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Is she caring for your Father in Law? Is she doing a good job? Maybe you can not do anything right now. Or do you think he is in danger of any kind? Mental, physical, is he left alone? Is Mother in Law taking any of Father in Laws medications? If so you / your husband might have to obtain Guardianship in order to ensure that he has proper care, possibly a safe place to live. If your husband does not want to deal with this or admit that this is happening it might take a call to Adult Protective Services. This will be a difficult call to make but often it takes a catastrophic incident to force families into action and you do not want either of them injured to make people realize that help is necessary.
The first person to worry about is the person with Dementia that can not look after himself. This person needs to be safe, cared for.
The second person to deal with is the one that is making the choice to abuse drugs. If he is "of sound mind" there is not much you can do unless and until she accepts the fact that she needs help and is ready to accept the help. Again often a catastrophic event will make that happen.
I take it that English may not be your first language--so I am having a hard time understanding your question.
If your mother in law is bedbound, there's no way she can be getting pain killers that are "dangerous" to her. Perhaps you are thinking that Ibuprofen, Tylenol and aspirin are all painkillers and can be abused. These are NOT the pain killers that people worry about (although too much of any of these will make you sick).
Sounds like you need to call APS (Adult Protectice Services) right away and have your in laws checked to see if they should continue to live alone. I think you can raise the concern about the pain meds--and the inability of an elderly man with ALz. being able to care for his wife.
Your profile is blank, so it’s kind of difficult to give advice since your question also gives no details. Are they living with you? Are you their sole caregiver or does your husband and his family pitch in? How does your mother-in-law get the medication? Does she go to different doctors who all prescribe painkillers for her? Does she pick them up herself? Is she violent? Are you afraid she will harm herself or someone else? Does the rest of the family know she’s addicted? Does she go to these doctors by herself?
You will need to find the prescription bottles.and get the names and numbers of the doctors. Call them and explain to them that your MIL has become addicted to these medications. When she goes to the doctors, send a note ahead of time that they are not to prescribe any further painkillers because she is addicted. It would help if your husband would support you. His mother may need to be hospitalized to break the addiction. If he’s turning a blind eye to this. Go to the rest of his family. You can’t deal with this and your father-in-Law by yourself.
No she can't get out of bed she does her on medicine she has had 2 stock and he hand her bag of medicine and he is 80 and has to change her daiper she know when she uses the daiper she just won't eat pill that all she wants he is now compaing about his back I told him he might have a pull muscle he won't send her no her children do won't to look after her
Dwalya, you need to call Adult Protective Services in your city and ask them to come out and asses the situation. These 2 people should not be on their own, alone. Your FIL should not be taking care of her. He is too old and he has already hurt himself. It’s hard enough for a young person to be a full time caregiver. She needs to be someplace and he might need that too.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Or do you think he is in danger of any kind? Mental, physical, is he left alone? Is Mother in Law taking any of Father in Laws medications?
If so you / your husband might have to obtain Guardianship in order to ensure that he has proper care, possibly a safe place to live.
If your husband does not want to deal with this or admit that this is happening it might take a call to Adult Protective Services. This will be a difficult call to make but often it takes a catastrophic incident to force families into action and you do not want either of them injured to make people realize that help is necessary.
The first person to worry about is the person with Dementia that can not look after himself. This person needs to be safe, cared for.
The second person to deal with is the one that is making the choice to abuse drugs. If he is "of sound mind" there is not much you can do unless and until she accepts the fact that she needs help and is ready to accept the help. Again often a catastrophic event will make that happen.
I take it that English may not be your first language--so I am having a hard time understanding your question.
If your mother in law is bedbound, there's no way she can be getting pain killers that are "dangerous" to her. Perhaps you are thinking that Ibuprofen, Tylenol and aspirin are all painkillers and can be abused. These are NOT the pain killers that people worry about (although too much of any of these will make you sick).
Sounds like you need to call APS (Adult Protectice Services) right away and have your in laws checked to see if they should continue to live alone. I think you can raise the concern about the pain meds--and the inability of an elderly man with ALz. being able to care for his wife.
I wish you luck. They do need help.
You will need to find the prescription bottles.and get the names and numbers of the doctors. Call them and explain to them that your MIL has become addicted to these medications. When she goes to the doctors, send a note ahead of time that they are not to prescribe any further painkillers because she is addicted. It would help if your husband would support you. His mother may need to be hospitalized to break the addiction. If he’s turning a blind eye to this. Go to the rest of his family. You can’t deal with this and your father-in-Law by yourself.