The judge said I have to have this done due to not having two signatures diagnosing my Mother with dementia. I only have one.
Well I went and paid a lawyer and went to the place they commit her at and the sheriffs department will have to pick her up once the senior pchyc floor at the hospital has a room and they will evaluate her and report back to the judge. Then he will give me guardianship.Then I can put her in a dementia section of a good nursing home.
I am going to have my POA done as I never want my kids to have to go through this with me if I get mentally incompetent. It’s awful. The guilt is agonizing. She won’t accept any medical help and is very delusional, angry and confused.
Now, you talk about guilt. I am an only child and still working at 53. Perhaps that's why she doesn't call.
It's so tough sometimes:(
When I was younger, I had a Long Term Insurance policy. My husband died and his income stopped and that was one of the first things I had to give up. I was not aware I could sell it. Should be a law that they tell you this.
I have cared for my husband, provided for my children and now it is time for me to move to Independent Housing. I have very good medical insurance and will fight to keep that going. Until my money runs out I will be responsible for my housing and costs. When it runs out my children who have done well, have promised me I will not have any issues in staying in the Independent living. This all involves moving AGAIN. Sold my home a few years ago.
My only prayer is that God takes me in the next 2 to 4 years. That will be my daily prayer from now on. I will keep my mind active. I paint and my final project is a painting for each of my children and grand children. Please Lord keep my mind SOLID.
Life is not cheap.
I never had to do it but as an Assisted Living owner, sometimes we have to do things that will help our love ones, because no one else will. Some people don't want to or can't deal with a mental ill family member. Good Job for you and I hope it all works out for the better.
God willing, once you're able to push the support and treatment your mother needs (because she is nuts) but refuses (because she is nuts and scared stiff, poor lady), not only you but she too will feel a million times better.
Please let us know how you're getting on.
My mom didn't have to be Baker Acted, but she had dementia and turned into an anxious, paranoid and delusional person. She suffered from “fight or flight” and unfortunately it was mostly fight. She got caught smacking other residents twice. She’d try to trip the aides. I’m lucky she didn’t get thrown out. It was difficult for me to accept that this woman who once ran our family was like a feral cat in a cage.
I’m sending you huge hugs and wishes for some peace in your life soon.
But guilt? Guilt is for those who have done something wrong. You are doing the right thing, in fact the only thing that will keep your mom safe and cared for.
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