Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
He plans to start driving again!! He has been unable to lift his feet into the car on his own, got a transfer wheel chair and either a nurse of me has to lift his feet into the foot rests. . . AND HE THINKS HE IS CAPABLE OF DRIVING!!!!
Is he physically capable of getting himself into the car? If not then you have nothing to worry about. If yes, make sure he doesn't have access to the keys.
Or make sure he has keys to a car you no longer have,, or that won't fit into the ignition."Oh dear, Ill have to order new keys" This worked with my dad for quite awhile
He gets really mad if I hide the keys, but the one day he did try to back the car out of the garage "for me", he got wedged in and needed my help to lift his feet out. As you can see, he really feels bad about not being able to help me.
corinna, your profile says your husband has hearing loss. People don't lose their license to drive for that, do they? Why was his license revoked? It sounds like he has mobility issues.
He thinks he can drive. Is his thinking impaired in any other ways?
Are there other things he can do to "help you" that would be within his capabilities? Fold laundry, match socks, load the dishwasher, etc. If he is interested in food, could he plan meals for a week and make a grocery list -- not necessarily cook, but be in charge of meals?
My husband mourned the loss of his beloved car and his driving privileges for a year. This is a huge loss for most adults. What helped somewhat was getting a personal mobility scooter. Then he could at least go to the library or the barber on his own. He had dementia and I thought the social worker was crazy to suggest this, but it turned out to be very good for him. If you husband had one he could manage to get into, perhaps he could do errands for you and feel more independent himself.
Is he capable of doing something else around the house that doesn't involve driving? I agree with the posters, a mobility scooter may help him feel less dependent on you. I never took the keys away from my mother, who insists she can drive, but since she "lost" her keys, we simply stated that we only have one set left, and no one wants to walk home with groceries.
But if he really can't lift his feet to get in and out of the car, then he should consider other ways to help and if his plan can cover a mobility scooter, as one poster has suggested, and there are a few places where he can go without you, I think he'd feel better about the limitations he does have.
Is he proficient in online banking? My dad takes pride in online banking and handling the bills; is that something he already does? My dad also "supervises" the lawn maintenance people who cut our lawn and trees so it looks the way he wants it to.
Would you feel comfortable if he used services for the elderly in your area? Some come to the house and pick up the individual in question to take them on the errands they need to do. In my state, there's a lot of older families that use that services to get those daily activities done. It's worth looking into.
Sweet Corina; just tell him the Truth ,he may get mad but ,he'll get over it...and then say it's not fair to other drivers if YOUR REFLEXES are not what they used to be...
I agree encourage him to help you in other ways! Something like honey, that is so sweet if you to start doing our driving again to want to help me. What I could really use help with is this laundry, it never seems to go away. Likewise, is there something else around the house he used to be really good at that you may not need as much help with or something that he can’t ‘mess up’, almost like busy work so he still feels productive and independent. If all else fails, take the appropriate action to have his license suspended/revoked. The doctor can actually communicate that directly to the BMV for you if there is concern he may try to drive in his condition putting himself and others at risk.
I hadn't even thought about a mobility chair - aren't they very expensive? That might help a lot. To Lorraine, yes he does have a valid driver's license. To SMLily, you came up with some great ideas, problem is he is not computer literate and when I suggested I take over paying the bills, he did not argue and I feel a lot better about that. As for the gardening, I have always been the gardener and still am at 77 years old, but we do have a college boy come in the mow during the heavy grass season. To Jeannegibbs, his license was never revoked, and his thinking is not impaired except in regard to this driving situation. Thank you all!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
He thinks he can drive. Is his thinking impaired in any other ways?
Are there other things he can do to "help you" that would be within his capabilities? Fold laundry, match socks, load the dishwasher, etc. If he is interested in food, could he plan meals for a week and make a grocery list -- not necessarily cook, but be in charge of meals?
My husband mourned the loss of his beloved car and his driving privileges for a year. This is a huge loss for most adults. What helped somewhat was getting a personal mobility scooter. Then he could at least go to the library or the barber on his own. He had dementia and I thought the social worker was crazy to suggest this, but it turned out to be very good for him. If you husband had one he could manage to get into, perhaps he could do errands for you and feel more independent himself.
But if he really can't lift his feet to get in and out of the car, then he should consider other ways to help and if his plan can cover a mobility scooter, as one poster has suggested, and there are a few places where he can go without you, I think he'd feel better about the limitations he does have.
Is he proficient in online banking? My dad takes pride in online banking and handling the bills; is that something he already does? My dad also "supervises" the lawn maintenance people who cut our lawn and trees so it looks the way he wants it to.
Would you feel comfortable if he used services for the elderly in your area? Some come to the house and pick up the individual in question to take them on the errands they need to do. In my state, there's a lot of older families that use that services to get those daily activities done. It's worth looking into.