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Is your parent mobile? Does your parent wish to take a bath/shower? What are his/her illnesses? If he/she doesn't want to bathe, why not? What kind of tub do you have? Would your parent need assistance in the tub/shower? Is this a mom or a dad? Are you a son or a daughter?
I am the daughter and I am taking care of my mom. She has no physical problems, some memory issues. She has access yo both tub, shower and bath wipes but hasn't used any in over a year, any but insists she does. She doesn't smell bit it seems unsanitary. Shouldn't I insist?
I haven't been on here for very long, but that is sure one recurring question that comes in here.
My answer is that you don't. Give the person a thorough sponge bath sitting down. Have them stand up just to do their private parts. Powder and lotion them up. Use a big absorbent towel to cover their shoulders and a very wet washcloth to shampoo their hair. Works fine.
You couldn't DRAG my mom into a shower or bath tub. The water is either too hot or too cold. The splash of the water (shower) is terribly uncomfortable. She would (and has) hollered to high heaven when I thought, silly me, I'll just throw her in the shower.
Sometimes, mom doesn't even want a sponge bath. (I have a caregiver come once a week for $30 to do that.) When she gets THAT way, I remind her that she's stinky. ;) Last time, she didn't want the aid to wash her private parts. I tried to talk her into it . . . she'd have none of it . . . so I said, "Okay, Dee (the aid). Don't worry about it. I'll have Tom do it later." !!!!! Guess what? She let her finish. ;)
It is unsanitary and while I don't think elderly people need a shower/bath everyday I think once a week is necessary. And I'd be willing to bet that once she has a shower or a bath she'll feel so much better. Everyone does.
It's a delicate situation when trying to get an elderly parent into the shower. The parent may not want us, their grown children, to see them naked. They may be embarrassed. Or they may not feel up to it physically. If you've tried to get your mom to bathe, with your assistance, and she just puts her foot down hire a bath aide (go through her Dr. to get one) to come to the house and give your mom a once over. Medicare will pay for it. And when bath aides bathe someone it takes, like, 10 minutes. Bada bing bada bang and done!
When I cared for my dad bathing was non-negotiable. I couldn't get him to take a shower, he refused my assistance, I even broke down and told him that his not showering was unhygienic and gross all to no avail. I got a bath aide to come over and after the shower he felt so much better! She even shaved and trimmed his beard.
As caregivers we have to compromise on a lot of things and let go of a lot of things but bathing, to me, isn't a compromise. It's essential.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Is your parent mobile?
Does your parent wish to take a bath/shower?
What are his/her illnesses?
If he/she doesn't want to bathe, why not?
What kind of tub do you have?
Would your parent need assistance in the tub/shower?
Is this a mom or a dad?
Are you a son or a daughter?
My answer is that you don't. Give the person a thorough sponge bath sitting down. Have them stand up just to do their private parts. Powder and lotion them up. Use a big absorbent towel to cover their shoulders and a very wet washcloth to shampoo their hair. Works fine.
You couldn't DRAG my mom into a shower or bath tub. The water is either too hot or too cold. The splash of the water (shower) is terribly uncomfortable. She would (and has) hollered to high heaven when I thought, silly me, I'll just throw her in the shower.
Sometimes, mom doesn't even want a sponge bath. (I have a caregiver come once a week for $30 to do that.) When she gets THAT way, I remind her that she's stinky. ;) Last time, she didn't want the aid to wash her private parts. I tried to talk her into it . . . she'd have none of it . . . so I said, "Okay, Dee (the aid). Don't worry about it. I'll have Tom do it later." !!!!! Guess what? She let her finish. ;)
Whatever works!
It's a delicate situation when trying to get an elderly parent into the shower. The parent may not want us, their grown children, to see them naked. They may be embarrassed. Or they may not feel up to it physically. If you've tried to get your mom to bathe, with your assistance, and she just puts her foot down hire a bath aide (go through her Dr. to get one) to come to the house and give your mom a once over. Medicare will pay for it. And when bath aides bathe someone it takes, like, 10 minutes. Bada bing bada bang and done!
When I cared for my dad bathing was non-negotiable. I couldn't get him to take a shower, he refused my assistance, I even broke down and told him that his not showering was unhygienic and gross all to no avail. I got a bath aide to come over and after the shower he felt so much better! She even shaved and trimmed his beard.
As caregivers we have to compromise on a lot of things and let go of a lot of things but bathing, to me, isn't a compromise. It's essential.