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My dad's birthday was Boxing Day and that was when we did Christmas. After he passed 15 years ago we really didn't do Christmas any more except I spent many evenings cooking and trucked the feast 200 miles so we could eat at the kitchen table. A life long negative narcissist, my mother wouldn't lift a finger. That continued for the four years after I gave up my home and career to care for her. The only difference was I hauled the food up from the basement.
She went into a nursing home a year ago and, after a lifetime of her nastiness and emotional blood sucking, I visit occasionally to make sure she has all she needs. After a lifetime of misery, frankly, I'm grateful to be rid of her. Moving to my new home on December 27th, I had no Christmas at all last year. This year, my first Christmas out in the country, I'll cook a turkey for me and my dogs, listen to the Christmas music, watch old movies and enjoy the peace and quiet.
Why is it that when we humans are lonely and/or hurting we draw ourselves up into a little ball and hide from family and friends? We do just the opposite of what we should be doing, which is venturing out of our little hidey hole and seek friendly faces. I find that is the tendency with myself when I'm feeling overwhelmed, and I'm married for heavens sake! How much worse for the person who is living alone? If I don't tell my husband how I'm feeling and instead make him a mind-reader, then how is he, or in your case friends/family going to be able to help us get through the funk? Also, it's REALLY hard to be depressed and sad when you're helping other people. I know for me, if I sit and wallow in whatever has gotten me in the 'wallowing funk' by thinking about only MYSELF and the 'woe is me' song is playing in my head, I just get more depressed/sad & worried. But as soon as I get off my rear-end and do something for SOMEONE ELSE, I automatically feel better and more positive. It really is better to give than to receive.
I agree with NancyH. I signed up to do a volunteer shift on Christmas Day and I'm thrilled! Otherwise I'd be in a funk. It's just me and mom...no kids, grandkids, nearby siblings. Very easy to feel isolated and lonely. But not this year! I'm so happy that I have somewhere to go for 90 minutes where I'll be around other people and will be helping them out. And I may look for more opportunities to do more on that day.
As an update, before I got into painting my living room I called my mother (out of duty). First thing out of her mouth was "It's lunch time". Nope, it's 1.30, after lunchtime. Well, she said, I didn't go to lunch, didn't go yesterday either. Well if she didn't do lunch why care what time it is?
Next thing out of her mouth was "I've been thinking (always bad for my health) you're absolutely crazy to have fitted white carpet in the house with dogs". Excuse me? I have wood floors and absolutely no intention of having fitted carpet, white or otherwise.
Next thing was are you coming for Christmas. No - we haven't done Christmas in 15 years (and the food there I wouldn't give to my dogs) so why start now. So, am I coming to your house? No, you can't get in the truck and you can't get into the house .. can't sit up or stand alone and falls asleep every five minutes. Next, well I'm not friendly with anyone here. I guess, but you've never been friendly with anyone in your life, which she acknowledged.
I truly give up. There is no way to deal with a narcissist who has lost his/her mind.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
She went into a nursing home a year ago and, after a lifetime of her nastiness and emotional blood sucking, I visit occasionally to make sure she has all she needs. After a lifetime of misery, frankly, I'm grateful to be rid of her. Moving to my new home on December 27th, I had no Christmas at all last year. This year, my first Christmas out in the country, I'll cook a turkey for me and my dogs, listen to the Christmas music, watch old movies and enjoy the peace and quiet.
Next thing out of her mouth was "I've been thinking (always bad for my health) you're absolutely crazy to have fitted white carpet in the house with dogs". Excuse me? I have wood floors and absolutely no intention of having fitted carpet, white or otherwise.
Next thing was are you coming for Christmas. No - we haven't done Christmas in 15 years (and the food there I wouldn't give to my dogs) so why start now. So, am I coming to your house? No, you can't get in the truck and you can't get into the house .. can't sit up or stand alone and falls asleep every five minutes. Next, well I'm not friendly with anyone here. I guess, but you've never been friendly with anyone in your life, which she acknowledged.
I truly give up. There is no way to deal with a narcissist who has lost his/her mind.