He became aggressive thinking I was hurting him. I could not talk him down.
It lasted about half an hour. Held me down , would not let me up.
Afterwards had no memory of what had happened.
Doctor prescribed Divalproex ER 250 mg tab.
Suggestions for any other meds.
Only a doctor should make meds suggestions, you know that.
If it’s all too much, danger to self/others, call 911. Today sounds very dangerous.
I suggest the same to you.
I would not hesitate to call 911.
Put all knives and guns where he can’t reach them, out of the house if possible. Be aware that he doesn’t need a weapon to hurt you. He’s now the weapon.
Some things can’t be fixed by medicine. This may be one of them. I hope you will be okay.
Keep any knives or sharp objects out of his reach. If you have pets, re-home them or guard them with your life. There is no telling what he is capable of now. He’s not the same person you knew anymore, sadly.
Call 911 if this happens again. You HAVE to, for both of your safety.
He held you down for 1-1/2 hours? 90 minutes? That's enough right there. He says he has no memory...
This is not a good situation. My friend's hubby got ALZ. He was THE MOST GENTLE PERSON.. until ALZ... He got violent. He was in a AL, he got violent, and the facility called 911 had him removed before they even called her.
Yes, your time to move him in a facility was that day he held you down for 90 minutes... Now is the time to move him...
Do you have other family members around? You may need emotional backup support... Noting wrong with that. validation...
My aunt 94 just started Quetiapine for confusion, agitation & paranoia. She has senile dementia & insomnia. It started helping her in the third week.
Be careful for yourself. He could hurt or kill you not meaning to. Sleep in a safe, locked room at night.
Get a life alert or a similar product for your safety.
Then see an elder lawyer about having ur assets split up. DHs half will go for his care in a LTC facility. I would not even consider an AL or MC. They are not equipped to handle someone like this. DHs half goes towards his care and when gone, you apply for Medicaid. (Make sure the facility has Medicaid beds) Once DH is on Medicaid, you become the Community Spouse remaining in the home, getting enough or all of your monthly income to live on, and one car. I am just giving you the basics, an Elder Lawyer can take you through your State Medicaid criteria.
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Unless you’re chewing on a plant, nothing you take is “all natural”. Any so-called natural remedy is way more risky than a prescription. You have no clue how it will react and these manufacturers aren’t beholden to any CDC guidelines. Natural does not automatically mean safe… poison ivy is natural but bad for people. OTC and prescribed meds have to undergo testing for years before they’re made available to prescribe to anyone.
It’s true that a medication can do well for one person and not another. That is the trial-and-error aspect. The goal is not sedation; it’s symptom management. Why would anyone deny that to an elder who is mentally suffering?! It’s just as cruel as telling someone with diabetes to just try to get along without insulin. Depression and anxiety are illnesses, just like asthma or COPD or dementia.
I’ve read posts here concerning an aging parent’s depression, and some of the replies I see are so uninformed. Suggesting “take them outside to look at pretty flowers!” or “play music they liked!”. While such actions can be beneficial, they do not treat the issue.
And yes, there ARE many things to treat depression and anxiety. They’re called medications.
" being held down" call 911 immediately and without hesitation to come transport him to ER. You are unsafe and he is unsafe to himself and others.
Now for your medication question, call his PCP immediately and, make the PCP aware of the change, the aggression and, have PCP give you directions.
Get help !