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contested will never reached probate and the case was filed. Oldest daughter was deemed representative of the estate. This case has been going on for almost a year and the caregiver is still occupying the house. There are major concerns regarding him selling off property and assets. Reaching out for any legal actions we can take to protect whatever is left in the house.

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Ok, the “Caregiver” actually is Moms brother, OPs Uncle, Dads BiL.

The “contested will never reached probate and the case was filed” does not make sense. A will - in my experience - has to be filed in probate court /PC by a person (or their attorney) who considers themselves to be with “standing” in order for the will to be evaluated as valid. A will does NOT stay floating about, has to be filed in PC to get determination done.

So, I bet, likely the caregiver, who is actually family as late fathers BiL/moms brother, filed that will in PC & it was contested by probate attorney representing you & your siblings. If determined invalid, if dad had no will, Dad died intestate so a lineal heirship usually is done. Lineal required to seek out heirs (all spouses, all kids even if dead) and also their wills/probate filings related to all spouses & all kids. Details interlocked & because of this takes time. It’s specialized probate work.

Sounds like BIL is legally long time resident of home owned by your parents. Until distribution of assets of Estate done, new ownership really isn’t established to have eviction easily done. BiL being in the home keeps property secured. BiL provides continuity of upkeep on property…. He can use that as why being there is a plus.

To add to murkiness on this, was probate done when mom died? Did mom leave assets to her brother? Did BiL move his own items into the place when he moved in years ago? If you were not really involved with your folks, you may have no idea whose stuff is whose.

In my not an attorney but have been an Executrix X 3 opinion, what is happening is this: probate court has placed Estate under Dependent Administration with eldest sibling as Administrator. Totally court supervised probate. This is all attorney work, and attorneys with litigation experience AND do lineal as well. $$$$. Sister as Administrator is point person for contact but has no authority to do independent actions; all require filing a request for an Order and until those lineals are established that ain’t happening imo unless something is of imminent threat. & even then all actions get reviewed. You need to let the attorneys do their job and pay legal fees and court costs to enable this. BiL has his own legal. Only person who should be dealing with any of this is Sister named Administrator through the attorney. Not you.

Could be unthreading of not 1 but 2 Estates…… your moms and her heirs (this can be challenged too) and after that is done, your dads and his heirs. FWIW Uncle can easily say only dealing with household items that he moved in with years ago; or his Sister gave him; or items belonging to their family. It could be argued that daughters estranged from the parents…. Family drama cuts both ways

A year in probate is nothing.
Probate can go on for years. Ultimately decisions will need to be made. Like Asset filings done & Claims done till not affordable* & that is usually when someone buys others out or house sold with agreed % to all interested parties after legal, Claims & real estate costs paid.

*if Dad died w/$, it’s paying Estate costs. If not, if whomever is paying, is filing Claims, y’all are going to have to settle those Claims to ever close out probate.

That you left out the caregiver living in the house after Dad died was in fact family, as to how you described this drama initially, is so not a good look for you. He was your fathers late wife’s brother. An Uncle. Dads BIL. Your moms bro resided in his Sisters home providing caregiving & companionship & continued even after his Sister died.

Please reread what Burnt Caregiver has posted. 100% spot on. That law enforcement hasn’t removed him is because he legally appears to have rights to be there.
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BurntCaregiver Aug 2023
igloo,

There would not have had to be a Will probated for the mother if the property was done in survivorship deed to the father and vice versa. This is normally how married couples do property because it leaves out the need for probate and probate costs.
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I'm sorry to say but you/your family needed to take action and remain proactive at the earliest notion you suspected something was wrong. Why didn't anyone call APS, local police department/sheriff's to do a welfare check on your father? What you're describing is coercive control, financial abuse, and alienation which are all aspects of elder abuse. Your BIL was given too much power over an elderly person with dementia and none of you were concerned enough to stop him? So can you see how this comes across as only caring about what monetary gains you thought you stood to inherit instead of taking steps to challenge your BIL's behavior at that time? I don't even know how you have a case, frankly, because the burden of proof is on you to prove what you suspect. This is going to get dragged and be very costly on you.

You're asking legal questions none of us are really capable of answering. Your attorney should've advised you or answered your question about BIL residing at the property. As Burnt already explained to you, if by now BIL has not been removed by law enforcement, he has a right to live there. Until/unless a court order has been issued otherwise for him to vacate the premises.

Just because someone has dementia, at the time your father signed everything over to BIL, doesn't mean your father was incapacitated either. He could've had dementia but still been independent with his ADLs. How can you prove he wasn't when it sounds like you were all cut off from contact? Going back in time to prove he was without his mental faculties falls on you now.

No bank is going to recognize you as a beneficiary, so I don't see how you can protect whatever assets you are concerned over. And if none of you had any legal authority to manage his assets, you can't cry foul to the bank either. Again, that's what you're paying the attorney to advise you!
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igloo572 Aug 2023
If there actually is $ in the now deceased Dad’s bank account, it’s an Asset of the Estate (unless it was POD/TOD) and imho the attorney will (after they are paid their retainer) have the Sister named as Administrator to first and foremost use that $ to pay for whatever items needed to secure any other Assets of the Estate.

LSS Sissy needs to use the $ to pay property taxes, property insurance, maintenance and repairs on the house, utilities and anything else needed to keep that property and any other Assets safe & secure. Unless some of these items and their costs are being covered by their Uncle who is continuing to be a full time resident in the property. But OP better realize that if Uncle does this, he can file these costs as his own Claim against the Estate.

If there is zero $, and Administrator Sissy is having to front these costs, and other Estate management costs, she too can file her own Claim against the Estate for her own outlays. So if Uncle and Administrator are fronting costs, They both can file Claims and get paid from the eventual closure of probate….. whether it’s the house gets sold or use it towards their “kitty” as they force a buy out.

Realistically, unless the place is worth significant value, 3-4 heirs after lineal work done and couple of years of probate and couple of years of maintaining an older home and it’s taxes without any exemptions, there may not be the pay-day you anticipated!
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I'm going to play a little devil's advocate here.

Right, wrong or indifferent, it seems to me that OP's parents wanted to stay in their own home, and by Uncle moving in with them they were able to achieve that goal. I don't think it's that far out of the realm of possibility that these parents, in turn, revised their will to ensure that Uncle wouldn't be out on the streets after they passed away. I can't say as I think this is nefarious on the Uncle's part, either. After all, we've seen instances here where caregiving children gave up hearth and home to move in with parents to give care to them as they aged, only to have the financial rug pulled out from under them once parents passed on and other siblings show up with their hands out, looking for their "share" of the estate. And I've seen people here comment on how unfair that is, and how the caregiving child who gave up so much should get the house as retroactive "payment". Why is this scenario any different from that? Because in this instance it's not a child doing the caregiving but instead a sibling? That shouldn't matter.

Just as children don't owe their parents caregiving, neither do parents owe their children an inheritance.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
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What does your attorney say? I spent 4 years dilly dallying around with my husbands estate due to his children. I prevailed but is was stressful and unnecessary!

I did all of the preliminary legal work myself so I know what it entails.
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You say the eldest daughter is the executrix/administrator.
What does she say?
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If the Caregiver inherits, it could be that he is a family member? Or a stranger to you?

Wondering if anyone noticed the undue influence and selling off property and assets during parent's lives?

Are you a part of the family that could have inherited?

Was there a POA involved prior to death?

So sorry for your loss, and now a lawsuit.

Can you tell us more?
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I'm a little confused. If oldest daughter was deemed as the rep for the estate, what has been her role throughout the management of this estate? What contact was there with the caregiver by family prior to reaching conclusion of undue influence?

Undue influence falls under elder abuse. Did anyone in the family take steps prior to this point to ensure elder was not under coercive control? Is that documented? Is the title is in the caregiver's name? Is there a current forensic investigation into the caregiver's finances? Where did this caregiver come from? an agency? private hire?

Unfortunately, these cases get dragged without quick, timely resolution. Your attorney should've advised you what this process entails. Plus attorney would be the right person to advise best course of action. They are privy to information about this case we wouldn't know or guess about unless you can share more? I'd like to help you more but there isn't much to go by with what you posted.
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MatterOfFactly Aug 2023
hello,

Yes the attorney is helping with all the necessary steps, I was just reaching out in the hopes anyone else may have been through a similar experience. There were a handful of occasions when my parents were hospitalized for falls and dehydration and we took steps with the hospital social workers to see what our options were because we were getting concerned for the level of care they were receiving. Both parents wanted to remain at home and refused private skilled nursing aides and rehab, continuously reverting back to that the brother-in-law could handle it. This happened many times. All the other details and happenings regarding POA designations and joint accounts etc. all came to light after my parents both passed. With a new will being presented to us by brother -in-law that all 3 daughters were disinherited. I know that this will be a very long haul but as the case continues more and more suspicious activity is being discovered. I was just taking a chance to see if anyone knew of any loopholes or temporary protections methods we could put into place in the meantime due to brother-in-law having unlimited access to entire estate while this all gets worked out.
thank you for your interest
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Well, MatterOfFactly you and your siblings (if you have any) or your daughter probably should have been keeping an eye on things at your parents' house. who"deemed" your daughter representative of the estate? A court?

If the inheriting caregiver is still living in the house and a sheriff has yet to throw them out, then they likely have a legitimate claim.
I was a caregiver for 25 years and have seen every kind of situation. In my experience when an estate gets left to a caregiver, it's usually because the person's family did squat for them and left every responsibility up to a caregiver.

I'm not saying this is the case with your parents, but did you have any "major concerns" when they were living and in the care of this person? Like you do now because they may try to sell off part of the property and assets?

Years ago I was one of three caregivers to the most beautiful and wonderful man ever. He died of AIDS. He was very wealthy and left his estate to his caregivers. His family who had disowned him because he was gay and who did absolutely nothing for him when he was sick were positively livid.
They tried hard to break his Will and lost. All they gained was a whole lot of very expensive lawyers bills that they had to pay for themselves.
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If the eldest daughter is executrix of the estate, do you think opening probate may help to secure the estate with the probate court's eyes on it, and an attorney?

Otherwise, without probate, isn't is just another civil suit? I don't know, and hope you have an attorney for yourself.

Probate does take a very long time also.

It does seem strange that a will excluding beneficiaries has not entered probate. The will had to be authenticated, right?
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More info regarding case: Caregiver was my fathers brother-in-law, he was estranged from the family for over two decades my mother predeceased my father. Brother-in-law starts showing up a few years ago, doing minor repairs and such. He eventually moved in, changed locks, made it extremely difficult for family to visit, ignored calls and wouldn’t answer door etc. Will was changed, leaving everything to him. We were able to file our case before he was able to open probate. Both parents had dementia dx, which is why we are currently in the thick of contesting the will. My question is in regards to the house and where the law stands with allowing brother-in-law to stay there? And any possible actions we can take to protect the assets in the house while this case is pending litigation. Because technically my father has been declared as passing intestate. All input is greatly appreciated.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
Only a lawyer knows.
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