I am a care giver, but it seems the road always has bumps in it. I just had my breast biopsy yesterday. I did not get SAD until it was over. The doctor walked out and the nurse was with me. I started to cry. I said, I am not afraid for myself. I am fearful of what will become of the one I love of whom I am the sole caregiver. It is amazing when in life, someone else's live means more to us than our own. It may turn out that I don't have cancer and that would be great. But, it made me sit up and realize how much we truly do affects others in our work. Has anyone ever visited the Cancer Institutes that are advertised? I thought if I do have cancer, I may go that route.
You've had a wake-up call. You are frightened at the prospect. Your stress level is out the roof. Concentrate on getting your diagnosis confirmed first. Personally, I would only go to one of these cancer specialty hospitals if it was close by. Their commercials make it sound like they have treatments no one else has. Absolutely not true.
Your wake-up call is what we always remind posters. The loved one you're caring for may outlive you. When you have all this behind you (and you will), let the lesson learned be that you need a Plan B.
In the meantime, use your concern about your loved one and what would happen to them IF drive you forward to focus on something other than your future diagnosis.
A diagnosis of breast cancer is far from a death sentence. Hang in there. Wash walls! ;)
Not sure I would go to our cancer center. We live near the James cancer center and while they are good I have heard you are treated like a lab experiment. Probably would go to a hospital.
As for the Cancer Treatment centers, I was under the impression those centers are used when nothing else is working. One has to weigh the pros and cons. I had an outstanding Oncologist and fantastic surgeon who weren't part of any type of well known groups that one sees advertised.
Turned out I had developed hypertension and some of my shortness of breath was fixed with blood pressure pills. Plus, any time I have any type of surgery or an injury, that shortness of breath will show up for a while. Now I don't worry about it, knowing eventually most of it will go away.
My doctor is the best. He proved it with this. Last night, he went back to the office after 6:00 and wanted to check to see if the report had come in. Sure enough it had. He called me at home and gave me the good news. His first statement was..."now tell me, why did they think you had cancer?" Then he laughed with me and said, lets go forward and put this behind us, but use it to make sure we continue to get those "grams"every single year Lee. Because it was negative, my Partner was told where I had gone at 7:30 am the other morning. He was happy for himself and his care, but he too "thinking of me", was so happy with me.
Thank you ALL of you. You mean more than just checking in each day for our daily report. God Bless you ALL
I would not go to cancer center. Just focus on your mom and yourself. and remember stress cause things worse for you and for mom
God bless you.