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He is obsessed with his bowel takes castor oil enemas suppositories coloxal tab. and this is every day the castor oil even 2 timed a day today 2 suppositories,
How effected is he in other areas of his life and cognition? Would he listen to his primary doctor, if he told him to stop doing this? If not, it's not likely that you can convince him. Can you prevent him from purchasing these items, throw them out, hide them, etc.? I think that I might have him see a geriatric psychiatrist. Perhaps, it's some form of an obsession that he can be treated for. Also, if he really is constipated, his medical doctor should be able to make some suggestions.
The only other option is to prevent him from doing this. He may not be happy though and who knows how he may react if he is prevented from doing it? Do you have other people around? I'd hate to cause him to become angry or aggressive. I'd likely ask his doctor for guidance on how to proceed.
Eventually, he may forget how to use these things and stop doing it.
I believe he's too old to have "early onset". More likely it is the early stage of dementia. Early onset means occurring earlier in life at a young age.
This happens with so many older people, even when they don't have dementia. The dementia can make it worse. They become obsessed with bowel movements. Many will worry if they don't have one every day. A problem is that they may have had one, but can't remember it, so think they haven't been in days. They can also mistake feelings in their body. For example, my mother can eat a big meal that prompts her bowels to move. She can mistake the feeling for being "stopped up" and needing a laxative. I tell her to wait a bit and she'll end up going without any help. I find that asking her to wait a while is a lot easier than telling her no. (I have to keep the laxatives, because she has been known to take 18 max strength ExLax in a day! I can't trust her with them.)
One thing you can do is start him on a dose of Miralax in his orange juice or other drink each morning. Let him know it will keep him regular. Miralax is mild, so is not harmful. If you grant it the magic of being the answer to his problems, he may accept that it is enough.
Hope you find something that works that doesn't cause laxative dependence. Miralax helps without causing the problems associated with stronger laxatives.
I agree with JessieBelle about the Miralax. It's very mild. It's tasteless and odorless and not gritty. Give it about 12 hours before he'd like to have a BM (depending on when he usually has a BM). So it can be taken at night instead if your husband prefers the morning.
And about bowel movements in general? I have never, ever, ever met an elderly person who was not overly concerned to the point of being obsessed about their bowel movements (I work in healthcare, I don't poll people I meet on the street). I think it goes back to their childhood when a daily bowel movement meant you were the picture of health. Sometimes the body doesn't need to have a BM everyday and that's ok as long as it doesn't turn into chronic constipation. I've had patients who would sit on the commode for hours, straining and pushing. I've had other patients whose days revolved around their bowel movements. Their entire schedule depended on that BM. Still others who would talk my ear off about their BM's. My little old granny! At a birthday dinner as we were all being seated began with the BM talk! It's the darndest thing!
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The only other option is to prevent him from doing this. He may not be happy though and who knows how he may react if he is prevented from doing it? Do you have other people around? I'd hate to cause him to become angry or aggressive. I'd likely ask his doctor for guidance on how to proceed.
Eventually, he may forget how to use these things and stop doing it.
One thing you can do is start him on a dose of Miralax in his orange juice or other drink each morning. Let him know it will keep him regular. Miralax is mild, so is not harmful. If you grant it the magic of being the answer to his problems, he may accept that it is enough.
Hope you find something that works that doesn't cause laxative dependence. Miralax helps without causing the problems associated with stronger laxatives.
And about bowel movements in general? I have never, ever, ever met an elderly person who was not overly concerned to the point of being obsessed about their bowel movements (I work in healthcare, I don't poll people I meet on the street). I think it goes back to their childhood when a daily bowel movement meant you were the picture of health. Sometimes the body doesn't need to have a BM everyday and that's ok as long as it doesn't turn into chronic constipation. I've had patients who would sit on the commode for hours, straining and pushing. I've had other patients whose days revolved around their bowel movements. Their entire schedule depended on that BM. Still others who would talk my ear off about their BM's. My little old granny! At a birthday dinner as we were all being seated began with the BM talk! It's the darndest thing!