If you would say " It's not your problem"!! I might say "Yes and No." I'm a private caregiver and work independently for many years. My concern is a 95 years old lady lives by herself at cross street from my home at this moment. I just found out about her from her neighbor that she did move in to AL for a month ago, then she did check herself out and came home. I only seen her a couple of time in last week since she is at home. Her next door neighbor knew I have been doing caregiver business so she was start talking to me about her 95's friend(Eva)....Same day at late evening I saw her sliding door was wide open, she came by the door and let me inside. She was little confused but when I asked her daughter's phone # She gave to me without looking from phone book!! I never met Eva's family, but I called her daughter . She was so frustrate about her Mom!! But Eva needs some ADL.... What shall I do? If her family will not step up I will call APS.???
Meanwhile, based on how things look to you, you can set yourself a mental deadline: if nothing has changed for the better by such-and-such a day/time, you're calling whether the family likes it or not.
You're a good neighbour. The old lady is lucky to have your concern.
When you see how Eva is really doing you should call her daughter again and see how she would like you to help. Don't rush to call APS in unless you find conditions that can not be ignored. Age alone is not a bar from living alone and maybe she found life in an institution to be too organized.
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