My mom is now in assisted living/memory care and they want to keep her out of her room in the common area, because she’s a fall risk, and I get it, but shes a loner and gets upset with all the noise and chaos. She lived on her own for almost 30 years up until just a few months ago. The hospice nurses are advocating for more quiet time in her room for her, but the staff is pushing back. I feel like it’s mostly because it’s easier to keep an eye on the residents if they are all together, but it’s just so overstimulating for Mom. The tv is always loud, and her hearing is perfect. They say she’ll adjust, everyone else there has. Am I expecting too much?
They ended up delivering food to the room. I created activities that gave her something to do on her own. She had only one social activity she loved, (throwing the beach ball)…who knows why that caught her attention.
In the five months she was there, they never really watched her at the level they promised. It was frustrating but the staff was just not capable or numerous enough to do what they had committed to. It is SO much easier when residents are socially comfortable.
I visited every day for a couple of hours, fed her a good meal, took her into the garden, made sure she was bathed, made sure her skin was moisturized, etc. Folding towels, sorting buttons and thread for activities (she was a seamstress). I did much more than I expected to do when I placed her but I did have some relief from taking care of her at home.
ALF’s are not staffed for the introverted residence. They brag about the beautiful dining room and all the activities but for some that is not an advantage.
I am with Lea here about the Hospice Nurses, but I think the Nurses need to talk to the director. As professionals, they know much more than aides. What gets me, its well known that those with Dementia do not do well with too much going on around them.
On normal TV I don't go passed #14. When I stream, I have to put it higher. I am so with ur Mom. I like my peace. I don't do well in chaosv either. I won't go to Texas Roadhouse because they have the music so loud that people need to talk over it. I can't take it. Yes Mom needs to adjust, but they need to adjust to her likes and dislikes. She pays big money to be there.