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My 95 year old father refuses to bathe and it is getting bad. He does not need assistance and we have a walk in shower/tub. Nothing seems to work. help, anyone?
I've got the exact same problem with my 85-year old father. He is sooo stubborn! We've tried everything, from shame to flattery. But, one thing he loves to do it go out to play cards. I take him to euchre tournaments about twice a week. I only ask him to bath once a week, but can't even seem to get him to do that. He will even lie to me, but I can tell when I get there to pick him up because he STINKS! Even when he claims to have "washed up at the sink". He won't use soap, and that just does not get a body clean!
FInally I had to do something drastic on Monday night. I was on my way to pick him up for his euchre tournament. I asked him if he bathed, and he promised me that he did. When I arrived, the odor hooked me in the nose as soon as I walked in the door. I looked in his walk-in tub and found it dry as a bone. I confronted him, and he admitted it but still was uncooperative. For the first time ever, I walked out and left him at home and went to play cards alone. I think this really shook him up. The bad thing is, I felt really super guilty the whole night! I felt horrible doing that to him, and I dreaded the thought if anything happened to him between now and the next time I can take him out again.
Well, tonight we go out again. I called him and he agreed to get IN the bath-tub and wash up with SOAP. Now he KNOWS that I will leave him home if he does not comply. We shall see if the "tough love" approach finally does the trick!
Thanks so much for your input! Unfortunately it is no longer an issue since my father passed away recently at the age of 96. I miss those little things now..
He is just stubborn. I tell him he smells and threaten him with not going out to eat, which he loves. He has gotten worse lately. I may have to hire someone to come in and give him a sponge bath (male).
My dad is also resistant to showering, but he does wash up in the sink. I consider the 3 showers he's had in the past 15 months major victories!!! Perhaps once you refuse to take him out, and he believes you, he will agree. If not, I certainly empathize with you!
Would flattery work? Dad why would such a handsome man want to stink? I do know if it looks like I am trying to tell my Dad what to do he will never do as I want, but if I tell him you are a grown able to make your own decisions, and shut up about it. in a few days he comes around. Also I learned from a very wise woman. Never tell him what to do, ask him always using you in the question. For example, Do YOU want to get a sponge bath or take a shower? This way it's his decision not your nagging.
I feel for you. My 92 year old Dad has taken one shower in the last six months. If I get him a full sponge bath once a week, it's a miracle. I refuse to stress about it. I can't force him. I follow him around with neosporin. If I see a break in the skin or a bruise I put it on his skin. When he bitches I reply if you would get a bath I wouldn't have too.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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FInally I had to do something drastic on Monday night. I was on my way to pick him up for his euchre tournament. I asked him if he bathed, and he promised me that he did. When I arrived, the odor hooked me in the nose as soon as I walked in the door. I looked in his walk-in tub and found it dry as a bone. I confronted him, and he admitted it but still was uncooperative. For the first time ever, I walked out and left him at home and went to play cards alone. I think this really shook him up. The bad thing is, I felt really super guilty the whole night! I felt horrible doing that to him, and I dreaded the thought if anything happened to him between now and the next time I can take him out again.
Well, tonight we go out again. I called him and he agreed to get IN the bath-tub and wash up with SOAP. Now he KNOWS that I will leave him home if he does not comply. We shall see if the "tough love" approach finally does the trick!
I feel for you. My 92 year old Dad has taken one shower in the last six months. If I get him a full sponge bath once a week, it's a miracle. I refuse to stress about it. I can't force him. I follow him around with neosporin. If I see a break in the skin or a bruise I put it on his skin. When he bitches I reply if you would get a bath I wouldn't have too.