I've been taking care of my mom for 4-5 years. She basically required 24-7 care . She is able to sit up with help, she isn't able to walk, drink, eat by herself. It was getting overwhelming, so I thought about this for a little time and put her in a home in the same town but with the coronavirus they aren't allowing visitors. So they have this one phone call "FaceTime" a week and everytime I've talked to her she is telling me she is not okay! And they are just leaving her in the bed. She didn't look so good when we FaceTime. So I talk to someone and they said she is probably just trying to adjust. It would be different if I could see her so I could know what's really going on. This is so hard I just need any thoughts on it. I have nobody to talk to and its just weighing heavily on me.
Call over to her home and let the charge nurse know that you want regular updates, that you will be calling a lot to check on how your mom is adjusting, and to see if she's eating, etc. That you WILL make a pest of yourself if necessary, because your mom is your #1 priority. In other words, you're not a pushover and won't just curl up and go away if they don't return your calls.
Wishing you the best of luck!!
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