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Why are you being asked to fo this? What is the goal for either of you? Are you about to be get roped into some longer role? Did you talk to this person before? Be careful about what you agree to do.
If this person is in the early stages, then you would just treat them like you would any other time you went to visit them. It should be no different just because she now has early Alzheimer's. Whatever you normally talk to her about, you continue to talk to her about those things. And let her lead you. If she wants to talk about her diagnosis, then talk to her about it. Otherwise just enjoy your visit and talk about whatever comes up.
It would be helpful for the forum to have more context about the situation because it will determine what suggestions you get.
Are you related to this person or know them at all? Who asked you to visit this person? Are you a medical professional or work in social services or psychology? Unless you are, or you have some unstated experience in doing this in the past, then why would you be visiting someone you don't know? This would only add to the person's confusion.
I recommend you approach them as you always have in the past. The beginnings of dementia are subtle. This person most likely still has their same thoughts and personality. Just visit and talk about ordinary things.
If they want to share their anger and frustrations over the diagnosis, try to be a good listener and empathetic. You can reassure them that friends and family will always be there for them, but don’t discount their condition. It’s real, it will continue to worsen, and it will have a profound effect on their life. But encourage them to remain as active and independent as possible. My mom continued to live independently for seven years after her diagnosis!
If you’re good with organizational skills, offer to help declutter and organize their home. For instance, Mom stayed independent only because she had her bills on autopay and her meds organized in pill reminder boxes.
I would not do this until you are very clear on exactly what is going on. If the person(s) asksing you to do this are evasive, not forthcoming, unwilling to explain clearly, concisely their need(s) for you to do this, then they never will be able to be honest with you as far as this person's illness and their concerns. Why have you been asked to do this? Why was this not done in a medical/professional setting? Anger, confusion is extremely difficult to deal with, no matter what your health is at the time-I would not do this without getting a lot of help, support, information and certainly not alone. Do not agree to anything. Wait and see what happens. You do not want to be put into a posistion you may not be able to get out of or feel obligated to fullfill.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
And let her lead you. If she wants to talk about her diagnosis, then talk to her about it. Otherwise just enjoy your visit and talk about whatever comes up.
Are you related to this person or know them at all?
Who asked you to visit this person?
Are you a medical professional or work in social services or psychology? Unless you are, or you have some unstated experience in doing this in the past, then why would you be visiting someone you don't know? This would only add to the person's confusion.
Thanks for any extra info you can provide.
If they want to share their anger and frustrations over the diagnosis, try to be a good listener and empathetic. You can reassure them that friends and family will always be there for them, but don’t discount their condition. It’s real, it will continue to worsen, and it will have a profound effect on their life. But encourage them to remain as active and independent as possible. My mom continued to live independently for seven years after her diagnosis!
If you’re good with organizational skills, offer to help declutter and organize their home. For instance, Mom stayed independent only because she had her bills on autopay and her meds organized in pill reminder boxes.
Why have you been asked to do this? Why was this not done in a medical/professional setting?
Anger, confusion is extremely difficult to deal with, no matter what your health is at the time-I would not do this without getting a lot of help, support, information and certainly not alone.
Do not agree to anything. Wait and see what happens. You do not want to be put into a posistion you may not be able to get out of or feel obligated to fullfill.