Any advice on this situation with my mother who has significant alzheimers and the continuing negativity. SHe has several health issues and AD and is on meds for depression and now one for her aggresive behavior exhibited to professionals but it's the daily living with her ( in my home) and her very negative behavior. My two teens do not want to be around her and honestly I don't want to be around either. When outside I can say what a beautiful day and a nice breeze and her response it's cold and frowns so I offer to move her chair to the sun and she says no so I say walk into the yard and get some sunshine and she says she cant her foot hurts...... but this is the tip of the iceberg we have had some rough days the past week just yelling at me or my husband and I just ignore it knowing its the diesease but can only take so much. Advice?
It works on every other person, so I'm wondering if it could help some here. Eye contact is the most reinforcing behavior, and the withdrawal of eye contact is the most effective way to extinguish unwanted behaviors. So I'm wondering if it would help to immediately withdraw eye contact and attention when confronted by negative behaviors?
If nothing else, it might help you! LOL!
To the first post she is on Wellbutrin, Lortensin for high blood pressure and Chlorpromaz ( generic I think) for her mood as I was told by one AD worker she has aggressive behavior. I think I will ask the dr about her meds and if there is anything else as I was also told if she were in a home they wouldn't put up with what I am having to put up with and would medicate her more.
I use to take her out more with us but got so tired of hearing her regrets for going out with me and it was too short of a trip to the store etc..etc.... I was trying to take her and include her in my life but there was always a problem with what I was doing so I quit taking her and just take her out for herself but still not enough appreantly.
My dad was like this - long before he was old, so I do understand. They are miserable and they take hostages. As miserable as they make us, they must be 100 times more miserable themselves. I can't imagine a life like this.
I did learn to just walk away when Dad would harp on the negatives endlessly. Didn't argue - it would have set him off and given him a target- I just walked away. Kind of like a child having a tantrum - how much fun can it be if there is no one to witness it? :)
I'm so sorry.