My father had a stroke and now can't use his right side. He can't walk and barely is able to feed himself. He was taken to rehab after leaving the hospital. His young wife is living her best life and told the nursing home that she was going to leave him there because she is unable to take care of him.
Stop shouting and jumping to conclusions and trying to tear your stepmother a new one. Get all the facts FIRST before you do a single thing. Treat her with respect as you give her the benefit of the doubt here. Your father is in REHAB after being hospitalized for a stroke. This doesn't mean he's there permanently, either. Learn how the process works.
Relax, breathe, and act like an adult as you try to do what's best for all concerned here.
Good luck
If you do not think he is getting proper care, or that you can provide better care you can TRY to obtain Guardianship. This will be a lengthy and potentially expensive thing to do.
And you would need to prove that your care would be better for him and safer for him than in a Skilled Nursing Facility.
Placing someone in a Skilled Nursing facility is the appropriate then got do if you do not think you are able to safely care for someone.
Caring for someone that is in the position your father is in is not going to be easy.
Someone will have to be with him 24/7/365.
You mention that you work full time and you have 3 children. How do you propose that you are going to be able to continue to do what you do and care for your father?
*please do not use all CAPS...it is like you are shouting at us. thank you.
Yeah, sure. Her husband is now in a nursing home for the long term, cost them thousands of dollars each month, but sure, she's out there "living her best life."
I'm sure you're right there with all the facts, right?
As hard as it is for you that your daddy's life has changed so abruptly, it is really important to know what his actual medical situation is before you try to take him from care.
I lost my grandmother to a series of strokes, Friday I had the best grandmother on the planet, Monday she was gone forever but, there was a body that looked just like her. We tried to care for her at home, it wasn't a doable situation for anyone and grandma was better cared for in a facility. So, I know how tragic strokes can be.
Please, please find out what is going on with him medically and try to work with his wife to ensure he is getting the best care possible.
I am so sorry your family is dealing with this.