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Every time I take him in the bathroom to go to the bathroom. Because, I know he has to go. He just stands in there than he just wants to get out of the bath room.....HELP............THANX..................
I hope you are using incontinence briefs at least! My mom rarely feels the urge to go anymore and doesn't realize when she has gone, so I have her on a schedule. Will he stay if you seat him on the toilet? Lots of older guys have to sit instead of stand due to poor aim and mobility issues. Try getting him to the bathroom after meals and at any other logical times and leave him there for at least 5 minutes, it often takes that long or more. It's not exactly the same as going on his own but it saves on pull ups and cleanup time.
My 90 year old Father is having this problem also and he refuses to where incontinence briefs. 90 year old Mother does wear them Thank God! Problem is that Dad is starting to go on the floor and Mom is walking in it. Don't know what to do. Sorry I have no answer to the question. Both parents are impossible.
Cher, are they at home? Watch for that to ecome a safety issue.
And on old men not using the bathroom. We had it here, mostly because he just did not know when he had to go. Enlarged prostate will cause this problem, then add dementia to it?! Forget about that. There must be a way to get him to cooperate with wearing Depends. Does he have dementia?
I agree- remove all other underwear choices. Assist him with putting the men's version of Depends on and pulling them up. Don't ask, don't give choices, just get it done. Say the doctor said to do it this way. Take your opinion out of it, and use somebody else as the excuse. "Dad, you're testing these for the doctor. I said you wouldn't mind doing this for him."
Explaining the logical side of "this is unsanitary and a safety hazard around the house" will get you nowhere.
One way my Mom got my Dad to start using Depends was when she had it cleaning up after him. The next time he messed on the carpet she [97] handed Dad [93] the cleaner and paper towels. And stood there watching him to make sure he got it clean. After of few more times of Mom refusing to clean up "his mess" and Dad having to do it, Dad started to wear the Depends :)
this is a tough one! my stepmom got a commode and my dad uses it in the TV room. For some reason he is very resistant to use the toilet in the bathroom, even though he is totally humiliated when he soils himself. He wears depends. Could your dad be afraid of something? It is really hard to tell when people who for all of their lives were reasonable start losing cognitive ability. We have to get creative!
Hi gladiamhere, Yes they are home. Sorry I did not get back to you a few days ago but my computer was down. Yes Dad has enlarged prostate and has dementia. My Father has always been unreasonable about everything. It is just coming to a head..
Often my husband does not want to leave what he is doing (watchng a game show on tv). He will feel the urge but won't go until it is too late. Then he does not want to bathe. This is a constant battle.
mitzjoe, you wrote the original post early August, and some of us here had questions for you to answer, if you are still out there, please come back so we can get a better understanding what is going on.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
And on old men not using the bathroom. We had it here, mostly because he just did not know when he had to go. Enlarged prostate will cause this problem, then add dementia to it?! Forget about that. There must be a way to get him to cooperate with wearing Depends. Does he have dementia?
Explaining the logical side of "this is unsanitary and a safety hazard around the house" will get you nowhere.