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Daughter156, when it comes to showering/bathing and washing one's hair, the older you get the more exhausting it becomes. Believe me I know. I keep putting off that chore for as long as I can.... [sigh]. It feels like a day at the gym !!
Also as we age, some elder become claustrophobic taking a shower. They feel like the walls are closing in one them. Also, some do not like the feel of the shower water hitting their skin. Thus, tub bathes would be better, only if the elder is still flexible enough to get in and out of the tub. Standing up from a sitting position can be a challenge, believe me I know.
Another thing, there is a fear of falling, even if there is a tub mat. If one is using moisturizer type soap, it can cause an oil slick on the tub floor, even on the mat.
For hair washing, I now use the kitchen sink. Have a small bucket that I gather water and pour it over my hair. Shampoo. Rinse. Conditioner if needed. It depends if your Mom is comforting bending her head over the sink. You may need to help her with the bucket water.
Between washings, one can use baby wipes to do a "bird bath" wash. Just find one that Mom likes. There are also shampoo caps can one can buy [never tried them].
I feel since elders are not doing hard labor, once a week bath is fine. If they wear depend type garments, try the baby wipes for that area.
Hope one or two of these suggestions are helpful :)
Extra large body wipes and waterless shampoo and conditioner caps. You can order both on Walmart.com or Amazon and they work great for the in-between times.
With Alzheimer's/dementia at play, many elders DETEST taking showers, for a variety of reasons. My mother was petrified of the "slippery" shower floor (Which was not slippery) and after trying 5 things that didn't work, I hit on the idea of water shoes which did the trick.
You have to figure out why mom isn't bathing..what she's afraid of, and then fix it. Or hire a carer to come in and shower her 2x a week, or even once a week.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet which has the best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia. The reviews for her books are phenomenal b/c they are written in plain English & very easy to read/understand. Her writings have been VERY helpful for me.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Also as we age, some elder become claustrophobic taking a shower. They feel like the walls are closing in one them. Also, some do not like the feel of the shower water hitting their skin. Thus, tub bathes would be better, only if the elder is still flexible enough to get in and out of the tub. Standing up from a sitting position can be a challenge, believe me I know.
Another thing, there is a fear of falling, even if there is a tub mat. If one is using moisturizer type soap, it can cause an oil slick on the tub floor, even on the mat.
For hair washing, I now use the kitchen sink. Have a small bucket that I gather water and pour it over my hair. Shampoo. Rinse. Conditioner if needed. It depends if your Mom is comforting bending her head over the sink. You may need to help her with the bucket water.
Between washings, one can use baby wipes to do a "bird bath" wash. Just find one that Mom likes. There are also shampoo caps can one can buy [never tried them].
I feel since elders are not doing hard labor, once a week bath is fine. If they wear depend type garments, try the baby wipes for that area.
Hope one or two of these suggestions are helpful :)
You have to figure out why mom isn't bathing..what she's afraid of, and then fix it. Or hire a carer to come in and shower her 2x a week, or even once a week.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet which has the best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia. The reviews for her books are phenomenal b/c they are written in plain English & very easy to read/understand. Her writings have been VERY helpful for me.
The full copy of her book is available here:
https://www.amazon.com/Thoughtful-Dementia-Care-Understanding-Experience/dp/B09WN439CC/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468364&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-2
Teepa Snow on YouTube also has some good instructional videos on how to bathe an Elder with dementia.
Best of luck
If she won’t shower, do sponge baths and see if she will allow you to wash her hair in the sink. Some people use dry shampoo on occasion.
Best wishes to you and your mom.
https://www.fda.gov/safety/recalls-market-withdrawals-safety-alerts/unilever-issues-voluntary-us-recall-select-dry-shampoos-due-potential-presence-benzene