My step fathers wife has dementia. they are in AL. My brother & I watch over them.
We go to the dining room to eat, she orders a hot meal, every time she returns it because it is cold. The other night we took them to dinner, we all ordered the same thing, 3 of ours was hot, hers, she claims was not, so back to the kitchen it goes. She also said her hot water for tea wasn't hot, it was steaming, so the server brings another one, she just lets it sit, never pours it. The reheated food was brought back, red hot, she takes 2 bites and makes a face and then wants a 2 go box.
She also cleans out everything on the table that is not nailed down.
What is going on here? Drives my brother and I batty, the food is hot the first time it comes out.
Her behavior is odd. Have you discussed this with her doctor? That is the first thing I would do.
Others here will give you information. Best wishes to you and your family.
She chronically complains about her food not being hot enough, too. Same thing............please send this soup back to the kitchen and make it HOT. Yada yada yada. It's just an OCD habit of hers, I believe, designed to drive ME nuts. Who in their right mind likes to burn themselves when they eat or drink??
Anyway, I gave her a cockatiel bird for a gift one year. That bird would fly out of his cage every morning & walk around the kitchen table looking for food. One morning, he flew right into my mother's LAVA hot mug of coffee, burning ALL the skin off of his leg! He almost died. They had to rush him to the vet who prescribed an antibiotic that my dad had to give him 2x a day by SYRINGE!!! He did live thru the incident, and yes, mother still put her coffee in the effing microwave afterwards.
Nowadays in Memory Care, she still insists on BOILING HOT coffee and the care givers laugh it off. They are not about to give her ANOTHER reason to hurt herself. She has plenty of ways to do that as it is, thank you.
If the neurologist sheds any light on this odd behavior, do let me know.....LOL