The NH here in Odessa don't have the best ratings. He constantly ask about his children when don't visit often and try to blame me. It is not about them nor myself, I feel its about getting best for my husband but I am so overwhelmed and tired. Please any advise is appreciated.
As it turned out, I was able to keep him at home, with help, for the entire journey of almost ten years. I am glad. It would have been very hard for me to place him, but I meant my promise and I would have done it if it were best for us.
Eighteen months of marriage is different than thirty years. Your situation is different than mine. I hope that you will bring yourself to the point where you "can" consider a care center (probably memory care) because at some point that may be the best thing for both of you. Whether that point in now is what you have to judge for yourself. How much did the hospital stay and the rehab help? Is he improved enough to make home care possible, at least for a while? Or would it be better to bite the bullet now?
My heart really goes out to you. This is a heartbreaking position for a spouse to be in.
Yes, you CAN! If you are already overwhelmed and tired, please believe me when I say that you have no idea how much worse it would be for you, and ultimately for him, if you were to try to bring him home.
You don't mention his age or yours, but if he's already been diagnosed, I hope the medical/psycholigical evaluators have been honest with you and explained that it's pretty much all downhill from here. And a hard row to hoe.
Look for a proper memory care facility to house him in, let the professionals be his caretakers, and you be his WIFE. You will have plenty to do in just supervising his ongoing care.
After only 18 months of marriage, that this has happened has to be such a jolt to you, changing the entire course of your life and all of your plans. I'm so sorry.