My boyfriends great grandma and his uncle and grandma are all living In a house with bed bugs and roaches, they are so bad the roaches are flying. It's been going for at least 6 years. There kids and grandkids don't ever come to help or even see them at all! Not in years! Well Elsie the great great grandma who is 83 had fallen the other day and we took her to the hospital,well now Scott there very well off son/grandson, came up to see her and say he's going to put her in a nursing home and that's that. Well what about there home! What about mitch and Karen,his parents! What will they do because the hospital has opened up a case on the home and it will be condemned! We just want justice, we can take care of them we just need financial help! Is there a way we can help sue him for the neglect and abandonment so they can live comfortably without getting bit or without being put somewhere they don't want to go!
Is the "rich" relative their PoA? If not, who is? If no one is there PoA, it is possible the elders refuse to assign one or refuse help. This is a *very* common scenario that leaves caretakers with few good options. Has anyone ever reported them to APS as vulnerable adults?
Unless the elders qualify for Medicaid (and in most states Medicaid only pays for LTC) then they are stuck paying for their own help. If they need 24/7 care, this is very expensive, sometimes more expensive than a facility.
Family caregivers need to be paid by the elders out of their own funds. Even if they qualify for an Elder Waiver (the in-home care option of Medicaid) it is not common to get 24/7 caregiving paid and it is at minimum wage.
No, the "rich" relative cannot be sued by you or the elders. Please make sure you know all the details before you get angry about their care. FYI in a facility his Grandma will get social interaction and the possibility of activities and events, plus the medical care she needs.
If you think you 2 can possibly take on the task of caring for them, then they'd need to assign him PoA or he needs to pursue guardianship through the courts (at about $10K each person).
I understand it is upsetting to see the conditions they are living in, but sometimes their impaired minds cause them to resist moving or outside help. It happens all the time, and is complicated by there being no PoA or legal guardian. You can read more about it on many posts on this forum.
I sincerely hope this is a troll post. I didn’t even get to the “justice” part 😂
So no, you can't sue Scott or any family members. With roaches and bed bugs I would not be visiting with them either. They could carry these creatures back to their homes.
BF should not be supporting them. What needs to be done is find resources to help them. If Uncle or his Mom are disabled there is Social Security disability. There is Supplemental income (SSI). Foodstamps. Food pantries. HUD housing. Low Income housing. So, again, if APS is involved, let them handle the situation. They can get these people help alot faster than BF can.
These adults are all competent to make their own decisions (unless proved otherwise). They can choose to live this way (bad decision or not).
If the situation looks unhygenic or dangerous, report to APS.
What do you expect the other relatives to do? Visit, say "Clean this place up!" The residents say no or yeah we will, later.. they don't.
Do you expect the 'rich' relatives to ride in with a cleaning team, pest exterminators, home maintenance & decorators? What then? How long before the home is roach infested again.
PS What would YOU do if you were the 'rich' relative?
You are not going to get the financial help you would need to take care of these elders so give that fantasy up right now.
You ask what about their home? What about it? It's a nasty bed bug and roach infested place and if the grandson was smart he would call adult protective services about it.
A nursing home is the appropriate place for these 3 mentally ill seniors.
Since APS is now involved, let them do their jobs.
I can't really follow your 'tale'...but I hope you don't get too involved. The 'younger elders' can't be much over 60 and that's hardly elderly, by any standards.
If you're planning to 'sue' the rich relative for money to care for this passel of folks, you're NOT going to get it from him.
You could be of more help by trying to improve their current living situation. Lawsuits take time,even valid ones. Meanwhile they are still living in undesirable conditions. I also strongly agree with others that this is not a case for a legal remedy.
Sadly sometimes the rich remain so by being self centered as opposed to altruistic.
Adults are free to make their own bad choices and live any disgusting way they choose.
The true "justice" here would be for their house to get condemned and all get placed in managed care where they will be forced to live a decent lifestyle.
If great-grandma is 83, then I'm assuming the parents/elders in the roach-ridden house are about, what, early 60s at most?
Seriously? They can't care for themselves?
If you truly feel the need, you can contact the police for a welfare check, but otherwise, they can likely care for themselves and choose to live like slobs. Thank goodness the grandson took Elsie out of there.
They are adults and obviously not able to make good decisions. and care for themselves. As for Grandma, the best place for her is in a NH, she will be out of the squalor.
Stay out of it, not your circus, not your monkeys you are not a family member, it is their issue to resolve IF they want to become involved.
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