Follow
Share

My aunt is 88 years old and has lived in a care facility for six years. She does not have dementia but she has always been mentally unstable. Nobody in the family will speak to her except for me. She is a hoarder and accuses everyone from stealing from her. And she sold her home six years ago and moved into this facility. She used all the money for her care. She told me she was being evicted August 20. She gets $1200 a month SSI. She said that it’s $200 more than what would qualify for senior care. We live in California. I don’t know how to help her.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Find Care & Housing
Check with the facility. August has come and gone. What's the status of the eviction? She probably has Social Security not SSI, because the amount is too high for SSI. Hasn't the facility helped her get MediCal to pay for her care? Could her behavior be getting her removed? I think the situation may not be as she has said it is. Try not to get sucked in too deep into her drama.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report
Maggie61r Sep 2021
I believe that you're right - her behavior is probably the reason she's being removed. My former boss had that issue with his father and it made it difficult to find some place that would tolerate him.
(1)
Report
First I would call the facility to find out if and why she is being evicted.
Then maybe call the Department of Aging in your area, explain the situation and see if they can help in any way.

I apologize and know it's not much & kind of generic answer, but it may give you a starting point.

Best of luck.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Is this an Assisted Living? Find out if this is true. Then I would call Adult Protection Services. Explain that there is no one that is willing to care for Aunt. They will evaluate and hopefully take over Aunts care. They will find her the help she needs much faster than u can. A judge will assign her a guardian.

I don't think she makes too much in Social Security to get Medicaid. Each State has different criteria. My Mom received $1700 a month and received Medicaid in NJ where the cap was a little more than 2300. But neither she nor you will need to worry about that if you allow the State to take over.

Please don't volunteer or be talked into caring for her. Caring for someone with mental problems is not fun. Do not become her POA either if you already are not one.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report
0green1 Sep 2021
Thanks. I did call APS and did not get a call back. I will try again. Thanks for the info on the amount from social security
(1)
Report
Speak to the county agency for the elderly. They can advise on specifics.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Area office on aging should be able to help with practical.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

So she does not want them to speak with me she is very secretive. By the time she tells me anything it’s usually to late and I never know if she’s Telling me the truth. I think that she is an undiagnosed schizophrenic. Her moods have always been extreme (that’s why no one in family will speak to her). She is the last one of my moms siblings.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Swe if the ALWPP program is still in effect. California here too and retired case manager. If she has MediCal, there may be a medCall rate for various facilities. ALWPP might have a wait list. Assisted Living ?Placement plan. Also ask about the PACE program. They have whole teams to help. Does she have a geriatrician? Their office should be able to help you coordinate care.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

If she is denying u permission to speak to them, leave a written note for her doctor, just leaving a message if they happen to run across this patient. That way they get your info and do not have to confirm or deny they know her. They cannot contact you without her permission but at least will get info
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter