So the holidays are fast upon us and once again I wonder what and how the holidays will bring again this year, My mom has had a rough year, SHe has been in and out of hospitals, nursing homes in the last year. I hate the idea that this year she will be alone. I am not sure if I can deal with her as it is, my children (teenagers) dont really want anyhting to do with her , my husband and her, scary thought there, hate one another, my brother cant be around her or there is a fight. I am over whelmed. I know I dont have much time with her and all she is 73 and has demetria and parkinison's disease. She is a hard person to like and drives everyone around her crazy. what do you do when this happens. She has had to give up a lot and I have to tell her sometimes its for the best, but she doesn't listen. I sold the house , threw stuff away and well she asks for everything , I have no idea where its at. She is in a tiny room at a nursing home and always wants more it seesm. I feel bad as it is , plus I am 1 1/2 hrs away from her and cant just run over. How do I not make my self miserable,
Don't be hard on yourself; you are doing everything you can! Sounds like having Mom around your family would be hard on everyone and wouldn't necessarily make her happier, either.
Blame yourself? Heck no, your turn is coming, you will do this to YOUR kids, and you won't even know you are doing it. That is the single blessing of dementia; you don't know you have it.