What is his food intake composed of? This is a common problem, not only in cases such as your husbands, but in people who get any kind of stomach bands, bypasses, stapling, etc. for weight loss.
Did the Doc put him on replacement B12 and Folate? What about other B vitamins? B-Vitamins control all kinds of neurological issues. Without them, people can develop psychiatric, immune, skin, etc. issues, including what can appear to be dementias. Testing does not gel; but replacing the missing nutrients can and does.
Chewing food starts the digestive enzymes cascades down through the digestive system, more digestive enzymes happen because other ones happened higher-up in the system. As food progresses through the systems, it gets worked on by all those, in turn. If someone no longer has an esophagus and/or most of their stomach is missing, they pretty much permanently lack a whole cascade of enzymes, cannot properly process the nutritional input, therefore don't get much of any nutrients from the feeding, to keep their head clear of neuro symptoms, and prevent loads of other health issues.
Also, anesthesias have notoriously triggered all kinds of long-lasting health issues, despite medicine claiming "they wear off completely in a few days"
....some folks take Weeks to clear those from their systems.
IF anesthesia was a spinal delivery, instead of a gas via airways, if his head was raised sooner than about 8 hours after surgery, the anesthetic in the spinal column will cause all sorts of very long-lasting issues. It's unfortunately common for medical and nursing personnel to forget this fine-point of post-op care, and prematurely raise the person's head up to put a pillow, or transfer them to a bed. Patients who have had a spinal anesthesia, must lay flat on their backs for several hours, at least. People have ended up with very chronic migraines, mental issues, etc., just from having a pillow put under their head.
Then there's the narcotic pain meds, which often can trigger delusions and hallucinations.
It can be upsetting to your hubby too, as he very likely knows something is haywire, and cannot stop it from happening, because it's chemically or nutritionally driven. It can be scary, infuriating, frustrating. Since it's chemically driven, the person experiencing it has a very hard time telling what's causing it; they're inside the problem, struggling through clouded sensorium. Somewhere inside, they still feel like themselves, just, things don't work right.
I hope you can get his Docs to check his meds, and check his nutrition.
If his regular Docs refuses to check his nutrition [very common], you might find a good, and willing, Naturopathic Doctor, to run nutritional profile tests, to learn what's what. I'd bet it has something to do with most all B-vitamins low or missing, maybe D3, and a full spectrum of major and trace minerals.
Please keep us posted what you find!
I hope you both find out, and soon!
I am making a wild guess at a pre-existing psychiatric and/or neurological condition, which you may well already be aware of. It seems unfair and it is sad to think it too, but neither would prevent a person from also developing dementia - some, or the treatment for some, might conceivably even make him more vulnerable - which returns you to Square One with your question, I'm afraid.
What is it that you really want to know, though? If you want to understand your husband's medical history and prognosis better, and assuming your husband would be happy with the idea, then make an appointment with his GP and take a list of questions. It won't help you, and it isn't all that fair to your husband's practitioners, to select one or two aspects of his obviously complex condition and seek opinions out of context from us amateurs.
But I do wish you both many more "good days." Best of luck.
Not that I gave never been guilty of speeding--I just never got caught, but that, too is becoming almost impossible given the rapid increase of speed traps, lasers, cameras etc. and now "roving" speed traps whereby the cameras are on board a moving vehicle in the middle lane and, if you pass it -CLICK. Welcome to the world of Big Brother, the latest "cash cow" for municipalities.
His MD regularly goes thru' his meds to see if they need adjusting. Recently added Mirtazapam has helped tremendously as an antidepressant. The others offer a precarious balance of anxiety meds and pain which he's been told he'll have forever from all the adhesions in his abdomen from multiple surgeries. He had no previous to surgery issues both psychiatric or neurotic. He had a completer workup with a neuro-psychiatrist who first determined he had dementia.