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Is the house willed to you only? Then yes provided they die.
If it’s not and they both die, then on death of them both, the executor of the will is legally obligated to divide the proceeds how your parents saw fit.
"My parents home is under two of my siblings name".
Is this correct?
Caregiving is caregiving.
Property ownership is property ownership.
You have chosen to generously gift your care, time & labour.
I am not a lawyer, but unless at the time they both pass you have a valid tennant lease in place, I cannot see any rights to remain living there. The owners/siblings can sell. You must leave if they want you to. Unless you sign with any new owners to continue renting.
The usual scenario is the home gets sold to fund care costs, if/when facility care is required.
I get this is your home. But my answer is unemotional on purpose. You may benefit from a more practical approach to build steps, now & after caregiving.
You will need your own 'exit strategy' to re-house yourself for starters. Maybe that can become a plan? Saving towards your own apartment?
Looking at your profile, perhaps we'd better clarify.
You have been your parents' primary caregiver for 15 years, but you recently separated from your spouse and moved in with your parents together with your adult son.
Two of your siblings have power of attorney for your parents and manage their finances and other major decisions. Both of your parents have dementia, so it seems reasonable to suppose that you must have moved into their home with your siblings' agreement. What was the understanding you reached with them?
How recent is "recently"?
I'm glad you got away from an abusive marriage, but don't exchange one unacceptable situation for another. As your siblings have power of attorney, providing for your parents' care needs is their responsibility and not yours. It's time to think about how you want to move forward with your life. Don't start out in conflict with the people who (quite correctly) control your parents' finances and will own the property you currently live in, and don't bind yourself to sacrifices you can't afford to make. Do you have any property or income of your own?
"My parents home is under two of my siblings name"
Sounds to me like siblings own the home. Probably done this way so the house does not go thru Probate. Sorry to say, you have no rights to the home. Upon ur parents death, your siblings can ask you to leave, or if you want to stay, rent from them.
I am with Barb. I think I would be having a talk with the siblings about what happens when parents are not living in the house anymore. Your adult son needs to be holding down a job and supporting himself. Once you know where u stand with siblings, you can plan for ur future.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If it’s not and they both die, then on death of them both, the executor of the will is legally obligated to divide the proceeds how your parents saw fit.
Is this correct?
Caregiving is caregiving.
Property ownership is property ownership.
You have chosen to generously gift your care, time & labour.
I am not a lawyer, but unless at the time they both pass you have a valid tennant lease in place, I cannot see any rights to remain living there. The owners/siblings can sell. You must leave if they want you to. Unless you sign with any new owners to continue renting.
The usual scenario is the home gets sold to fund care costs, if/when facility care is required.
I get this is your home. But my answer is unemotional on purpose. You may benefit from a more practical approach to build steps, now & after caregiving.
You will need your own 'exit strategy' to re-house yourself for starters. Maybe that can become a plan? Saving towards your own apartment?
You have been your parents' primary caregiver for 15 years, but you recently separated from your spouse and moved in with your parents together with your adult son.
Two of your siblings have power of attorney for your parents and manage their finances and other major decisions. Both of your parents have dementia, so it seems reasonable to suppose that you must have moved into their home with your siblings' agreement. What was the understanding you reached with them?
How recent is "recently"?
I'm glad you got away from an abusive marriage, but don't exchange one unacceptable situation for another. As your siblings have power of attorney, providing for your parents' care needs is their responsibility and not yours. It's time to think about how you want to move forward with your life. Don't start out in conflict with the people who (quite correctly) control your parents' finances and will own the property you currently live in, and don't bind yourself to sacrifices you can't afford to make. Do you have any property or income of your own?
You recently separated from an abusive spouse.
You moved in with your parents (along with an adult son).
You provide caregiving to parents but are not paid for this.
You have a problem standing up for yourself.
I hope you have an excellent divorce attorney who will get you a more than fair settlement.
I hope you have or will be getting a job that capitalizes on your talents and pays you well.
I hope you can find a kind and tough therapist who can help you learn how not to accept poor treatment.
Been there, done that.
You deserve better.
Mare a plan, today, to leave your parents' home. Your sibling with POA can pay someone to do the caregiving. You need a job that will pay into SS.
Sounds to me like siblings own the home. Probably done this way so the house does not go thru Probate. Sorry to say, you have no rights to the home. Upon ur parents death, your siblings can ask you to leave, or if you want to stay, rent from them.
I am with Barb. I think I would be having a talk with the siblings about what happens when parents are not living in the house anymore. Your adult son needs to be holding down a job and supporting himself. Once you know where u stand with siblings, you can plan for ur future.