For the first time in 20 years I am planning to go away in a month.
The problem is that where I will be going has no cell service anywhere!
Yes, the house has a landline phone which I will give the nursing home.
I know she will fall during the time I am away- she falls a lot- and is later stage Alzheimers.
What instructions should I set up if she needs to go to hospital while I am gone?
When my dad went to the hospital they didnt do anything for him unless I advocated and pushed.. They kept not entering into the computer the dna/dni and other instructions.
Cripe, I am not going to be sitting at the house all day, What have you guys done?
( being a caregiver, I used to hate reading about people getting away, so I understand if you feel that way.... one day you will get away too)
Two tears ago, my brother and i were both going to be far-away on vacations. We had a long hard conversation about mom ( vascular dementia, chf, pleural effusions, several bouts of pneomia eac year). Each hospitalization made her worse. Although she is eligible for hospice, we're not there yet. We made sure that NH understood that they should treat what they could in-house, and if mom was in significant pain and or distress, morphine was available.
It isn't a perfect solution, but we're finding that it's mostly about " good enough" at this stage of the game. We're no longer treating things, we're managing her conditions. Less is more.
Seriously consider hospice because this will give you another set of eyes to watch and staff will call their nurse when there is an accident and the nurse will probably go to the ER and advocate for Mom. Hospice nurses can be like Mama bears protecting their patient's rights.
You don't have to wait to call hospice you are already doing palliative care they won't do anything different.
Enjoy your trip and don't worry about what might happen. It will happen anyway whether you are home or not.
Leave a message where you are staying about your daily plans and the police will probably come and find you. Everything will be OK, just relax.
How long was she laying there? oh well.
Baba- not cold, just real. It's the inbetween time that is difficult.... thank goodness my dad went quickly.... I wish he would just 'grab' her and take her too (ya right) They know there is no one else (even though there sort of is) because no one else calls or visits.
the time she cut her head is when i said no to the hospital- she was perfectly fine, they just needed the permission not to, and treat "in house".
but i will check on all the other things you mentioned .
lol about police
this is the type of stuff I will be (possibly) not getting the calls for. They asked if there is someone else to contact when i am gone - Ha thats a joke.
I have asked twice for a form to sign for the dr about not transporting her unless emergency. this all bites.
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