She does this probably about 5 out of 7 days.. I just want to know if anyone else deals with this? I think it's anxiety... She naps during the day and goes to bed around 9pm..When she wakes during the night to pee I think she knows I'm sleeping and starts to panic that I'm not awake with her... She has an in law on the first floor, my bedroom is on the 2nd floor, she'll stand at the bottom of the stairs and call my my name in the fakest whining voice...After I get up she moans and groans for about an hour and then she is fine!!!She is on .5mg of lexapro which has helped with the constant "looking for me" during the day ..But I dread getting up early and am tired of this everyday!!
I did not mean to unload to answer your question about your mother getting up and calling you during the night but I believe they are panic attacks like my mother has and I wish I knew what we could do to help the. I just believe they are so confused and afraid of dying, they are in a constant state of panic when they feel they are alone. But, we cannot be there every minute and if you don't get your rest, you will not be able to help care for your mother. I admit having them live with you is the worst case. They are so Dependant on us but yet want ot de independent. It seems to be a non-win situation since they are so anxious and afraid. My concern and prayers are with you and your family. I know you must feel so worn out. I hope you have the opportunity to take time for yourself. It is essential if you are to be her caregiver in your home. God bless you for all you are doing and the sacrifices you are making to take good care of your mother. I had no idea it could get his difficult to care for them but it is a tough job in which one seems to appreciate and the more you do the more they expect. I feel older than my mother at times with my own health issues. Life is tough even under the best circumstances. Someone recently told me we are the 'Sandwich Generation" between caring for our family and our elderly parents we have no life, we are sandwiched in between all the problems and tough situations that offer no answers for us caregivers and I don't want to lose my mother, this hurts me so much.
My warmest wishes and Hugs,
Sunny:)
I don't know if she drinks wine, but my mom has a small glass of wine in the evening and this knocks her out so she sleeps through the night.
Your last option may be to give her a Tylenol pm, melatonin, or ZZZ-Quil which can also help her sleep thru the night.