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Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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You need to take care of your mental well being and financial stability. The therapist is correct in the suggestion of going low contact with the family. Let them find someone else to abuse. I wish you well.
Back out, get your life together, start building for your future. Helping is one thing, becoming a prisoner with invisible bars is another, you hold the key to your future, use it.
I don’t know the specifics of your situation but I sense a lot of similarities to my own experience. To be honest, I don’t think this is something one can “navigate.” You can’t navigate your personal destruction or maneuver your physical, mental and financial demise. You put an end to the process. Destroying yourself to help an unappreciative family is not okay. You will be in a much better place to deal with it from a position of physical health and emotional well being. It’s not selfish, it’s survival.
When you return to health and stability you can choose to assist but do it with rock-solid boundaries. YOU set up the framework for what you can and cannot do, not your family. They’ll keep trying to pull you back into their toxic tornado so be prepared to keep your emotional distance and don’t engage in their bs. A support system is huge so keep reaching out on this site. There’s a lot of wisdom and heart here.
Don't give your family anymore money. If they are old enough to pay their bills, they use their money to pay those bills, don't bail them out. Cut your family out of your life, the bank of you is closed.
Caregiving can destroy the best of us in so many ways. I feel your pain. Run as fast as you can! If you feel like you want to help them, find a plan for others to do the heavy lifting. It’s too much for one person.
Money goes fast! Save for your own future needs. To help someone temporarily over a hump is one thing, to drain all of your resources is quite different.
I am not a ‘know it all.” I made my own mistakes. Please do better than I did. Take the opportunity to prevent any future damage now.
Your grandmother is in assisted living. What sort of support are you giving her, and who is it bringing you into contact/conflict with, and what care is your grandmother not currently getting that you feel you need to supplement?
I assume you don't make the decisions about your grandmother's care and welfare - who does?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
When you return to health and stability you can choose to assist but do it with rock-solid boundaries. YOU set up the framework for what you can and cannot do, not your family. They’ll keep trying to pull you back into their toxic tornado so be prepared to keep your emotional distance and don’t engage in their bs. A support system is huge so keep reaching out on this site. There’s a lot of wisdom and heart here.
Wishing you strength, peace and better days.
How did it come to be that you are your grandmother's caregiver? Did you agree to this? Are you being paid for your time and caregiving?
When you attempt to change the situation, what is the response by family? Who has Power of Attorney for your grandmother?
Money goes fast! Save for your own future needs. To help someone temporarily over a hump is one thing, to drain all of your resources is quite different.
I am not a ‘know it all.” I made my own mistakes. Please do better than I did. Take the opportunity to prevent any future damage now.
Best wishes to you. Hugs!
I assume you don't make the decisions about your grandmother's care and welfare - who does?